Cliches, arse ennui, new year hangovers and glancing at the sweet trolley. Dating thread 34!

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New thread time! Great timing with it being new years day...

Most of you know what to do... off you go!

Just in case you don't... just chit chat all your dating related stuff here. If you are new, just jump right in to the blethering. More the merrier!

HAPPY NEW YEAR! :o

I have three DCs. My children's father is a violent non-working alcoholic. I get £3.25 a week in maintenance, my take home pay is £1850 a month. Add in tax credits of £280 a month and child benefit of £48-ish a week. My rent is £1300 a month. I dont live in a palace. (Ha!) My mortgage at my previous station was £300 a month. I'm sure you're capable of the sums.

If you feel the need to continue to discuss this, please do so privately. I don't particularly wish to derail the thread.

Snape A few Lovely Things for you.
Purple trousers
Dr Who
Squirrels
Rum
Hunky neighbours
Friends/us lot
Dumbledore
Tattoos

One time when I was badly depressed I stuck post it's on lots if my favourite things round the house so ghat even when things were very dark I could remember why I liked them. It helped. Sorry that probably sounds potty but I know how you feel, a bit.

Not the done thing but have one of the infamous un-MN hugs, Snape x and

Mand
This is the dating thread, by definition the people on here are single. One of the negatives about being single is not having anyone to sound off to when life is rubbish.
Personally, if snape wants to come on here to rant about the general crapness of her life I will say 'sorry to hear that, life is mean sometimes, I hope it gets better for you soon'.
I don't understand the entire nature of her problem(s) but I think snape or anyone else for that matter can have a rant here without the benefit of my judgement and I don't really want a bun fight on a thread which is usually an oasis of humour.

'Scuse typos.

I wasnt intending to start a bunfight, I didnt understand, and still dont.
I am also a single parent and work for far less than that, also with three children and have to pay my rent out of that. I dont get any maintance either.
There is no judgement just confusion.

Who's out dating tonight/tomorrow?

48 is rolling
Velvet is on for a hot date tomorrow
Bant has left his beer goggles at home and is having fun with Ms Friday (lost track of who it is tonight). Need stubble and loo updates Bant

Who else?

I'm in until Sunday so can get a bit of kip and try and reduce the black circles and bags under my eyes.

I'm knitting and reading this weekend. Dumbledore is on Thursday. :-)

Gather up, question re Mr Vague - the really nice tiny who pounced. First date I accidentally stood him up, second was fine, we agreed he'd call me when he got back from being away for C. We exchanged texts as soon as he got back, then next day Thursday he texted to say he'd been invited away for 4 days up north, (so) did I want to speak later or a drink in town. I was on my way back from long journey myself so I texted back to say enjoy it and we'll be in touch when you get back. He was keen, and definitely not a player and until now has done what he said he would.

Now he would have been back say, Tuesday and nothing. Usually I would just forget about it but it is possible he thinks 'we'll be in touch' means I was giving him the brush off, especially as I haven't been in touch. So, what do you think?

mand with respect, your first post was full of judgement and very snarky with it. To use the MN expression, maybe you didn't mean to be so rude but it did sound like it.

I'm going out with Save Lives, Me when I get back darn sarf next week otherwise no action whatsoever. Tsk.

Juliette, one text to him can't hurt, just in case he misunderstood.

Mand whilst not wanting to speak for Snape it's the relocation part which is the key here.

For ex, a couple of years ago, whilst working for my current employer I was seconded to an office in the North of England for a period of 3 months. Whilst there I was put up in a hotel on a B&B basis (I think in the region of £80 + per night for 4 nights a week), given subsistence allowance for meals of up to £20 per day, and my train fares home each week (about £200) were paid. So the cost to my employers was in the region of £600 a WEEK. Which is a huge amount, I suspect the cost of Snape's accommodation and travel (if she was doing a similar arrangement) would be even more. Hence in reality what she is seeking is a more economical option, if her employers cannot provide any suitable employment elsewhere than in London...

Or at least that's how I see it.

You know what Mand, we don't have to understand everything about everyone.

The new year OD peak is not working for me. I get hardly any views on GSM. I think I need a better picture but to get that I need a better face. I'm hoping it might start to perk up when all the new men realise that the hot women won't message them back.

and that was me drawing a line.

Nothing from Spaceman since 7ish tonight, so am and :(. And expecting him to cancel.

Am going to text him and ask what time he's coming tomorrow. That way he'll have to tell me if he's blowing me out...

I agree with arsebiscuit. Drop him a text, see what happens.

Dumbledore has a tomato phobia. I like tomatoes. This is good. Also Internet stalked (& if the Internet stalky queens wish to smile benevolently on me, my powers are limited) and his birthday is NOT the same as voldemort or the kids dad, so the construct possibilities have diminished somewhat...

Text sent.

And now we wait for the inevitable rejection

That makes sense. I did not realise they chose to locate her there.
There was no judgement only confusion and wondering if this was something avaliable to everyone through work.

Velvet, remember your blasé dating alter ego ...

stranger traffic on GSM is much slower than the free sites. have you tried 'liking' or messaging any guys you like the look of?

yogadog seems better thanks, i guess he just wanted to ensure didn't have any spare cash lying around this weekend!

ex-marine's story would make me very wary

MsA blase me (not that she really exists) has done a runner to be placed with totally paranoid me :(

I hope he doesn't cancel. Yesterday it was all on, it's not been mentioned today but then by our standards we've barely text at all. Maybe he was waiting for me to mention it...? I never get second dates so I don't know if it's normal to not mention them the day beforehand!

He's not read my message yet (so at least he's not ignoring me, well not blatantly anyway...).

Yoga, yes I am being pretty proactive about it. But some of them aren't even bothering to view my profile in return. I tend to look at everyone who likes me, even the potatoes.

sigh is there anyone out there who has managed to OD and not find themselves turning back into a teenager?

What it DC, Crowded train etiquette is never polite imo, I have also seen the most mild mannered of people loose it nothing to look are here. If he lost it he may not have then realised it wasn't appropriate to text it all in real time. If you really like him, why not meet him on a yellow flag basis.

Anyone else have a view on what I do, if anything about Mr Vague? I also need to decide what to do about The Major soon too.