Hey, it's the Dating thread... number 37

[lubeybooby]

Of we got - all dating chit chat here!

it's the patriarchy watch we're not prepared to just be little more than convienient receptacles for their fluids, so they get all outraged & we get labelled prudish or hard work

I think the low mood has been brought on my imminent birthday (am not stealth-birthdaying) need to go to work & then home to cook and clean & no-one that belongs to me to buy me something stupid & frivilous. think I will go home & make quorn pie, then have a bath & go to bed to watch doctor who.

its birthdays and xmas that gets me. because, like you say, noone to buy you something stuid and frivilous, or whatever. it makes you feel very alone. One year i pretty much sobbed all the way round the zoo with dd. Not even any friends text. it was shit. I felt very insignificant.

They are not friends i bother with now.

so, yeah, its rubbish somes times, quorn pie and just go to bed. fuck them.

I love that chocolate, watch. Yum :o

My snow cat completely failed by the way. Snow too powdery and just would not stick [hmph]

Snape [hug] [massage] [rum]

Third that, but this year I am going to treat myself to a facial/ massage

The birthday thing used to get me. But now I just buy myself a fuckload of stuff in compensation for it. Works quite nicely as long as no sudden skintness disrupts my plans. I used to resent buying myself stuff but now if I want a surprise I send DD out with a wad of cash to get me something and hide it

DD has said she doesnt like it. which is a bonus as there is more for me :)

snow cat fail :(

we were going to make a snowman. instead we played moshi monsters on the laptop all day. DD said it made me the best mummy and a lovely person, i fear its just one of the reasons why im single.

:)

You must be an aquarian like me Snape! Eccentric, humanist, visionaries...the coolest Star Sign.

As my mum is an aquarian ike Yep. The coolest

Me too! Dunno about being cool though ...

Oh cheer up everyone, it's only 3 weeks until Valentines day and there is nothing better to cheer up us singles

I've never had body issues as such, have been lucky in that respect, although childbirth and age took it's toll somewhat, but still fairly confident. It's the face that I was at the back of the queue for.

skintiness prevails I'm afraid. sodding parents, having sex in april, resulting in my birth at the end of the month after xmas.

all the astrology bollocks is bollocks you know but yes typical Aquarian, humanitarian & weird.

Can I join in with the bad day thing please?

I have just come home and found out neither of the DSs went to school today. I literally lost the plot, screamed, shouted, and stripped their rooms of every game and Xbox related thing.

They couldn't give a shit of course, which is exactly why they don't bother going to school.

We had a huge row about this before Xmas and they swore they would never do it again. And as soon as I even slightly take my eye off the ball they do exactly that.

They are in their rooms cleaning (for which read doing fuck all).

I am trying to calm down.

Bill what a brilliant idea if anyone asks for one in the future. Bikini, lingerie, can I see your bra, oh yes hours of fun

Velvet. I would go ballistic. Bloody hell. I dont have teenagers so have no clue.....
Lady at old work frequently used to hide all their game consols/ phones/ things they loved, at work. As punishment. For weeks

I dont know? An idea??

I went seriously ballistic. I have a sore throat from how loud I shouted.

I've done taking away stuff before. They honestly do not give a solitary shit.

And even if I take them away forever they will just move onto something else.

It is at times like this I wish I had a partner, or family, or someone who could help me. I can't tell the Ex because I will get the blame.

Or could you threaten a childminder and go through the motions of looking for one?
Basically scare the shit out of them then give them one more chance to be responsible while reminding them if they fuck up again they will be with the invented childminder.

??? I have no idea, just trying to help

Velvet phones/handhelds? Cables removed from every device and locked away somewhere for tomorrow maybe. I have put the house router in my handbag and taken it to work in the past.

It is so hard with teens, those days when a Travelodge with the phone switched off seems so attractive.

Nothing useful to say Velvet, apart from I think this may be a common phase with teenage boys - both mine had episodes of this. Nothing I did or said made sod all difference, it's just infuriating, both appear to have grown out of it now. It's times like that when you understand why so many women became addicted to Valium, I'd have given my left arm for a Diazepam prescription spanning the last 17 years.

Pocket money?
Tv?

Stop the lot??

Velvet I'd be really evil and arrange an appointment to see the HT of the school. Then march them both there to apologise in person for truanting.

Truant is a school issue as well so they should back you up.

i like that idea lubey.

along with pulling all the cables out of every damn thing in the house. not for a day, or two. but until they behave.

( work lady at wii in her desk for a month once....)

All suggestions are appreciated :)

I have calmed down a bit now. Some deep breathing and a kitkat or two helped.

I have taken both Xboxes, and all the cables out of their TVs. They cant watch normal TV in their rooms, only DVDs, but cant do that now either. I have got DS2's playbook and the laptop. DS2 also has a desktop computer but he cant use that without the cables.

I can only take away DS1's phone overnight because it's the only way I can contact them whilst I'm at work.

Can't stop pocket money, they don't get it from me.

The school already consider it's my fault that the DSs are not at school so I don't think I will receive any help from that quarter - it's the old 'don't you see them off to school in the morning?' 'oh, you're at work...isn't there anyone else who can do it - partner? grandparents? siblings?....there's NO-ONE??'

by which time I am feeling stabby.

I rather suspect the only thing that would make a difference is the one thing I can't change - not being on my own. Bollocks, why is it so hard?

velvet I sympathise, DS1 &DS2 are now rowing. If I take ds2s side DS1 goes into a sulk, won't talk to me & orders me out of his room. If I take DS1s side (infrequent) DS2 goes into a whine-fest about how unfair it is.

Taking away gadgets in our house results in DS1 running away from home and a night of disruption,

I'm just waiting it out until they leave home, although fuck knows when that will be at the moment given DS1 seldom leaves the house.

I hate my life sometimes. I actually hate it. I don't deserve any of this.

and if they kicked off about it they wouldn't be getting any electronics back until they had done it and done it sincerely.

The school need a rocket up their arse too then. I'd write in ahead of the appointment and explain you need back up and as truant is a school issue that they should also be punishing, the least they can do is support your efforts or at least humour you and sit and look stern while the boys apologise.