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Cliches, arse ennui, new year hangovers and glancing at the sweet trolley. Dating thread 34!

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lubeybooby · 01/01/2013 17:54

New thread time! Great timing with it being new years day...

Most of you know what to do... off you go!

Just in case you don't... just chit chat all your dating related stuff here. If you are new, just jump right in to the blethering. More the merrier!

HAPPY NEW YEAR! :o

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VelvetSpoon · 05/01/2013 17:17

Ike if he lied about seeing the other one last night but is genuinely having his DC tonight, he's a bit crap.

If however he hasnt got his DC and has cancelled on me, a date that was arranged on Tuesday (to replace the date he cancelled then) because he can't be arsed to drive 35 miles here and it's easier/cheaper to go on a date with someone local who doesnt hold a candle to me, he's a tosser and I hope his cock drops off.

watchoutforthatsnail · 05/01/2013 17:20

yes, less effort all round.

But as a naturally nice person, though you may all beg to differ ;)
its hard to be that way. I expect its the same for sponge. You treat people as you want to be treated and its always unexpected and hurtful when they dont.
Of course this isnt just limted to online dating, though it does seem to happen less in real life than it does online.

VelvetSpoon · 05/01/2013 17:20

lubey at least one of us had some good news today! Pleased for you :)

Got to wonder, SpaceTwunt initially suggested I go to his for dinner. Wonder if he still would have cancelled then? Seriously though, if I'm not worth the petrol money, he's not worth my time.

VelvetSpoon · 05/01/2013 17:21

the guy who never turned up at my house (when I was meant to cook for him) was a real life, not an OD one...

watchoutforthatsnail · 05/01/2013 17:21

No sponge, hes not.

Snapespeare · 05/01/2013 17:22

Hope his tiny inadequate cock drops off too velvet if that is he case. That's why I wouldn't delete him on fb yet, I'd be waiting for him to trip himself up.

watchoutforthatsnail · 05/01/2013 17:25

was he? my god, thats even worse!!

If it makes you feel any better, i joined pof for one day only the other day, got chatting to an ' ok' man, very good job, lots of interests. seemed ok. Chatted for a bit, seemed to hit it off online, he asks for my number, so i gave it to him.
Within 5 texts hes asking if i have a ' naughty, cheeky side' and if i can send him any pics.

That will be my last go at online dating, i am better than that.

ike1 · 05/01/2013 17:26

Hey Velvet its entirely your choice as to Spaceguy's punishment....I am sure Mr Lovely who I disappeared on happily wished for my tits to fall off!

VelvetSpoon · 05/01/2013 17:26

I'm waiting for him to trip himself up a bit more.

Then I intend to give it to him both barrels.

Whereupon he will probably call me a stalker and say I have 'issues' like he did with the last girl he dated...who I'm now starting to think may not have been the problem.

ike1 · 05/01/2013 17:28

....and I cant say I blame him....though they are still there...poss a little droopier....aha he's hexed me!!!

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lubeybooby · 05/01/2013 17:28

Yeah no doubt she had issues like expecting him to actually date her and not half of London under the pretence of looking after DC. Twat.

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lubeybooby · 05/01/2013 17:29

Him btw not you just in case that wasn't clear!

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ike1 · 05/01/2013 17:29

Oh yeah Velvet the old 'loser ex' ...well enuff said!! There you go...red flag.

VelvetSpoon · 05/01/2013 17:34

Watch that was the ONE thing Spaceman had going for him. The one thing which I thought meant he was a decent guy, was that he'd never alluded to sex. We'd talked about how crap it is not having anyone to hug you when you're single. There'd been some talk about kissing, and a little bit of flirtation, but nothing more. He'd never made a comment on my figure (other than to say it was lovely), never said anything dodgy or pervy. The only reason I had a photo of him in his pants was he was texting me the other day saying what a state he looked - so I told him to send me a photo. But that's as far as it went.

VelvetSpoon · 05/01/2013 17:37

I'd love to say where he lives...it is the depths of Kent. He's probably got half the town on his bloody FB.

Have wondered if any of his Exs are on MN. If so, I am starting to sympathise with them.

watchoutforthatsnail · 05/01/2013 17:40

i know, i think sometimes you are looking out for one red flag and relieved its not there, that you miss the other ones gently blowing in the breeze!

Men who go on about ex's are usually the ones themselves that are the issue. because they are cocks.
:)

ike1 · 05/01/2013 17:43

I alwyas like to hear nice stuff about ex's as long as its not too mushy...if they treat the ex with respect then its likely you will get the same treatment. Also they know how to have reasonable relationships and end them amicably...

BillMasen · 05/01/2013 17:45

Right. Bit of a tangent this and I hope no-one minds. I think it was juliette who noted that a lot of us are single, and so lack the partner at home to sound off to, so this forum is as much about general support as it is dating support. I totally agree.

This might be a sight outing. I hope not. I've had my kids this weekend and whilst I love having them to stay they're not well at the moment. Colds, coughs etc. now that might not be much to moan about but what I've not said before is that both my kids have cystic fibrosis. Coughs are bad, any general illness is bad and at the moment (tmi) they're coughing up mucus, or swallowing it and being sick.

It's not that though. It's the fact cf has a life expectancy of around 40 and when they're ill it brings it home. I worry about their health all the time and just having a weekend when it's getting to me a bit.

I'll pull myself together. Not coping is not an option. Just wanted to sound off a bit.

KirstyWirsty · 05/01/2013 17:46

velvet TheAuditor came across as the perfect gentleman and yet he totally played me .. If someone lies and you don't know them it is hard to tell

JulietteMontague · 05/01/2013 17:47

Velvet Spacetwunt has really made it very easy now. He cancelled the second date because he was 'too tired', it was re-arranged to tonight. Whatever he was doing last night is irrelevant because tonight is enough. He accepted your invitation to dinner, he knew you would be buying the food, getting things ready, taking time and trouble over it. He did not bother to confirm this last night when you asked him, then today he lies and says he has the DC when he is actually meeting another woman then puts it on fb.

he's a tosser and I hope his cock drops off this.

Woopsiedaisy · 05/01/2013 17:47

lubey was your dress the black / fawn P8 with v neck & buttons and if it was, what size?

I have a brand new one with labels - size 14 (comes up quite small) Bought it for a date then got blown out.

Not desperate to get rid of it, but would consider a reasonable offer.

KirstyWirsty · 05/01/2013 17:47

Sorry to hear your kids aren't well Bill

WhatDoesTheDogSay · 05/01/2013 17:50

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JulietteMontague · 05/01/2013 17:58

Bill that's tough, it's always tougher when you are on your own with DC whatever the situation but when they are sick it ramps up. I can't imagine what it's like to have DC with a serious, long term condition. DS was seriously ill several times when he was small - school calling ambulances, intensive care, me working over an hour away, heart jumping every time the schools number came up and no back up whatsoever, I do know about just having to cope because there is no alternative. It takes its toll.

Fuck it, have an unMNty hug too, I'm giving it out today.

VelvetSpoon · 05/01/2013 18:00

Bill I'm sorry to hear about your DC. Kind of puts other stuff into perspective.

I really don't know anything much about CF, beyond having worked in my last job with a girl in her late 20s who has it (although I'd worked with her for a year before I knew, she seems to cope incredibly well day to day) but I imagine this time of year with coughs, colds etc must be very hard, not just for them but you as a parent watching them go through it. I hope they are feeling better soon, and yes as has been said, feel free to sound off whenever.