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Cliches, arse ennui, new year hangovers and glancing at the sweet trolley. Dating thread 34!

999 replies

lubeybooby · 01/01/2013 17:54

New thread time! Great timing with it being new years day...

Most of you know what to do... off you go!

Just in case you don't... just chit chat all your dating related stuff here. If you are new, just jump right in to the blethering. More the merrier!

HAPPY NEW YEAR! :o

OP posts:
Nomorepain · 03/01/2013 20:10

Bant - just a bit of detective work and found out he isn't at all what I thought he was and then just brings the integrity of a lot of od men into question. For me at the moment it is just probably not worth the effort. I'm honest and sincere and I suppose I am wrong to expect the same in return!!

ddrmum · 03/01/2013 20:10

Nomore - oh how horrid!!!! There are some decent sorts out there as the 3Bs are testament to, so don't give upSmile
BB - best of luck with MissGuiness
Wiseoldowl - thank you. I def think that is the way forward and if it becomes a problem then he's not for me, but somehow I think its more long term than that.
Thank you everyoneThanks

OhLittleTownofWesternWind · 03/01/2013 20:10

Banta so where did this one come from? I thought it was all pixies, elves and shoes ...

Nomore - has he sent you a rude text? Maybe give the OD a test for a little while as going back to work is going to be a bit stressful until you get into a new routine. Hope it all goes well.

Velvet or just nip down Waitrose or M&S ... Hope you have a wonderful night.

MsArsebiscuit · 03/01/2013 20:18

Velvet, you could do Coq au Vin - cooks itself and has 'coq' in the name - win-win. Or if you both eat pork, I can give you my hugely successful pork in cider with apples and cream recipe - it has been my ' Man Result' dish for several decades ( and is dead easy and I do a veggie version for my sister ).

Snape - all very exciting about Dumbledore, I hope he's as fabulous as he sounds.

Yoga, really glad Yogadog is feeling better, maybe there's a dog thing going round, my parents' lab has chucked up all over the house this afternoon.

JulietteMontague · 03/01/2013 20:18

Velvet are either of you veggie? if not, how about slow cooked lamb shanks. Vair easy, there are variations but you just put the lamb in a pot with some red wine, cook on low heat for about 3 or 4 hours. You caneven cook it the day before. Add some baked potatoes or lots of lovely other veg, job done.

If you don't want to sleep with him I would put him on the sofa. By all means make someone welcome but I would be a bit Hmm if I cooked for a man on the first date and he accepted a mythical offer of my bed. Nothing wrong with just sleeping with him either as long as you let him know beforehand.

MsArsebiscuit · 03/01/2013 20:19

Oh and Banta, I thought you were planning on saving yourself for Shoegirl ?

VelvetSpoon · 03/01/2013 20:30

Ah, thank you so much for all the food suggestions! Am going to ask him if he prefers pork, chicken or lamb, and then will pester you again accordingly (MsA the pork and apple sounds fab...that would be my choice!)

Juliette the only reason I was going to give him my bed (I never give up my bed normally!) is that the sofa is v elderly and awful to sleep on. And it seemed better to offer him my bed than one of the DSs (who won't be here of course), as my spare room is full of junk and has no bed.

Tbh, I haven't discussed sleeping arrangements, I'm only assuming he wants to stay - once he realises there's no sex on the menu he might disappear off into the night anyway! Hmm

JulietteMontague · 03/01/2013 20:32

Snape breath, 'twill all be ok

Banta so MsG must have something going for her if you are fitting her in before Shoegirl Grin

Parsely don't give it another thought

MsArsebiscuit · 03/01/2013 20:35

No problem, Velvet, let's hope none of my exes are reading because they'll all know exactly who I am when I mention pork in cider ( again, not a euphemism ) .

JulietteMontague · 03/01/2013 20:37

Velvet The point is not the food or the sofa, he is coming to see you.
Just cook what you feel comfortable with and let him sodding well eat it. He is lucky he is coming over, lucky you have offered to cook for him and lucky he is getting the offer of staying, never mind where. You are not a restaurant/hotel, all of those are lovely choices and he should be grateful with whatever he gets.

ike1 · 03/01/2013 20:38

god ive been stuck in miidle earth 4 the last 3 hrs (that could be a euphemism for POF)

VelvetSpoon · 03/01/2013 20:39

Grin at euphemism.

Spaceman sent me a photo of his cock earlier (with this is my cock or something as the title).

The poultry kind, not his actual cock, of course. It made me laugh a lot. We have the same juvenile sense of humour Grin please let him actually be looking for a relationship and not just oneoff sex.

MsArsebiscuit · 03/01/2013 20:41

Actually Juliette is completely right, send him out to the chippy - he gets pork in cider/boeuf bourguinonne/a nice lamb shank when he's actually proved himself worthy of the honour.

ike1 · 03/01/2013 20:43

I probs would 'do' Thorin and one of the other dwarves with long dark hair -nice shafts (to their swords)....

MsArsebiscuit · 03/01/2013 20:44

The cock thing would make me laugh too but then my iPad has just autocorrected 'shank' in my above post to 'up the shankill' which is an in joke I'd completely forgotten about.

ike1 · 03/01/2013 20:44

Yep dont be wastin your talents on him yet Velvet!

ike1 · 03/01/2013 20:49

Crikey I'd probably even 'do' Gollum except he looks like many an inmate on POF.....

ParsleyTheLioness · 03/01/2013 20:50

Thanks everyone.

Yogagirl17 · 03/01/2013 20:56

Parsely yogadog is too old to insure now.

Velvet Friend of mind gave me a very easy "date" recipe which even I managed not to ruin. Put chicken thighs, chopped up chorizo, red onion and baby potatoes in a roasting dish with some olive oil and herbs and bake (if you're interested I can ask my friend for temp and time as I can't remember). You can make it earlier in the day then just heat up when you're ready for it. You can just serve it with a salad and some crusty bread. Yum & Easy.

notthegrinch · 03/01/2013 20:57

Ike1 Chap I know may be close enough, want me to pm you a link?

48howdidthathappen · 03/01/2013 21:11

Velvet I would do beans on toast, washed down with pear cider, then embark on a shagathon. (hopefully]

Classy I am Grin

ike1 · 03/01/2013 21:15

Yeah that'll be cool Grinchy. Not on there anymore but can go incognito. Thanks.

VelvetSpoon · 03/01/2013 21:44

FFS.

Cuthbert just to text me to say he's ever so busy but would like to see me again soon. He doesn't know when but soon.

Hmm

It's rather typical the one man I've met in all these years of OD who doesn't just want me for sex, doesn't really want to see me much at all.

That'll be all hopes pinned on Spaceman then (who sodded off to the supermarket at 8 and hasnt been heard from since...!)

ike1 · 03/01/2013 21:45

It just came up as a long ref no Grinchy on the pm and I could not translate it into a username unfortunately-I am a total technophobe tho.x

mercury7 · 03/01/2013 21:49

perhaps you can get spaceman to agree to wear a tracking device Velvet :o

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