Cliches, arse ennui, new year hangovers and glancing at the sweet trolley. Dating thread 34!

[lubeybooby]

New thread time! Great timing with it being new years day...

Most of you know what to do... off you go!

Just in case you don't... just chit chat all your dating related stuff here. If you are new, just jump right in to the blethering. More the merrier!

HAPPY NEW YEAR! :o

Thanks for everyone who asked about yogadog. He seems a wee bit better today, ate some dinner anyway. Of course he did this after I paid vet a stupid amount of money to check him out and do bloodtests that were 'inconclusive'. Typical. But very relieved he seems to be getting better.

Nomore so do you know his name yet??

Snape I hope Dumbledore is as good in RL as he seems online! Purple trousers and everything, he sounds like a perfect match for you.

Nomore - don't think about growing up, it's such fun being a kid again!!! Well not yet anyway
OWW - the DCs are 4,6 & 8 and are possibly more concerned about Qs from their dad than what mummy is actually doing. ExH is an extremely vindictive and unpleasant individual grrrr!!!! really like your approach, that could work for me, though he doesn't have children.
Juliette yes, it is early days & its not an imminent intro, but something I want to get clear in my head iykwim. They are quite young and the bed thing will be an issue as my middle one still gets into my bed - more so since contact with their dad has resumed, so sleepovers are a long way off just yet.....well at my house at least !!!

Glad he's on the mend Yoga.

Yes ddr both of mine still wander around in the night ... Not time for sleepovers when there are children in the house for a good long while yet. We have had a few full nights together but they take a certain amount of arranging. But there's plenty of time, no need to rush as we're both hoping this won't be a short term thing.

Yoga - no don't know his name. That was my opening text!! Sent half hour ago and no response yet!!

Snape - dumbledore sounds perfect!! Very excited for you!! Ha ha he just came up as fumble ore on my predictive text!!!

Ddrmum - dating just seems so grown up and I'm not used to it. So instead I just giggle like a child!!

So, I definitely have a date on Saturday.

Spaceman is coming here for dinner :)

I know you will probably all say he should be taking me out etc, but I won't eat really (I hate eating in front of men I like) so it would be a waste. Plus he's pretty broke. He offered to cook for me, but I feel more comfortable in my house, than at his in the back end of beyond.

Now I just have to clean my house from top to bottom in the next 48 hours and stress over not only what to wear but what to cook...

I've just realised it's absolutely ridiculous that 'snape' is going on a date with 'dumbledore' he actually sounds fab.

Obviously he will be awful in real life. His minus-points are:

(1) has lesbian best friend/ex girlfriend who he describes as his closest friend. Just like Voldemort. it all just got a little bit too Harry potter which adds to my suspicion that I made him up

(2) technically on hiatus at the moment, but has job to go to. This vaguely pink-flags potential cock-lodgery, but certainly not an issue at the moment and i'm not that bothered - Don't want to be looking for issues in someone I haven't actually met yet.

(3) has poly leanings. Not sure I do, although poly would have been preferable with the DCs dad to the secretive fucking around...and that would only be an issue if there were actually a relationship at some point (watch as I over-think!) I don't do poly as the herpes-conversation is excrutiating & I'd rather have it as seldom as possible. Can't honestly say I'm that bothered by ethical poly as long as everyone is ok and honest...

OMG - he text me his name!!!! Literally just his name and a kids!!!!

He is either very shy, very weird or not interested! What do you think?

Nooooooooo not a kids a kiss!! Bloody phone!!!

velvet OOOooooOoOooOooo!!!

What are you going to cook? (This is more important to me than what to wear.)

(((yogadog))) (dog hugs are allowed)

Hi Snape - thanks very much - sound advice indeed!!!!From what I can see so far, he has been completely honest with me as I have with him, so 6mth is a good time to see what's what.
Really hope that your date with Dumbledore at NHM is a fantastic success
Yoga - so glad that yogadog is on the mend

Velvet- do something easy that cooks itself so you don't have to fuss over it. Maybe something slow cooked!!! Think you will have a particularly good time if the date is at your house!!!!! Yay!!!!!

Have all the doubts about his other women been resolved?

I have no idea what to cook. I may bung something in the slow cooker I have never used before and hope for the best.

He likes good food. It is doubtful he will get anything better than 'ok' given my lack of culinary skill. That will be his first disappointment of the evening.

I think he is expecting to stay here (that's fine, I'll give him my bed and sleep in one of the DSs) and also that we'll have sex - which he won't be getting because a) wrong time of the month and b) even if by Sat it isn't anymore, I didn't shag with Cuthbert on the 3rd date so he's certainly not getting any on a 2nd date. And especially not given all the other women knocking around (look at me being all feisty!)

