it's a new dawn, it's a new day ..........it dating thread 36!

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Post away daters x

its terrible where i live, think there are 15 people at a sutiable age in a 25 mile radius

Watch you'll look beautiful. If he's an alternative type I'd stick with the black and some silver jewellery.

Juliette. Good for you. Hope the date with Mr Groomed is good. You deserve some better luck.

Oh Snape it can catch you off guard sometimes, can't it? It will get easier.

As for me, another good, calm day. More exercise and meditation and im planning to go to an exercise class next week yikes! Feeling very positive and hoping I've finally got myself in hand. I'm sure I will have wobbles every now and again but I really feel my plan to tackle the anxiety is working.

Lovely LM is still horribly busy, although I think he's really enjoying it. It will do him the world of good to get this sorted -I remember chatting to him about it back in August so it's been a long time coming to fruition.

Yeah its like that here too Watch, that sounds so good OWW....just the sort of thing I should be doing (Ike guzzles glass of wine)

Cheers, Ike . Mid week bottle glass for me.

I'm short at 5ft 2 and can wear long boots with a dress but not jeans as I feel like 'puss in boots'. Bought some studded ankle boots recently with a heel but can be worn in the day or night with jeggings.

Nothing to report dating wise, if fact nowt much going on at all. Got some meals out and cinema (Les Mis) next weekend but nothing on this one. It's the exes birthday, guess who won't be getting a bday text from me!

ike have a couple for me .... Overdid booze and chocolate at Christmas so am now on miserable puritanical regime until I have lost the foul muffin top and my trousers are comfy again. Another benefit of the exercise! But it's bloody boring. Need to go out and have a bit of a blow out.

Nothing going on for me either

No kid free time this weekend, though I still have the option of trying to angle for an invite out or over to someone cough TallToys cough elses

But then, we're meant to be getting a load of snow so I might just hibernate instead and write this weekend off

lubey, we have snow forecast too so good excuse to hibernate, it's all I feel like doing atm anyway. January blues or what.

I love hibernating when it's really cold, log fire, duvet, 20 layers, chocolate, gneral wintery comfort food, wine ... any excuse :o

Saturday will be difficult knowing its t--tfaces bday and he will be out with one of his other women. Hey, lets hope the snow is really heavy and they are snowed in .

Scrazy you should spend the day congratulating yourself for (as shiney once said) 'extricating yourself from his lady buffet' and refusing to accept it. Seriously well done. It will get easier given time, cliche but so true. I'd have laughed in anyones face after the big bad break up if they had told me I'd be fine and having such fun now.

Anyway I think that any celebration of self should definitely involve wine and nice food, personally. And the heating up a notch if the weather is as predicted! :o

Whereabouts are you?

Thanks Lubey, love Shiney's 'extract from his lady buffet' I reckon I was the pigs head in the middle , not a downer on me but, there will be a gaping hole, it just won't be the same for him (I hope).

I'm way up north.

Well looks like pretty much all of us will be getting snow - met office, click the warnings for friday and sat

Oh I am just pissed and pissed off today...cheers girls. Bah.x

I have returned. Suitably exercised He must of had an extra weetabix.

Juliette I can't believe he blocked you. For what? Twat.

Scrazy Buy yourself something nice in celebration of a Dick head free zone

You sound in a good place OWW

What has happened to Bant? A vanisher?

I don't want bloody snow!

Morning all

Ike I think I'm feeling similar to you at the moment... a bit pissed off and CBA and sad. Disillusioned with the whole OD thing and just feel... bleugh.

Not helped by STBEx letting me know that, despite all promises to the contrary when moving out last year, he can no longer afford to pay such a large share of the mortgage and I've just found out he's bought himself a nice little Audi. I don't think he considered his Renault Laguna estate to be enough of a fanny magnet.

Aw Smoothio hugs. Something similar happened to me when the OW moved in with my ex. He cut my maintenance by £500 per month without telling me (fortunately he did not know about my college bursary and that I was doing well financially) and then went on holidays to Rome with her.

He conveniently forgot the court order, which caused him to be five grand in debt to me. This is why I can afford a year out..cos he is HAVING to pay up. Swines eh?

Bloody exes, they are just the pits.

I definitely don't want snow tomorrow - got LM coming over for ahem lunch as I'm working from home. Yippee!! Trying not to get too carried away about sex in the afternoon (how lovely and decadent) just in case . . .

Morning. Just been reading the past few pages and have been disappointed to find multiple examples of arsery from your various exes and online guys

I had my first two decent-ish chats on POF yesterday. One guy is not my type but funny and bright. The other is, physically, EXACTLY my type. He can barely write though, I mean, he tries but it's almost illegible. (I'm hoping he's just got a difficult phone.) He also seemed to 'miss' a couple of jokes IYKWIM. I've just been doing a bit of stalking (FB etc) and have found out he has quite a large brood of very young children so either he's very recently divorced and/or in a 'complicated' situation. Also on his FB page when it said 'Interested in' he had put 'Women'. Which kind of made me frown.

On the plus side he's really making an effort to have a proper conversation, doesn't seem crass or vulgar, and we have a lot of interests in common.

Tamoo - I might be a bit wary of the second one's recent relationship history. Like you said, it sounds bit complicated and you don't need a womaniser on the rebound, but if you're chatting maybe you could ask him about his family and see what he says. Doesn't sound like you have an awful lot in common, though, but if there are no obvious red flags I'd say get on and meet both of them as you can never ever tell until you see each other in person.

Good luck!

I'm not sure he's a womaniser, I think he's been in a relationship for a long time and they've separated not long after the last child was born. Now I've seen a bit on FB I'll be able to ask a few questions and see if he gives straightforward answers.

I've been away from dating so long though I'm a) terrified and b) doubting my own judgement.

I am sooo fed up with OD I am seriously considering checking out whether a mate of mine from college is still single and asking him to see a film or something...I just dont know whether that is a bit desperate cos I am all twitchy and bored or whether I should just tough it out and work on a single life filling in the gaps left by Torso with other interesting things. But that takes time..

'Twitchy and bored' you've just described me :) But I'm trying to fill my single life up generally, NY resolutions and all that. So not just OD. I've applied to do some voluntary work and started doing proper exercise for the first time in over a year. Part of me doesn't even want a bf because I've been single so long I'm just used to it and there's plenty of stuff I want to do and would be happy to do without a partner, or that I'd prefer to do with ds (eg we want to do a US road trip, Man v Food style :)) But tbh another part of me wants to be loved/get laid.

Hey y'all

Man I am knackered. Up since 5am.

Is it bedtime yet?

I am too tired to have an opinion on anything today. Let the hibernation begin!

Ugh Lubes 5am that sounds grim! Why?? Yeah I miss having cosy conversations and stuff. He's nice this guy, know his background and he is straight up, honest sensitive....I do lots of stuff too but hmmm want some extra too.