Hey, it's the Dating thread... number 37

[lubeybooby]

Of we got - all dating chit chat here!

velvet hugs. Exactly. (Am aware I'm possibly getting more out of the hug than you just now....)

I'd run away to the circus, but I'm not sure they'd have me back,

no, i dont think any of us do. and its when its shit like this that its just worse, because its not what any of us planned.

makes you want to scream ' i didnt want this' but, it is what it is.

I think the removal of cables is good. Dont give them back for a long time.
I would speak to the school, they should help.
let them have their phones, but only £1 credit or something.

What bugs me more than anything is that they lied.

This morning I left at 7.30. They were half asleep. I rang them from the bus at 7.50. DS1 said he was just getting up (this is fine, they don't need to leave til 8.25).

At 11am I got a message from the school that they weren't in.

At 11.01 I phoned DS1. Who answered, half asleep. I told him to get his arse up and get to school immediately.

At 11.10 I phoned again, and at 11.20. At 11.20 I spoke to both DS1 and DS2 they assured me they were up and leaving for school.

And they never fucking went.

I'd actually be less furious if they'd refused to go, rather than telling me they were going and then not doing it.

sorry, thats awful, i can more than understand. i dont have any clue what its like.... must be really difficult.

Oh the stress of going to work and phoning until someone picks up then phoning again to make sure they've left. I have no words of spadvice, but by Christ I understand.

Lodger has Just told me he's going back to Italy. Owing £400.... I might have a friend lined up for his room a few days a week (she's lovely and lives in Manchester but will be working in London 3 days a week) so while I'm 400 down, I don't have to have the conversation to chuck him out.

Oh Snape and Velvet, big hugs to you both.

Snape the phoning gets me. Every time DS1 doesn't answer l feel the stress ball knotting in my stomach. Will he answer next time? Or the one after that? Or just not bother? Aaagh!

If I had the money I'd send them to boarding school like a shot. I'd miss them like hell but at least they'd be at school when they should be.

I'm really sorry for being so mememe.

I had a really good day today, work is going brilliantly and I might have indulged in some flirting with someone young enough to be my son and then I come home to this...

In the words of Bridget Jones, as one part of your life comes together another spectacularly falls to pieces. It's nowhere near that extreme I know, but (probably like everyone else) I feel I am forever spinning plates and hoping none of them drop.

Hello ladies, I have lurked on the dating threads before but have never had any reason to post substantially. Apparently I am invisible to the male population? Anyway, I'm popping in again to see if I can gather up the momentum to try again. My confidence is dented at the moments:(

Hello PinkPeanuts :)

Confidence is a bugger. If you want a hand with a profile just shout... I'll be around tomorrow

Hi Peanuts - some of the OD stuff can be quite a confidence boost and great fun but as you know there are some odd people out there, so it does help to have a thick skin and/or the ability to not get emotionally involved too soon.

Are you thinking of putting a profile up?

Ah thank you Lubey, very kind of you!

Western I have a profile up on POF that was drawing ZERO attention. I hid It a couple of days ago bupecause I think I need to revise it and add some new pics. But I've dabbled in OD for a few years on and off and only ever managed to secure one date- pathetic I know. I have friends who seem to go on strings of dates or have found long term relationships so I know OD works, it just never seems to work for me. I have been single for almost 5 years now which I think is quite a long time in your 20s when you're supposedly at the peak of your dating career or whatever. Men just never seem to be attracted to me and the very few that have been have been absolutely awful examples of human beings (if you knew DDs father you'd know how true that is!).

I'm honestly at a loss and wonder if I should just accept that happily ever after isn't on the cards for me.

Hi pink if you like I'll have a look at your profile too.
Have you got photos up?

Hi pink. I'll give a blokes opinion too if you're feeling brave .

Can I have a sharp kick from someone? I'm having a woe is me evening. I'm another with an upcoming birthday and I just want to ignore it. I tried to update my pof profile with more pictures (I only have one that I took myself), and realised the last time I was included in anyones photos was last May. Any even before that there's barely a picture. I live alone much of the time and am usually a lone worker - just feeling a bit demoralised with life in general.

I'll snap out of it soon enough. In the meantime I'm having to stop myself talking with utter idiots on pof just to have some contact with people. I know thats a reaaally foolish path to take....wet fish needed....

Sounds like you could at least do with some reassurance PinkPeanut even if no pointers

wolf I haven't been in anyone elses pics erm... since last February, and even then that wasn't actual friends just some vague work shite.

The last time I was in pics with actual friends was my 30th birthday I'm 33 this year

I live alone too (apart DD but don't see all that much of her as she's a busy teen) and also work alone from home 85% of the time.

Please spoil yourself with something nice you want, anything... for your birthday :o

Oh and talk to us instead of PoF idiots

Hi Wolf - I've been there and done that too - find the evenings once the children are in bed can be quite difficult. Got a bit addicted to chatting on PoF at one point. Find some nice ones - I challenge you to try and rustle up at least two decent messages tonight! I chat on here and FB and text a bit too if I'm in that sort of mood.

Some nights I love the peace and quiet though.

Also pink no you absolutely should not just accept that happily ever after isn't on the cards don't give up .
Have you considered another OD site(not POF)?

wolf I won't kick you on principle, although you are welcome to a slap round the face with a wet fish, but wouldn't you prefer a ?
I went on OD in October (successfully as it turned out) I didn't put any pics on my profile so when a chap asked me for a photo I realised the most recent ones of me were at my wedding over two years beforehand!
In the event, I dashed round to my friend who took loads on her phone and I picked out the best.

Thanks Grinchie and bill. I will unhide my profile and let know what it is!

Big hugs to you wolf, I understand exactly how you feel :(

Thank you all so much for being so kind. I don't often wallow, just an off day.

I think I was quite bigheaded when I was first divorced. I assumed I'd be in a relationship again in no time, it would all be wonderful and easy. I couldn't have been more wrong.

Lubey, I'm in a similar position to you. I have my son every other week. Being a teen he's generally out or bedroom dwelling.

Okay OWW - I'll look for two decent messages now (I'm meant to be working - shh.!). Does anyone else feel guilty about showing online if other people you've chatted to are online? I know it's not at all rational though.

Grinchie, that's a good idea. I'll get in touch with my friend who is also on pof and suggest we take some pics of each other. Good thinking, thank you.

throws self in heap on sofa

can I join you guys? I joined an online dating site on Saturday and cancelled my subscription today, it was beyond awful. Please tell me they are not all like that...... she says with a hint of panic

Which one did you join? And what happened?

Wolf and Pink I'd also be happy to have a look at your profiles if you would like another opinion.

Wolf meanwhile, there is a fish on my MN profile for when the time comes

it was one based around a sporting interest (don't want to say too much in case I out myself) but none of the people bar one, who contacted me had any similar interest. Not that that is important within itself but it made me wonder why they would choose such a specific dating site.

I was contacted by people 40 years older than me as well as significantly younger 'because they were looking for an older woman', most couldn't spell or string a sentence together, loads couldn't even be bothered to message and just winked at me.....it was all so depressing!

Keep maybe try joining a free site and just treat it as a bit of a laugh at first, it can take a while to develop the knack of finding or attracting what you're looking for