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Cliches, arse ennui, new year hangovers and glancing at the sweet trolley. Dating thread 34!

999 replies

lubeybooby · 01/01/2013 17:54

New thread time! Great timing with it being new years day...

Most of you know what to do... off you go!

Just in case you don't... just chit chat all your dating related stuff here. If you are new, just jump right in to the blethering. More the merrier!

HAPPY NEW YEAR! :o

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JulietteMontague · 04/01/2013 22:12

Little no, we are all teens here Grin

Snapespeare · 04/01/2013 22:13

velvet come and do a jigsaw with me or perve over Gary Barlow while we're waiting, distraction! I love 'velvet-the-blasé' I have an image of jackie Collins as modesty blaise or Lara croft. :-)

dog it stopped in October. I'm not a fuss-causer. Same employer, 25 years, never raised a complaint before. This is an important point, not just for me, but for diversity issues (sound utterly up my own butt here, don't want to say too much to out employer) so can't explain further, so will try to not talk about process again. :-)

yoga-dog. [chicken-bacon-hug] .

VelvetSpoon · 04/01/2013 22:15

Juliette, just drop him a casual text, see if he replies.

What was the situation with the Major?

VelvetSpoon · 04/01/2013 22:17

Snape I'd love to do a jigsaw while I wait. But I fear I might cry over the pieces. I am so pathetic I actually just checked that he hadn't deleted me as a friend on FB, that's how convinced I am he's not coming.

Yogagirl17 · 04/01/2013 22:23

Juliette I would text MrVague

Snape yoga-dog says you are his new best friend and wants his tummy rubbed

(& I might just be having a wee browse in GSM)

grinchie · 04/01/2013 22:23

Velvet Shhhshhhshhhshhh there there.
Text him if you haven't already, a second text isn't needy it's clarification Smile

Juliette Hmmm. The thing is crowded public transport can be unpleasant and getting separated from your DCs is frightening. I think I would give a one chance benefit of the doubt, maybe?

Have I addressed this to the correct posters?

WhatDoesTheDogSay · 04/01/2013 22:25

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MsArsebiscuit · 04/01/2013 22:25

( I'm actually so taken with the name ' Velvet Blasé ' that I think she has to be the femme fatale in a 30s Hollywood private detective story ).

No, blasé dating Velvet can be summoned up like a genie, imagine you're acting a part, go a bit Lauren Bacall on his ass.

Whatdoesthedog, I'd be slightly put off by ex-marines' story too.

Yoga, dogs are like children, loads of worry and stress but at least they're always nice to you, I'm glad he's better.

grinchie · 04/01/2013 22:26

Sorry - Juliette and Velvet text him!

whatdoes see my previous post re ex marine & crowded transport. Sorry to be so doh.

Snapespeare · 04/01/2013 22:29

Oh velvet :-(. I am going to impose myself on you with my doctor who monopoly and a fuck-ton of wine one night. :-) you are utterly brilliant and you will be OK because you are all jackie Collins hair and lashes and whip smart. but you are over-thinking and ms velvet blasé needs to hoist up her bosom and put on some lip gloss

yogadog oos a lovely boy? is oo my favourite puppy? Yes oo is. [bacon] sorry. I got a bit distracted. [surreptitious chicken-bacon]

AndLibbyMakesThree · 04/01/2013 22:31

Juliette, if you'd like to see Mr Vague again, I'd text him. Personally I'd rather know for certain that he did/didn't want to see me rather than wondering "what if?"

Velvet, I hope you hear from him soon. Waiting and worrying is just horrible.

whatdoes that would worry me ... has he shown any other worrying signs or has everything else seemed ok?

Off to bed now. Mystery date with Mr C tomorrow - no idea what we're doing. It's been ages since anyone planned a surprise for me so am looking forward to it (although may change my mind when I find out the Krankies are involved what it is).

MsArsebiscuit · 04/01/2013 22:34

fandabidozee good luck, Libby

JulietteMontague · 04/01/2013 22:35

Met The Major yesterday, had a fun time chatting to him which was a total surprise. I met him just to test out my new approach to meetings,which was to be a bit less Lynette Scarvo in capable don't fuck with me work mode and let the guy see the softer me. He was boring and just talked about himself on the phone but in person was lovely.

I think I could fancy him, we had similar values which is very important to me but we have absolutely nothing in common in terms of interests. The last man I was seeing was also like that, no interest at all in art, theatre, cinema, doing something different, nothing. He also seems to drink a lot, had definitely had a drink before he met me (at 3 pm) and was a lot more comfortable when he suggested a drink in a pub after coffee. ExW story is also odd.

VelvetSpoon · 04/01/2013 22:38

Thanks Snape

The 2 sides to Velvet:

Velvet Blase's view: he's just been busy with friends etc tonight, it means NOTHING that I haven't heard from him. He's spent hours every day and night this week texting me, even whilst he was at a NYE party, he thinks I'm fab, that won't have changed since last night when he was saying how much he wants to kiss me Grin, he WILL turn up>

The real, utterly non blase Velvet: on the verge of tears thinking I've somehow blown it. Or someone better has come along. Or a combination thereof.

