Cliches, arse ennui, new year hangovers and glancing at the sweet trolley. Dating thread 34!

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New thread time! Great timing with it being new years day...

Most of you know what to do... off you go!

Just in case you don't... just chit chat all your dating related stuff here. If you are new, just jump right in to the blethering. More the merrier!

HAPPY NEW YEAR! :o

E-harmonkey.

Genius! :-)

E-harmonkey? And these women all think you're funny Bant?

Juliette nope, it went through the normal wash - that's the other good thing about it, it washed like new without fail each time! [sob]

Oh well. I'm wearing leggings (fuck it, jeans cut me in half at mo) boots, nice top and long cardi - it's only a pub lunch so no need to go overboard.

I shall report back later!

He cancelled.
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Tell him he's a cock from me Velvet.

Velvet he has shown you how he is, don't bother with him any more at all. You are lovely, he is an arse. Really, this had nothing whatsoever to do with you, this is him. Nothing you did or said would have made a difference. Huge unMNy hugs x

He's clearly a wankstain, I'm flicking the v's at him x

Whatdoes I would bet my (meagre) savings that he is fully aware of what the issue is. He is just playing clever daft (as we say oop North.

A serious talk with manboy? Eek, what a terrifying thought. I might come out in hives if I dwell on it.

Velvet He.is.a.dick. Huge un-mumsnetty hugs to you.

Oh for god's sake Velvet...

He's a poor, sad little man.

And here's a special snape-hug. They're quite rare you know, you're getting one of my very squishiest ones.

He's shown his colours velvet bye bye spaceman!

Just out of interest what was his reason?

Velvet I am very pissed off on your behalf. How dare he.

The Major is done. Hope he takes it well, if not that tells me everything I need to know.

what a pain Velvet, did he explain why?

Oh Velvet, I'm sorry. What a knob.

whatdoes Just delete it without reading. That's what I do in those situations.

Milk Are you OK?

Or Velvet Are you OK? even. Doh!

Thanks everyone for being kind. I take a sort of perverse pleasure in being right.

Anyone want a dinner of slow roasted lamb shanks followed by eton mess? Was tempted to put that on my fb but it's not like he'd give a flying fuck, so what's the point.

He says his exw is ill so he's having the dc tonight now. It could be true, but more likely he's had what he thinks is a better offer. He says he wants to see me another time.

But do you want to see him? Oh man I would love lamb shanks and Eton mess!!! He is a fool.

It could be a plausible excuse. How do you feel about it? Do you believe him?

At least you know that if he was on a date with one of his fb groupies then they would spill it out all over his oage and he would be tagged on numerous statuses and photos

Slow roasted lamb shanks? Yes please!

He may well be telling the truth though Velvet The thing is it's impossible to know either way. I know how easy it is to think the worst though when your expectations are low. I'm the same way myself.

What did you say in response? I really would just leave the ball in his court and send no more texts. It's up to him to do the running and the make it up to you in due course if that's what he is going to do.

I'm really sorry you are disappointed though. Please try not to get too downhearted. Easier said than done I know.

That's a very good point nomore If he is out with someone else then FB will soon reveal the truth to you.

Hi all,

although I last posted several threads ago (you move fast!), I have been keeping up every now and then, and I hope I can ask for some more advice.

Ages ago I exchanged a few messages on POF with a guy from my workplace (very big workplace) and he said he'd like to meet up. As I had worked out who he was after extensive google stalking, I sent him a link to my professional profile as I didn't want to put a photo on my profile. I couldn't make the time he suggested, and he couldn't make the time I suggested instead, and then he didn't reply to my next message. I really didn't want to push it, so I left it (Bant's artist would be me, if I didn't reign myself in!).

I decided to give up on POF for obvious reasons, although never received any cock pictures.

So now a Greek guy from OkCupid has asked if I would like to meet. He seems quite nice, and because of his job I have managed to find out who he is. (People really need to be more careful with the information they give out online! Unless he just didn't mind.) Several photos, quite good-looking, interesting job, interesting hobbies. He hasn't asked for a photo, but I feel it would only be fair. There are a few of my Ex's friends on OkC, which makes me reluctant to put a photo on my profile. I couldn't work out how to make it so only specific users can see it. What should I do? Wait till he asks for a photo? (He commented on my lack of photo and pointed out that for privacy reasons he used London for his location, even though we live nowhere near it.) Email it to him? Send the link to my professional profile again? I'm not a minger (I don't think!), but after the reaction of POF guy I'm not too sure anymore.

The other thing is - children! When and how do you mention them? And those of you still in the process of getting a divorce started - how do you deal with that? I feel bad luring people in under false pretences, but I really don't want to mention DC on my profile or before meeting people. Is this a bad idea? Can you tell I haven't been on a date for several years?!

Any help for an over thinker?