Cliches, arse ennui, new year hangovers and glancing at the sweet trolley. Dating thread 34!

[lubeybooby]

New thread time! Great timing with it being new years day...

Most of you know what to do... off you go!

Just in case you don't... just chit chat all your dating related stuff here. If you are new, just jump right in to the blethering. More the merrier!

HAPPY NEW YEAR! :o

velvet i'll pass him on! but spaceman wil turn out o be a good un

just heard I'd lost my appeal at work regarding expenses, so am now technically desititute. fab. thinking of bringing a discrimination case, but will take advice from my union after I've had a couple of days to rest up and regroup.

DS1 is now officially a monster. he isnt talking to me because of my behaviour on monday night (?) when he had a mini panic attack/breakdown because i tried to get him off of the laptop.

would be nice to pop back in the tardis pre-notebook and talk to PM about this, before he became voldemort - instead I'll just have to whine at you lot. :) (thank you!)

Just arranged to Rock & Roll tonight

It is just so easy with him. No gaming playing. We both want each other. Simple.

That's all a bit shit, I'm sorry Snape, I hope your union can help.

In my experience in any encounters with my ds it is UNFAILINGLY my fault, we had a row because he'd dropped one A level subject and taken another, which proved to have been the wrong decision for the degree course he wants to do.
' You should have told me before I changed ' ( I did ).
' You should have stopped me ' ( I tried ).
' Well what should I do now, my WHOLE life is RUINED ?' ( talk to your head of sixth form ? ).
' They can't do anything ! ' ( have you asked ?)
' NO, IT'S POINTLESS !! ' ( I'm sorry, I can't think of anything else to suggest )
' WELL SAY SOMETHING ! ' ( I've run out of suggestions )
' WELL THAT'S REALLY HELPFUL, MY WHOLE FUTURE IS RUINED AND YOU CAN'T BE BOTHERED TO SAY ANYTHING !!!! IT'S NO WONDER WHEN YOU'RE SUCH A SHIT PARENT!!! ' - followed by storming off, door slamming, swearing.

So essentially, you can't win. I wish I had the answer but you can complain on here with the knowledge that we know what it's like.

snape One day you will be able to look back and laugh about all this shyte together.

I used to want to buy a one way ticket to fucking any where at times.

Now my daughter knows I will be out of the way tonight, she is cooking a meal for her boyfriend. Wonders will never cease. She can cook? she cares enough to give it a go.

Young and in love

Snape, let's hope so re Spaceman. Keep Gary in reserve for me just in case!

Sorry re your appeal (hope the union are helpful) and re DS1. Hopefully the CAMHS appointment will do some good. And in the meantime whine away at us (always bearing in mind that I think I am the queen of whining on this thread, so you have a long way to go to catch me up )

:) 48 I've taken to getting home and sitting outside in the car, not wanting to go in. luckily i can pick up my wifi from the car. I might just move into the car actually (this might happen given works reluctance to pay my expenses...)

Le sigh. I took a nice picture of a squirrel this morning. thats the high point of my day so far. That and getting a message from almost-gary-barlow. trying to think of suitable responses...

'why on earth are you on OKC? surely a double life as Mr. Gary Barlow affords you limitless suplies of take-that-obsessed-foof?'

Snape sorry to hear about the shit news. Sometimes carrying on bravely is a bit too much like hard work, isn't it?

Juliette, Mr C doesn't look at MN because he knows I post here. We were chatting about websites and he mentioned that he likes MN. I just thought, "Oh no!" Of course he may not look at Relationships, but given that he's a dad who does OD, there has to be a chance that he follows this thread.

Thanks to all who suggested I name-change. I'll probably try that, but worry that it will be pretty obvious if he reads this thread.

Snape, so sorry to hear the news about your appeal. It all seems so unfair. Hope your union can help.

48 great that it's so easy. I can't stand game-playing.

Whatdoes - unbelievable! It sounds like he's trying to show off his literary knowledge and failing miserably!

Libby, what about copy and pasting what you want to say, pm'ing it to another poster and one of us posts it ? Especially if some details are changed and the other poster is from a different part of the world. You could even get someone to paraphrase it ( unless it's a problem so out there that it immediately identifies you ' Mr X wants us to have an orgy with The Krankies' ).

