The all new, sparkly,2013 Dating Thread - 35!

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off you go.

ooh, its not sbfcc is it?

he lives really near me..... we could steal snapes honey trap plan?? set up a fake date with me and then id stand him up.

thats a bit evil, isnt it?
:)

Oh it was completely devastating but I do have a dark sense of humour that stops me from topping myself! lol

Has anybody used Single with Kids?

I am always up for a bit of playful evil, me!!

No Skye I think I looked once and there was nobody there I fancied..

i like evil. i always remember that fine thread with the honey trap penguin.

Oh now do tell Snape ...that sounds like my cuppa..

...'honey trap penguin'...hmmm another one for the notebook...

watch no, it's not him :) Lubey's seen his POF profile - I'll pm you his name on there, you can share her horror!

Please no honeytrap dates though. He doesn't quite deserve that. I'm sure that (when I actually do it) the loss of the chance of seeing me again
will be punishment enough

lubey we must just have different tastes. He is better by photo than real life. by photo I really do find him hugely attractive

My humour can be dark sometimes Ike.

For example once having just got back together with a chap I really loved, I travelled miles to stay with him in some holiday apartments in a lovely place, I had friends with me as well, another couple it was meant to be a joint break with. Anyway we had an amazing night but I woke up to find him and all his stuff gone. He had packed up and sneaked off in the night having changed his mind and freaked out. Bastard. I truly was devastated.

So the couple I was with were all concerned about me and fussing over me doing the whole [head tilt] 'are you ok' thing while I just wrapped myself up in a blanket, named it the 'blanket of depression' and shuffled around the apartment like an old lady and sat on the balcony looking at this beautiful view muttering darkly about my soul and heart being so black and bleak it would make even Morrisey run screaming. I kept making myself laugh. Couldn't help it! And it actually did help.

Problem is, if velvet calls ST on the lie (that he was with his DC because his ex was sick?) then he will just get huffy and say 'we've had one date, why are you so needy/demanding?' and go off on his self-justified high horse about how he's had a luck escape from someone who's checking up on him. That's human nature.

She has two options. Block/delete/ignore him and leave him wondering, or set up a second date to make him feel like a twunt when he's left wondering.

The second provides a bit of revenge, the first is the moral high ground. Calling him on a lie will just make him feel he's the better person. It's amazing what self deceptions people can weave to put themselves in the situation of wronged party.

oh, ive found humour at being locked in my room in america, with a nuts family, with no money, no resources and no idea how to get out and get back home. And finally doing so including several 24 hr plus layovers, when i had no money and just had to hang around the airports, being shifted from one departure lounge to the other......and then my dad getting lost in the car park on the way home....

If i didnt laugh i would have cried.

but when you are in the thick of it, and your all emotionally wrapped up in it, sometimes its a bit harder to be so objective.
and not everyone deals with stuff in the same way.... and thats ok......

no honey trap dates :) though the penguin one was quite good. there was a plumber one too... though ithink that was in chat....

See Lubes THAT,THAT is exactly what I would have done.....then drunk a shit load of Sangia and had a massive, noisy nervous breakdown...

i wouldnt even call him on it, id just send a text saying id been thinking and didnt want to see/ chat to him anymore.

thats it, to the point, no name calling, no accusing, no nothing, and not respond to any return texts.....

penguin honey trap you get the jist.

I second what Bant said about him reacting like that to being called out on the lie.

I think I would just leave it - no honeytraps, no revenge, totally ignore him and not ever be in contact again.

At the very most i would call things off and say I met someone on that night out. But I'd likely not even bother with that. Just not give him a second more headspace, block on everything blockable, and forget.

Thanks Snapes Ill have a good ol read of that later...making notes of course...

sorry snape - missed your post above.
that makes more sense.

no, i agree, it call snowball into more, which i think is whats happening here, and does tend to on the back of more and more rejection.

hes lied, cancelled two dates and cost time and money... bit of a shit thing to do, should be draw a line, end of, block, move on. which is what im trying to get velvet to do, by sending a closure text.

to put an end to it and forget about it.

Ok I've got two guys that im chatting to from Pof! Im thinking about seeing one in the day time Saturday and one in the evening for a quick drink b4 meeting my friend for a night out

Could be the droughts about to end Moving!

Go for it Moving :o

Had meeting with my mentor this afternoon, who is devastatingly attractive, extremely camp and was telling me about his divorce. Told him all my work-being-unreasonable woes and about the DCs problems. I quite fancy him. He must NEVER KNOW.

Good chatting with Dumbledore today. We're having a huge esoteric debate about intelligence, faith and recognition/reward. He's giving me a run for my money. Uh-oh. Smart, accomplished....anyone want to place bets on the levels of kink that will unfold once I allow him to talk about sexual predilections?

Do we need to formulate a kink scale ?

I wonder if the Internet already offers such a thing....

But kink is good! I'd get a little bored without it.

But I'd have to say that, wouldn't I, in light of the intelligence:kink theory...