it's a new dawn, it's a new day ..........it dating thread 36!

[lulubellaboozle]

Post away daters x

yes, dont tell him, he will be thinking of enforced chasity and orgasm denial and all kinds of stuff. keep schtum :)

.....he reckoned to have the conversation up front so as the potential partner would not be horrified by his past....I have made it very clear that is not for me and that I would indeed see fetishism as part of his personality..

...but that if be is 'over it' then his past is his past not my issue. I think he is dominant btw

really. like there is any need to mention it before even meeting, or even on a profile.for the whole internet to see.
its bollocks.
;)

it would be something you would maybe mention once you knew someone and trusted them and wanted to take it further.

honestly, trust me on this. Ive had lots of friends in the scene, ive been to a feitsh club, ive dabbled..... i know the signs, and i can spot them at 50 paces. lol

ive a 'friend' who called it the frog boil.
he said, if you put a frog in boiling water in jumps straight out.

if you put it in and gradually turn the heat up, it doesnt notice, and then is boiled.

which is what id bet, my last £3.55 until friday, he would intend to do with any dates.....

Thanks Watch...forewarned is forearmed and all that..

Thanks Watch not offended at all. I know it's me! I need to get this in hand, I know that too. It's just doing it! I'm not going to even think about finishing it because he makes me so happy. I know it doesn't sound like it from what I post on here, but he does. I don't like posting about all the good stuff in case it sounds smug so it's probably a bit of a one sided view. .

I am going to get busy and distracted ie not get busy by just talking to my friends or on here about him, start meditating again as that is very calming, and put the bad thoughts out of my mind.

I know it seems a bit pathetic probably but I don't come across like this irl at all. I am very confident and assertive, and never show this side of myself apart from to a couple of my closest friends who love me whatever, and on here where it's safe. I'm not always a nervous wreck and actually I've made huge strides over the past two years with getting my head sorted and my life happy. Just this last bit to go.

When are you meeting Chilli Boy?

Glad you're back on here btw.

ike I agree with watch mostly on this... except to say I've dabbled in many things that i have indeed moved on from/got bored with/decided weren't for me including an entire type of lifestyle.

I also agree with watch though that I wouldn't feel the need to mention it at all early on, and quite possibly ever! Haha

I know it seemed a tad odd...oh well dont think he is the guy for me...a shame because his profile is very thoughtfully written which is why I was drawn to it.

western, that sounds like a great plan :)
its damn hard, to let go, following a marriage thats been less than good. I understand that, its natural to be on the look for things that are wrong the whole time... But i think he seems like a good bloke. And do post the good stuff too, we like to hear it :)

Im meeting him sunday. im actually really excited. Work are giving me a free facial and nail painting in preparation, and my new ( gay) male friends, are planning my outfit and hair. The girls are all excited and talking flirting techniques and making cock jokes. You know, even if its a dud, its just going to be fun for that side of it.
:)

lubey - you just wouldnt mention it, would you. unless its what you were specifically looking for. Ive known people have pof dating profiles, and then ones of specalist sites, the pof one having a hint, like ikes man had. And then the other being full blown.

Im not after anything kink, ive not got bored, but its not the important thing, i wouldnt dream of mentioing anything to anyone on a profile or even after afew dates, there is no need to provide a checklist of sexual activities, is there?

Yeah absolutely right. I just wouldn't be mentioning it... possibly ever depending on the person.

Oooh ike you don't want to get boiled in your iron clad knick nacks!! Think of the rust issues!'

Oh and your colleagues sound great! Roll on Sunday for the date and update :o

Plus I have googled his username and it appears to be some sort of black rubber fishing mask! Hmm. Watch the date sounds like a great ruse to have a free make over in its own right!

i know, we have all swapped numbers for updates, one of the guys has a date friday evening.
i love it there.

no, i wouldnt mention it, possibly ever. noone needs to know.

Oh god honestly I cant believe how completely naive I am ...lol

soz diving mask

:)

dont worry, its very funny.

And its not even deapan humour!!!

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you have stumbled upon a proper dom profile, without even realising.

lol

civil wars. lol

Well thats got to be another indicator for sure, he's 'over it' and 'left it behind' so much that his actual username refers to rubber kink. Busted, dude.

A really hot 20 year old messaged me and we have been texting for a few days. He is far too young as I am 35 and not bf material but I am so tempted to meet up with him as his photos are great. Nice smile. I could do with some fun. Am I being ridiculous. I also have a more sensible coffee date with a nice man tomorrow. Never met him and is more suitable but dosn't turn me on as much as fit 20 year old. Agggrrr!

I know ....hahahahahahaha! Delete move on!

ike, you have made me laugh today :)

Oh good! Thanks for the advice you guys!

Hello superstar, I say go for it and enjoy! No harm in it if you fancy each other and get on well.. age shmage.

Good luck with the more sensible date too :o

we know.
;)

told you, kink to geek/ uber intelligence is high.

i seemed to have missed the word ' ratio' on that post.

kink to geek ratio