Thanks for all the good wishes and thanks to Herrena for the card, I was really touched, honestly. . I've checked in on my phone a couple of times and been amazed to see how many people have been cheering us on.
Well, the move took ALL DAY. They arrived at 830 and packed and packed and packed for hours and hours. I really didn't realise we had that much stuff! We'd moved as much as we could before but there was just endless amounts and DM kept giving me more and more. The first lorry load went to the house at about 130 and we picked the kids up from school and went for a quick lunch. Then DH stayed at the house with them and I cleaned and cleaned, hoovering, mopping etc. That house has never been so clean. DM got quite weepy once it was really underway, fussing over rugs and things. I told her at one point to leave it alone and go and make me a cup of tea! Then, once it had all gone and I'd cleaned everything DH and I moved her bed back into the main bedroom with her bedsides etc and I made the bed up for her. She started saying she would have to sleep in a single cos she reckons she can't put the double quilt cover on. I said if necessary I'd come over once a week and change it for her, which I suppose I shouldn't..but I don't mind doing that once a week, it takes 5 mins and she can see the kids.
she kept saying I'm sorry and hugged me twice and said she didn't want us to not be close. I was calm and said I'd take her to the garden centre with the kids on sunday if she wanted.
When I got Dh to help me with the beds my friend took the dcs to the library as otherwise they'd be running up and down the stairs while we tried to shift a massive bed. Dm seemed really upset by that and I felt a bit bad, but the stairgates had gone by then and it was just easier all round. Then she was saying, X (dear friend) must think I'm awful, you must have told her awful things about me. I just denied everything.
When I left she was sobbing and I do feel bad, nobody likes that, do they?
Anyway.....here we are. The kids were excited but OK, managed to find bedding, pjs, teddies and give them a bath and get them to bed without much fuss. DH has gone out to get us a pizza. No wine, but I did have wine at lunch. My back is FUCKING AGONY but it'll be OK.
The house looks good...it's very cold in the lounge as it's quite large and open plan and open into the stairwell, so well have to get the curtains up sharpish to close it off and make it more heatable. (No central heating here).
Haven't been up on the roof at all as it's been pissing it down all day and there's thick fog, but forecast is better tomorrow..so will have my moment up on the roof soon!
Have loads of work to do this weekend?have to do some of that translation for Monday and plan classes and finish reports. It?s not over because with people like my DM it?s never over?but at least now maybe we can have some better boundaries. I still, if I?m honest sometimes feel maybe I have done a cruel thing and been unkind..I still wobble?but as dear friend said?she?ll have to sink or swim now and eve if she flounders a bit at first, she?ll be fine.
And so will we.