So that will be his second disappointment.

I probably won't get a 3rd date!

Well. To my great surprise, I actually have some really nice possibles from my little PoF adventure. I am extremely shocked [shocked]

I'm glad because no reply so far to me suggesting lunch to Mr iPhone... if I don't hear anything in the next couple of hours I'm going to arrange something else for sat...

OWW - yes, we're thinking this could be longer term so no rush
Velvet - have a fab evening and don't overthink (yep, easier said than done!)
Nomore - ooh sounds promising, little steps and all that. He maybe a bit shy and not used to this dating lark a bit like us. A night of giggling sounds like a perfect date to me, then again maybe I'm just weird lol.
Enjoy!!

Slow cooker option is good

Will not be contacting mystery man again. He is bit of a dirtbag and we are not on same wavelength at all! Thanks Juliette for your detective work.

I may retire to sofa because quite frankly my wanker radar is working bloody overtime at the mo and I find it exhausting and demoralising!

Hi All, I popped in again briefly on NYE. Hope everyone is ok? Had a read of the last page, but find it difficult to keep up with the speed of the thread TBH. Glad there are dates going on, and dogs are improving..,Yoga I got the current cat insured cos the last cat wasn't, and then had the silly vets bill thing. Just couldn't afford it under current circs. I know dogs are a bit more expensive to insure...

Can I run this by you? Is this normal POF stuff, do I just need to stop being a wuss?

Messaged a normal looking bloke tonight, who made a point on his profile of encouraging people to message him. Sent a normal, neutral message. Almost immediately open email tab shows I have a message on POF. No message showing in inbox. Uh, thinks I...try to send another message to say I can't retrieve, thinking the site is playing up, and he has blocked me! No idea if the message was Thanks but No Thanks or something more unpleasant...But blocking!? Overreaction much? An indication of the messages he has had in the past?

NoMore - how did it go from getting his name to him being a dirtbag?

Snape - Don't get all carried away. I'm really pleased Dumbledore sounds so good, but you've been a fount of good calming advice to all of us, time to get some back I think :)

I have a date tomorrow night. Just a quick drink. We'll call her 'MissGuinness'

I know I am a real prude but I am so shocked at mystery man. Are there no decent men doing od at all. 3 b's excluded!! I am just horrified. Makes me feel sick and lose all faith in men completely.

I'm done with od. Well and truly. I'm retiring to my ironing and a marathon greys session.

What with weirdo mystery man, disappearing sailing boy, stupid penguin picker upper and my horrible, horrible ex I have had enough!!! and to top it all off I'm back to work on Monday after maternity leave and I don't want to leave my beautiful, smiley baby girl.

Done with life!

hi ddrmum,
long time lurker but I love this thread.
I agree with Lubey, 6 months seems reasonable time as you will be sure yourself by that time.
I have FWB but I think it will become longer term thing.... his choice to keep us as 'friends' to my DS so that any answers to XH are not awkward. We sleep together occasionally while DS is home but ALWAYS wear pjs if any chance whatsoever of being seen by DS.
All taken very slowly & carefully & DS11 seems very happy with arrangement so far (we were told not to be so childish the other day & life is such good fun, not sure I would want to ruin this by being in heavy relationship at present)....

Ok, so slow cooker it is. What can you slow cook? I really am clueless.

I really really hope he doesn't just want me for sex. I am so used to that being the only reason men are interested in me it puts me on the defensive.

Parsley I confess that if I've had messages from men I'm not interested in, I have sometimes replied and blocked. Normally only if they have sent me something offensive (I know of course you wouldnt have done that) BUT I do confess I also have blocked ones who just weren't for me, only because with some men if you send a thanks but no thanks message they then want to enter into a dialogue about why its a no....I can only assume this chap has had similar.

Don't be disheartened by it though (I know thats easier said than done)

I block if I get three messages without response... So if someone messages me, gets no response, messages me gets no response & keeps plugging away, then they get the ban hammer. That can take place over any period of time.

Or if they're just damn well objectionable.

Dumbledore and I have the same favourite whiskey.

Ridiculous.

Ok, Velvet I need to grow a thicker skin thought I had enough as I am the owner of a large ar*e but obviously not thanks.

Oh, absolutely bant no need to get carried away until real life takes place. It's nice, is all...but nice is all it is just now.

Velvet - How about moroccan lamb or maybe beef bourguignon. Google the recipes. Think Nigel slater does a mean bourguignon