Arse, you've really got me worried now. Mr C has planned a surprise for tomorrow. I was expecting maybe a country walk or nice meal or something. Now I'm wondering if it's something completely different... Anyway, one thing's for sure: if anyone vaguely resembling the Krankies approaches us at any point in the day, I'll be running faster than I've ever run in my life before.

Bant, where are you going for your date tonight?

Snape about your appeal. Arses.

Libby I'm pleased he is just a regular MN user. Incognito from now on then

Off out to see shag Mr R&R soon.

Have a fantastic time all on dates tonight and tomorrow.

Can't wait to hear all the gossip

Snape, that is shitty about your appeal. Will you have grounds for the discrimination you mentioned? I hope there's something you/the union can do.

What dates has everyone got coming up? Velvet has Spaceman, Snape has Dumbledore, Lubey has Mr iPhone, anyone else? I need to get looking again, stopped over xmas and new year as I was going to be tight on time, money and babysitters anyway, but feeling being single lately, after it not bothering me for years.

48 I'm glad you're carrying on seeing Mr R&R, he sounds like he makes you a lot happier than the other fuckwits. I'm very jealous of all the Coffee

48 have fun :)

Breakout well hopefully I do, am keeping my fingers crossed it doesn't get cancelled. I really hope it doesn't but bitter experience has left me with shocking low expectations. I won't really trust that he's coming until he's actually here. I should really be doing my housework but can't decide if it's tempting fate either way....

I have my fingers crossed for you too, Velvet.

I should also be doing housework, Skyman is popping round when DD is in bed. However, since I know this isn't going anywhere longterm, I have decided I don't really care that the house is a mess. It's not like I have to give a good impression, is it?!

Thanks Breakout. Hope you have a nice evening with Skyman.

I think I'm going to start on the housework, hopefully it will distract me from waiting for a text from Spaceman, and the nagging worry that he's already decided to cancel tomorrow (we've only exchanged a couple of texts today and he hasn't mentioned it) but just not actually told me yet...

Grounds for discrimination, yes. Decision maker really shot herself in the foot with a bunch of suppositions, according to (happily married) her I have elected to move myself by having the temerity to be accompanied to my work station by my children. If I had a husband, children would remain in previous location, I would work in current station during the week have multiple affairs and return to the bosom of my family at weekends. At a far greater cost to my employer. The fact being that as a single parent my DCs have accompanied me to current location, as opposed to leaving them to their own devices during the week with a £20 note and a 2 bar fire, apparently means I need no further support from my employer, despite still having un sellable house in previous location and no jobs for me in previous location.

Grr.

Long term lurker, excuse me for butting in, but wondering if i'm misunderstanding something.
Snapespeare - can you not just pay your rent from your wages? Isn't that what most of us have to do?
In all probability, and I can see your employers stance, the fact you have a non sellable house and children, is not really their issue. They pay you to do a job, and thats it. Your private life is your private life and not really any of their concern.

I hope that doesnt sound harsh, I'm just not really understanding. I wish my employer paid my rent as well as my wages, as I imagine lots of people do.

Not at all mand. Point being, no posts for me in home station at all (waited 7 months for first post after getting in development scheme, 4 months for subsequent post) the associated costs for my training and development (all geographically located in current station with hotels, travel, childcare, etc) are more expensive than rent in current location, so it's cheaper to locate me where the work is, rather than have me with no job, having to travel, arrange childcare etc to be in previous location (does that make sense, sorry if garbled) add to that, employer has very well defined family friendly policies that can't just apply to traditional families if they want workforce to reflect demographic of client base.

So they hired you knowing there were no jobs close to your home?

I understand how they have policies, but your non sellable house still isnt their issue. I also cant see how you cant pay rent from your wages as most of the population have to. As a lurker I have heard you mention your job and it seems you are high flying so should be earning a considerable wage?

Sorry, should mention, employer is a national organisation, I'm managed to get on a top 10 development scheme, but the jobs are all based in the 'south' and we live in the 'north'. I don't quite see why I should subsidise their inability to offer me comparable opportunities to childless Russell group graduates based in the south east. (don't mean to have a go at you, I am absolutely at the end of everything at the moment, this is just my final nail. Ds1 is horrible to me, someone I loved couldn't give a shit, I have no money and I really try to find the lovely things in life but it is getting increasingly difficult)