BantaBaby · 04/01/2013 22:46

..oh no.. She was just meant to be a fill in date till I key shoe girl but she appears to be a bit awesome

BantaBaby · 04/01/2013 22:48

met shoe girl

VelvetSpoon · 04/01/2013 22:49

So - and with apologies because this is like some ITN bulletin at the scene of a crime or something - I have had a text.

I sent him one saying I was off to bed, hoped he had a nice day tomorrow and to let me know when he'd be round in the evening so I could organise my dinner timings, night etc.

The reply was 'Sorry I've been quiet, it's been chaos here tonight. Sleep well xxxx'

???

JulietteMontague · 04/01/2013 22:50

Ok I will text Mr Vague tomorrow then once I get down off my perch

What I stopped it with the last man as he usually seemed to be primed for a fight when we were out. Always going on about how he could stare people down,handle himself, despite as he saw it, his height. Plus he told me I was argumentative, it is true, I know bollocks when I hear it and will say so. Final straw was him being verbally abusive to a women when driving, she did nothing and he was vile.

VelvetSpoon · 04/01/2013 22:50

Banta Grin

So Shoegirl has competition then!

Has there been any kissing yet?

JulietteMontague · 04/01/2013 22:54

Bant yes! good one and you will be super 'Hey Sugar, you want some Banta Baby' as you have Shoegirl lined up for you too. On a serious note, did you shave? Grin

Pleased Yogadog is on the mend.

Milkandlotsandlotsofwine · 04/01/2013 22:56

Hi everyone,

whatdoes That would worry me to be honest. My ex casually mentioned to me not long after we met that he'd done time in army prison for assault! Funnily enough he turned out to have a terrible temper. Has he said anything apart from this to make you alarmed?

VelvetSpoon I hope he get's in touch. I know how awful it is. Please try not to get too overwrought though. They just aren't that special, none of them.

Tonight I am rather pissed off. I haven't seen manboy for nearly 3 weeks as I've been on a long holiday at home over Christmas. He kept in touch, said he wanted to see me when I got back etc. Yesterday I asked him if he wanted to come over tonight as flatmate is out and we would have place to ourselves. He replied saying he'd love to but he is broke this weekend. He lives about 90 minutes away from me and has to get the train. I know it sounds silly but I'm really sensitive about asking men to meet me (I've never initiated a meeting in the 2 months I've known him) As soon as he said he couldn't see me I felt instantly stupid and rejected. My first thought was "He's seeing another girl that night". Now he's been texting me tonight but he still hasn't answered my last text (sent at 20.30) I'm not normally hung up on texting. We don't text every day or anything. The only thing is he ALWAYS answers texts within 15 minutes (at the very most) Now I'm hideously aware of the fact that 20.30 is a prime time for meeting someone for a date.

Sorry, that was really long and probably makes me sound insane. I just have a very, very bad gut instinct about it.Sad

BantaBaby · 04/01/2013 23:03

I am clean shaven. Miss Guinness was nervous about a 'date' as she only signed up to the site last week to see what people looked like, and - I can't even remember if she messaged/winked at me or the other way around. So instead of a date we met up for a pint in a local and chatted for a couple of hours. It took a little bit of warming up after a beer but we talked solidly, then she had to go off and do a thing she'd arranged with mates, at another place where coincidentally I'd arranged to go for beers with my mate, after getting a curry. So I said goodbye with a brief cheek-kiss at the end of Date 1: Part 1, and went for food. Then saw her at the second place which was crowded. She was surrounded by her friends so she smiled and we mouthed 'hello'. Then I sat over the other side of the place with my mate and talked until she came across 10 minutes later to meet him, apologise about the number of her mates there and it being difficult to spend time with me (they were all there for her do) - so a while later we were leaving, I want past and said I was, she stood up, looked up at me and it was that perfect look/moment for the first kiss -but she was surrounded by her mates so it didn't happen. But jesus did I want it to.

Yes, ShoeGirl is funny, I've been looking forward to meeting with her. I'll still meet with her. But Miss Guinness now blows CabinCrew out of the water.

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lubeybooby · 04/01/2013 23:03

Date #2 with Mr iPhone sorted for 1pm tomorrow.

I have blown out Mr Tall, having decided he was too 'me me me'

I however still have two more possibles, one of whom I like very much (Mr Clever) probably only likely to meet Mr Clever the way things are going - CBA with the smalltalk with the other one.

I will ask Mr Clever out tomorrow I think.

PoF profile deleted!

So, here's the stats.

48 hours, 136 messages, 100ish total potatoes, 30ish not too bad, 6 great, 3 got my number, only 1 I will probably meet.

I thoroughly enjoyed my 'smash and grab' method :o

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MsArsebiscuit · 04/01/2013 23:10

Awwww at Bant and Miss Guinness.

JulietteMontague · 04/01/2013 23:12

Velvet do nothing, do not text, phone, stress, think about it (yes I know as if) Just nothing. The chances are he is very busy but, if he is going to be flaky about it then it will be entirely down to him. You have asked him, if he can't let you know in the morning that is just plain taking the piss and his dinner should go to Yogadog.

Milk They just aren't that special, none of them Smile. So it's not about him its that you asked him. It stings even when you have set up the arrangement, but it is Friday night and in his twenties he is unlikely to be home, most likely with out with his mates and if it were any more then some random date wouldn't be able to offer him what you can anyway.