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Cliches, arse ennui, new year hangovers and glancing at the sweet trolley. Dating thread 34!

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lubeybooby · 01/01/2013 17:54

New thread time! Great timing with it being new years day...

Most of you know what to do... off you go!

Just in case you don't... just chit chat all your dating related stuff here. If you are new, just jump right in to the blethering. More the merrier!

HAPPY NEW YEAR! :o

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grinchie · 03/01/2013 23:26

This is me now - thanks Ike the username grinchy is sadly taken - so I've gone with the ie instead.

Ironman (sitting next to me on the sofa playing fake poker on his Ipad) is very literal.
I showed himthe sexual technics thread because it always makes me PMSL and he had to show me (fully clothed) how one might go about achieving said position Confused but also Grin

VelvetSpoon · 03/01/2013 23:26

Hmm, Banta re the stubble, unless you're really hairy (like an old colleague who had visible stubble by late afternoon if he shaved that morning), probably about 5 days is the minimum. So I'd go for not shaving tomorrow - as it will look ok as stubble now, and also find for your date with ShoeGirl too.

I think if you shave tomorrow, you run the risk with Shoegirl it looks less like purposeful stubble and more like you just didnt have time for a shave...does that make sense?

I confess I do like stubble, but on the right person. My Ex looked like a homeless person with any kind of stubble. Yet on some people Spaceman it looks rather fab.

Scattylatte · 03/01/2013 23:26

bant vaguely groomed would be good for me.

velvet thanks. There doesn't seem to be much wrong with fireman but he texts sporadically, he asked if I wanted to go to the cinema when I live 1.5 hours away, he never phones in the evening (which makes me think he is not that single) his communication is based on jokes and innuendo. That's fine but I'm not bothered. He is 46 Ffs.

KirstyWirsty · 03/01/2013 23:26

bant what makes you happiest and most comfortable?? I'd go with that!

Scattylatte · 03/01/2013 23:29

Plus I was his first foray into OD and I suspect sweet shop syndrome is looming

VelvetSpoon · 03/01/2013 23:33

Scatty hard isn't it, cos I'm sure some people would be like 'oh you're being fussy' but all that stuff would niggle me. I think unless in other ways he had completely bowled you over, (which although I know you liked him I don't think he had) it's perfectly justifiable to cut your losses now.

Yogagirl17 · 03/01/2013 23:40

grinchie I LOVE the sexual technics thread - it's my favourite!!! GrinGrin

KirstyWirsty · 03/01/2013 23:43

Can someone post a link please .. Can't find it!

Scattylatte · 03/01/2013 23:48

velvet when I left after my date I thought about my ex. That's not a good sign. And I wasn't bowled over either. Plus he would say he kept self doubting himself. Then on one conversation he talked about constantly worrying whether he upsets people, it plays on his mind. I'd prefer more confidence. Plus it got me thinking whether he would keep contact with me because he didn't want to upset me rather than he likes me. I'm not here to fix people with confidence issues.

BantaBaby · 03/01/2013 23:50

I see your point, Scatty, but if it came down to a choice, would you go for someone who lacked confidence but was honest about it, or faked confidence, therefore being dishonest?

Nomorepain · 03/01/2013 23:53

Hello can I just have a bit of advice? I stupidly text the dirtbag man before I realised he is a dirtbag. He has text me twice since and messaged me in match and looked at my profile. What shall I do? Ignore or say I'm no longer interested?

grinchie · 03/01/2013 23:56

www.mumsnet.com/Talk/dadsnet/549019-sexual-technics/AllOnOnePage

I hope this works, it is one of my favourite things in the world ever. Fact.

Scattylatte · 03/01/2013 23:56

bant the thing is I don't think he lacks confidence, he says he self doubts but I'm not convinced. There is something not quite convincing about it all and I can't put a finger on it.

grinchie · 03/01/2013 23:57

nomore I think in this instance i think I would politely say i'm no longer interested, if you just ignore him he may persist.

BantaBaby · 04/01/2013 00:00

NoMore - tell him you had a date (at some realistic point) with someone and actually you're just going to see how that works out. It's a lot less ego-bruising to be rejected for another person than for no-one.

Nomorepain · 04/01/2013 00:17

Jeez - just had another one off him!! What have I done?! Think he has waited till his wife is in bed and the kids are asleep. Absolute vile creature!

Worley · 04/01/2013 00:18

I've just had to come out of my lurking to say the Recent posts on the limited options have made me giggle.. I Daren't comment as not sorted my feeds out... would want that showing up in ds1's news feed!!

Worley · 04/01/2013 00:19
  • wouldn't!!!
BantaBaby · 04/01/2013 00:20

NoMore - I still don't quite understand how he's not what you thought he was - was this that he'd been messaging people for IE or something? or a fake picture?

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lubeybooby · 04/01/2013 00:25

Bant I think NoMore mentioning his wife might be a clue there...

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BantaBaby · 04/01/2013 00:27

I re-read through the thread and all I saw was that Juliette had done some digging and he's not what he appears. But I don't know how. I didn't see anywhere that he was married.

VelvetSpoon · 04/01/2013 00:31

Scatty the more you say the more I think I'd be a bit doubtful about him too. FWIW I reckon you've done the right thing.

Worley I hadnt seen the latest posts (as thankfully they don't come up in my newsfeed!) but I have now looked and had a good laugh!

there is a photo I was sent over Xmas I really want to post on there (because its so bloody awful and I suspect it will be the source of some amusement) but I am too scared of it coming up on my actual FB page to attempt it!

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lubeybooby · 04/01/2013 00:33

I've only just seen it mentioned in the 00:17 post above ^

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lubeybooby · 04/01/2013 00:35

Well Mr iPhone finally replied, and we do indeed have a lunch date Saturday.

Those of you in the 'options of limited quality' group see my updates for a selection of the cock pics (and one nice pic) sent to me today! Oh and scattylatte, nice to 'meet' you :o

So, the one with the nice pic, I'm going to call him Mr Tall. He apparently wants to meet and we just swapped numbers.

Someone I was chatting to yesterday has vanished, annoying as he was a potential weekend date.

I have two more very nice potentials and an an armful of other potentials who are ok. So PoF is not bad for once! Maybe there's something in getting to the newbies before they are jaded...

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MirandaWest · 04/01/2013 00:54

Have been having evening Coffee. Twice :) Although now at home alone apart from cat.

DC coming back tomorrow (today I suppose) which will be very nice :) haven't seen them since 29th December which feels a long time ago now.

ddrmum I've been with Mr Nice for 8 months now I think and my DC who are 9 and 7 met him after about 6 months. They knew about him before that and also that he was my boyfriend but they've known XHs girlfriend for longer and seemed fine about her so I felt OK with them knowing about Mr Nice.

He hasn't stayed over when they've been here although has occasionally come round when they're in bed. Mostly we see each other when the DC aren't here though.

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