Hey, it's the Dating thread... number 37

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Of we got - all dating chit chat here!

Watch I would be seriously pissed off too. He messed about on Friday and now today. No way was it anything to do with what you said, I've also had the 'I was about to text you when I saw your text, although in my case it was email'. Convenient, no? Delete.

MsA it depends what you want and how he would fit into that, definitely London though.

Super the early requests for pics means that within a couple of emails you will either have a demand for you in your pants or you will get one of his pants with cock on show.

Scatty I joined meetup at new year and have my first thing in a couple of weeks. Not for dating but to meet people and do interesting stuff.

Thanks Mercury, I must say that my thoughts are tending more towards him being genuinely surprised at how well we are getting on, I'm guessing that although this thread is stuffed to the gunnels with intelligent, personable, literate and amusing women, they may be harder to find in OD.

Velvet, London is a 25 minute train journey for me, I reckon it might be a 2 hour journey for him so it's not a great compromise. When I was much younger, a man travelled from London to County Durham, clearly under the misapprehension that I was going to shag him, despite us having snogged once, at a party. We had a huge row and he stormed off in disgust. I don't want a re-run of that.

Wanna hear a funny story about Mr Slow?? No word today, so got suspicious. Googled his phone number and found an ad for something he was selling. Got his surname from that, looked him up on Facebook and what do you know, he has a partner. Most recent photos of them together last weekend. Just call me P.I Dolly

sorry to hear it Dolly but hey...nice detective work!
I must try the phone number google trick!
what're ya gonna do with the cheatin' barsteward??

Thanks, Juliette. I think that what I want is an unpressurised, relaxed and mutually enjoyable meeting, allowing us to decide if there's anything worth pursuing. I'm in the fortunate position of not investing a great deal in OD because I still love Maris because I'm using it as a diversion.

Hi everyone

I havnt been on the thread for ages as I've had nothing to report, thought I would pop in and say hi

Not sure if anyone can remember mr rich? We met when he was working at a dating event I went to, starting chatting, we got on really well, speaking nonstop for the week or two before our date, had a date I got drunk and slept with him!

Then after that he went quiet then we stopped talking! Now he had started talking to me again and saying he wants to make it upto me!

Well there is no one on my dating horizon right now, do you think I should go out with him?

We do get on well and I would like to have someone around right now. But I keep wasting time in mr wrongs all the time

Moving, did he give a reason why he vanished? In this case I might give him another chance but would refrain from sleeping with him again for a while.

moving no, I wouldn't. What if he goes quiet again? If you do, go for a drink and do not sleep with him. Make him make it up to you.

dolly top marks! Did you meet mr slow? Did he give any indication?

I'm not convinced fireman is 100% available. I checked his pof profile and he doesn't want any form of commitment or relationship which in my opinion speaks volumes when a man writes it. There are also other signs.

He said he felt it was moving too quickly! Which it was due to him calling and texting me all the time before we had our date.

Then he went quiet after.

He did say he would make it upto me and said he would like to take me for dinner and drinks.

moving he's after a shag. He's ' going to make it up to you' with his penis

If you fancy a shag, then fine, shag him. But he'll disappear again.

Actually; bloke is full-on. You meet, you have sex, he drops you like a brick and then strolls back into your life promising to 'make it up to you' riiiiiiiight.

Dolly, that's impressive. I consider myself an expert internet stalker and have never thought to google someone's phone no! (although tbh the sort of bloke I date is so thick as to drop themselves in it really quickly if they're up to no good). Smart move. What are you going to do now? Anything, or just ignore? I would be tempted to tell him you've caught him out.

Moving, that was a while ago wasn't it? I'd be sceptical he had something else on the go at the time, that's fallen through and now he's coming back to you. If it had been within a couple of weeks I'd say maybe consider it, but not after all this time. Plus you may well find he takes you out and you never hear from him again, then he's done it twice. I'm not sure I cba with him.

Dolly! for fucks sake what the hell is wrong with all these idiots? God.

Just goes to show what wolfandi was saying is right. About online dating generally being open season for marrieds and attached men to get their text and real life encounters and seemingly few are genuine. ffs.

Moving, go for it if you want but be prepared for the same thing to happen

Haha I think it's quite funny really. I'm not going to do anything, just ignore! I feel for his other half, she gushes about him on her page, very lovey dovey stuff. But unfortunately she'll probably find out he's a wrong un one day!
Shame cos I really liked him but it was only one date. Onwards and upwards!

Moving I wouldn't, the way to make it up to you would have been to get in touch specifically to say sorry, that very phrase 'make it up to you' is just so 'I can buy you off'. It also makes out he is contrite when in reality it means he can give you the idea that then you owe him for a few glasses and some pork scratchings.

Scatty do you mean you think The Fireman is involved with someone else?

OD sucks doesn't it 80% of the time. The alternative is to just get on with your life and try and socialise. Forget about meeting a man and leave it to fate, meeting them in the supermarket or restaurant.

dolly well done for finding out the truth! what a rat!!! Hope you are okay

Christ almighty, given that I've never seen any bloke in my local supermarkets I's look at one let alone twice I think I might be single forever!

I looked at meetup...not much in my area. There's probably more if I go into London, but in my actual town, nothing. Meh.

That should be I'd look at once!

Velvet, it was meant with tongue in cheek.

Maybe arrange a night out on the town then, once every few weeks. This is what I might start doing.

Scrazy I left it to fate + doing the thing where you ask around with friends, accept all invitations, join things. One day at work, just to see I walked all 15 floors of my building with a male, gay colleague* just to see if there were any possibilities who were single that I could manipulate a casual meeting with. This was in an office of professionals, nothing. So OD it is unfortunately.

*who had already eyed them all up.

Well I'm still thinking about it at the moment! I wouldnt sleep with him if we met up!

But as snape put it I really could do with a shag

dolly good investigation skills

Bloody hell! What a load of Dickheads about You have all had lucky escapes.

Scrazy I didn't think you were serious...but tbh, there really are some rough blokes who shop in our Morrisons. Might have to try Waitrose.

Problem I have with nights out is I always meet men. But leery, crude men who think I'm easy. Not the sort of men who are interested in anything I have to say.

I wonder where clever single men who might appreciate me hang out? (assuming they even exist of course!)