Hey, it's the Dating thread... number 37

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Of we got - all dating chit chat here!

men who ask for sexually explicit pictures, well I tend to assume they are looking for 'masturbatory aids' (not the best expression but sounds a bit better than the horrid 'wank fodder' term)
Some women enjoy that kind of interaction, perhaps feel flattered & turned on?
It leaves me cold and I dont do it.

Some men also seem to get a kick out of persuading a woman to send rude pictures if she is reluctant?

Mind you it doesnt seem unreasonable to want to see some sort of body pictures so that you have some idea of body type...I'm happy to send underwear pics for that reason, but always they are always very tasteful/tame

backonline I don't think there is any usual thing, really, or any rules. Sex is so important to me though I like to find out if all is going to be well in that area before I fall for them, so... sooner rather than later. Say, within the first month if I'm in proper dating and behaving mode. 4th/5th date ish, maybe a little bit more.

Personally I am comfortable discussing contraception very quickly. But then it's simple really for me, no glove no love (and that's another thing I've had cause problems before in my run of bad luck!) and I would then discuss something other than condoms a bit later down the line if it looked like being a relationship, with a view to being tested and sure we are both clear of any sti's and then ditching the condoms.

48 as I can't see typos, I hadn't noticed and had to stare at it to see what was wrong. It's spelt wrongly anyway as Juliet Montague was taken.

As for Mr Goomed being a crap texter, he chose to use text so imo should get on with it. I almost never initiate it as I can't really be bothered with long text convos.

Back you have sex when you want to, everyone is different. Condoms always unless you have both had an sti test and seen the results so all you need to discuss is who is bringing them (him). No I haven't noticed men getting weirder as they get older, the weird stuff is the ones that watch porn a lot so tends to be younger men who have grown up with it. Kinky I guess is there at any age but I would think they might discover a true kink/fetish as time goes on but again the porn watching might enable it more.

Men over 40 are more likely to have performance/function issues I believe Until recently I'd heard this and didn't know what to expect with older men but tbh the ones I've encountered with performance issues have been those in their 30s or early 40s who smoked and watched too much porn didn't exercise. But then the men I have known who are older have all had a lifetimes regular sport.

ones that watch porn a lot I'm pretty sure that this guy doesn't fall into that category (I guess that you can never be sure though) but the performance issues has occurred to me as we are both more "mature" now :). The was part of the reason for leaving it longer though as I thought that the performance issues may be easier to deal with once you were very comfortable discussing everything together if you see what I mean. I don't think that I'd want to right him off simply for having the odd problem in that area...but if he couldn't talk about it then it would be an issue.

Re photos - I'm not sure that I'd be happy sending any of me without clothes on...I'm not sure that I'd want to get involved with someone who was that bothered about anything other than basic body type (which can be seen through clothing). Given that everything is likely to change as people get older, I'd be afraid that they'd want to trade me in for a younger model if they were that bothered about the sort of detail that you can only see unclothed if you see what I mean.

sounds harsh but if somone smokes & doesnt exercise i'd not even be interested enough to find out if they have 'performance issues' !

mercury - seeing as I am still waiting for Watch to send me her bikini shot that I so reasonably asked for, can I reasonably ask you to send me one of your very tasteful/tame underwear shots to keep me going?

Damn, all of a sudden I am turning into one of 'those' men. Must be lack of Coffee

Actually, I agree with Back - a nice full length shot fully clothed, maybe in a nice dress which could be on the profile in the first place, is quite enough to guage someone's body type without the need to ask for anything more. IF a women OFFERED to send, I guess that's a different matter. Wonder how many men would say no?

Backonline My current partner is 48, non smoker. Perfect working order

My OD encounter was 51, smoker. Again perfect working order.

Previous to him 41. Only smoked when I was around. Non porn watcher. Had some performance issues due to confidence. Improved greatly. Would of got there if he hadn't gone to oz.

My ex 45, smoker. No problems in 25yrs.

No idea where the stastics come from.

I've never been asked to send rude pics, ever. Been in text convo's in the past and once they start asking for more pics I just stop engaging. Had a couple of cock pics (one RL 'friend') and one on POF. I wrote back amazed...........that he managed to get it past the censors on the site as he certainly didn't have my numbers.

Mrs A, I would be suspicious of a guy who wanted to travel so far just to see me. Why would anyone want to go out there way like that, unless it's one of those emotional long standing affairs where they are just sure you are the one for them.

No news from me, getting there but had a blue Monday wobble last night. Feel tons better today and the sun is shining.

Voice that's exactly the type of pic I have lined up for my next journey into the depths of PoF. Full lenth fully clothed that is, including nice dress!

Agree with Juliette (again) about the ones with issues being the ones who watch too much porn. Does seem to be a definite link. Not noticed any link with smoking but drinking can have the old cliched effect!

Oh and men over 40 have worked well for me. Did have one who had problems but he was well in his 50's. I cured him over time and he never looked back, moved on instead .

All this sex talk is making me a bit nervous about the prospect of taking my clothes off! Can I ask a body question?? What are people's tummys like? Mine is a real issue for me. I have lost a lot of weight recently and feel so much better about myself. I am a 12 sometimes 10 sometimes 14 shop dependant but my belly is bad. It's pouchy, and got faded stretchmarks and hangs down - really saggy. I hate it and want a tummy tuck! That won't be happening anytime soon but I just wondered what is the norm for ladies that have had kids? Mine are only 4 and 11 months so I'm hoping for a bit more improvement! I'm just worried about getting naked with a man and then getting laughed out of the room because of my belly!! Do men mind??

Nomore - I seem to remember another chap on the thread once said the vast majority of men don't give a damn about such matters, they are too ecstatic to be getting naked and having sex with someone to notice!

I think I may own a dress have jumped off the OD ship so no profile

i think you'll find lots of men have a bit of a belly..

Mine is flat with visible abs, my kids are early and mid 20's..but then i have a bit of a running addiction

Nomore I am a size 18 with the whole mum tum thing going on and more stretchmarks than anyone I know. Doesn't stop me and I've never had any complaints only compliments (not compliments about my tummy mind but lots of other bits!). Distract them with something else... boobs, bum or bj oh and never ever leave a glaring overhead light on. Soft lighting please.

My tummy is flat, I am lucky I don't carry extra weight. No stretch marks.

Saying that, I would still jump into bed if it wasn't, I like sex way too much to go without.

Confidence is the main thing. Mr R&R has a bit of middle age spread. It does not even figure in the equation. I think he is hot!

My tummy hasn't been flat since I was 15 so I don't really notice or care anymore... used to hate it maybe up til my DD was about 2 then I decided there were more important things to worry about.

I still never let it make me shy or anything though even when I was concious of it.

I don't think them an I've got in mind has hot a belly. And he goes to the gym!!

Man not an and got not hot! Although he is hot!! Very hot!!!

To quote late Michael Winner, calm down, dear, it's only Coffee!

You go for it and try not to worry. It's a natural thing!

Nomore It doesn't bother me on a man so don't why it should bother a man on a woman. I would be too thin, with not enough boobs for some men.

As I've said before nomore, grown ups have grown up bodies and I certainly couldn't care less about lumps, bumps, sags etc. to get to the stage where they're on display means he finds you sexy and getting naked will only make that more so, not less. And confidence is sexy, not "perfect" bodies!

Send me a picture and ill give you my considered opinion! (That's clearly a joke by the way!)

Maybe why I was never asked for a boob shot