The all new, sparkly,2013 Dating Thread - 35!

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off you go.

Kink is good. Foot in foof is bad.

Out of interest, what do you seasoned veterans do if you've been talking to someone and they just seem.....dull?! Do you just ignore them and not reply, or do you message and say let's leave it there. Or do you meet them??
Exchanged about 15 messages with someone over the last couple of day but he's not the most lively! I'm a bit rubbish in that I can only focus on one at a time....

Ive said it before, and ill say it again... the cleverer they are the kinker they are.

Im thick as pig shit me

Dull = politely show disinterest
Dull who keeps popping up and sending messages = blocked

I can have a pretty dark sense of humour at times. Remember finding it quite hysterically funny after kicking XH out following his affair and realising I didn't need to bother waxing for a while. I guess at the time it was either hysterical laughter or just hysteria.

Fair enough! Thanks Helen. He seems "nice" but not very chatty. He doesn't offer opinions on anything... or seem that interesed in much... just sends mundane messages. We will see though - I'm new to this so should really appreciate people maybe don't want to tell their life story to a stranger!

Snape when are actually meeting the fabulous Dumbledore - it must be soon!?

Helen your alter ego is showing

Watch - I don't think you can draw a correlation between cleverness and kinkiness. I'm relatively vanilla to be honest, though I consider myself to be intelligent. I had a date with someone a few years back who, when she turned up, was really startlingly uninformed and ignorant. But she'd brought handcuffs in her handbag as she assumed we'd be using them that night. Ignorance turns me off, so.. no.

Dumbledore is Wednesday. He gets back to town tomorrow. The NHM geocaching has now provisionally turned into post-geocaching dinner & drinks, if we can tolerate each other for an appreciable period of time.

Do you think it's a particularly British thing, direct correlation between kink and boarding schools ?

ike :D

No, juliette I think that would suggest that intelligence is dependent on paid education and paid education does not necessarily equate to intelligence for me.

I wouldn't necessarily say that boarding schools are 'hot-beds' of perversion either...I'm sure some people come out relatively unscathed.

This has now led to a mental image of David Cameron...doing....it. Thanks for that

juliette, that might be more it.

bant, its not a rule. just a general experience thing. not just clever, but over the top above most peoples levels; type cleverness.
I think, and again, just my experience, is its something to do with the cerebal pleasure from it all, the power games etc...

handcuffs dont even come on a kink scale, do they?
I have handcuffs in my car... i cant remember how they came to be there, but they are in the drivers side door.....

dumbledore sounds really promising :)

stuff, if they are dull, depending on my mood, i will either send a nice, sorry, nothing in common, message. or just stop responding.

Further to the kinky debate, no I don't think you can draw any correlation between intelligence and perviness. My exh is very clever, supposedly genius level (sceptical emoticon) and is utterly,utterly, utterly un-kinky.

Yes I'm hoping I will get some action before I die from lack of sex

But I'm not sure if I will like either of them! We will see! I just get the feeling that's everyone on Pof is only after sex!

Which I get sounds rich coming from me, but I want to have sex with someone I actually fancy and like as a person! Not just anyone off the Internet

lol snape. cross posted.

Everyone ive met, into kink... and we are talking rather a wide range here. Has been privately educated.
but it does not follow that every privately educated person is clever... or into kink.

Its very intersting to me... i find it fasinating really.

It is interesting... Prof was the kinkiest person I'd met... State school, but did go to Oxbridge, where he probably 'picked up a thing or two' I do agree with snail from an earlier post where some people into kink view their partner as a interchangeable receptacle... But then some of the most vanilla people do that as well.

velvet how are you feeling? :)

Ah Moving now..see there's the rub...you didnt say you wanted to like AND fancy them before shagging them...that is where you are going wrong...

The Bob Flanagan film was very interesting re BDSM you might want to watch it snail.

I think if there is a kink scale, it's got to go something like

1 = doing it with the lights on
2 = something other than missionary
3 = mild BDSM - handcuffs, scarves etc

up to

10 = specify type of goat

have seen it ike.
Ive also various aquantinces, whos brain i delve into now and again, if not because its just so interesting. Kind of everything on the spectrum... There are the ones who just like stuff because its out there and boundary pushing, those that it gives a mental kick, and those with fetishes, that they really cant help at all. Its just interesting. I think the most kinky i have met was someone with a serious rubber fetish, who wanted to be totally encased in layer upon layer... forever.
so... that was a pick my jaw up off theh floor momment!!

moving - id say from pof thats nearly impossible ;)

My ex was an oxbridge graduate with a PhD, and she'd prefer it with the lights off. No interest in anything kinky at all.

See for me the brighter the better in a relationship, but I've barely had only one whiff of kinkery, ever. None of my university post grad friends are kinky not that I would know, the brightest man I've ever met was as vanilla as me, great Coffee. The only times I thought it was possibly there but unsaid, major public schools were involved.

There was a thread on here ages ago about the kinkiest thing you'd ever been asked to do and one poster had met a man who wanted her to fellate him while he did a poo. I'm proposing that as a 10 on the kink scale.