In need if a little help wrt AdultWork

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Hi, I discovered on Friday night that my husband is a member of the website AdultWork. He asked me to read one of his emails as he was out and needed some info, when looking for the email I discovered an email saying his subscription to something was about to run out. I checked this out as have never heard of AdultWork before. I am furious with H! When he got back I gave him a bollocking and he said it was only porn and that he don't think it would bother me (I don't mind him watching porn).
I'm not an idiot and know this is not the same as regular porn and I'm not happy!
I am also rubbish with any kind of technology and was after a little help finding out what really went on. Some good mumsnet friends showed me to a recent thread about this and I have contacted a very kind mumsnetters who has also helped.
Basically he has subscribed to some profiles although these have now run out, the women he has subscribed to are all local to my area. I'm not quite sure what a subscription means.
Also he has been watching directcam things- is this simply watching or do you talk to/interact with these women?
I would appriciate the help as while all this has been going on I married the twunt and had our dc2- which has been very tough for me, and I am more than happy to leave if he has cheated. But obv I need proof as he won't admit to anything unless I have proof! He tried to deny any knowledge of the websites existence at first!!

Thanks

*proved

Another thing I got wrong.

Thanks I have access to his profile so can see everything he has paid for webcam stuff I just don't understand if he is just watching her do her thing or more of a chat where he tells her to do stuff.

You can tell the person on webcam what to do. It isn't just like turning on and watching along with other men...it's more of a private live show.

A friend found her husband had been camming on this site...she looked through his laptop and found that he'd recorded the webcam sessions. She watched them and found out exactly what her husband had asked the sex worker to do, and what he'd seen.

She then talked to him, and he lied through his teeth. As she slowly revealed what she knew, he altered his lie to fit it.

Expect that from your husband, too.

Thanks caja. That's what I thought. Don't think he would record as its a family laptop- although nothing would surprise me any more.

He actually had the cheek to try it on with me today- I think he has an actual problem!!

Do you think writing a letter is appropriate? I'm not good at talking about things, the words just seem to get stuck. It is it too childish???

Your husband has been webcamming with prostitutes, you have proof and you are "thinking about writing him a letter" ?

the words "fuck off out of my life" shouldn't get too stuck

I may include some of that!

You don't need to talk to him about this. What is there to say really? You will just have to listen to long, boring exuses and lies which make you feel even more worthless.

But you are worth so much more. Just tell him it's over. If he asks why tell him you don't respect or like men who pay for sexual services and cheat on their wives so you're moving on.

I think a letter in block capitals with something along the lines of
"Fuck off to the far side of fuck , then fuck of some more when you get there"
would be more than appropriate

So sorry you are going through this , especialy at Chrimbo with a very young DC.
First Chriimbo should be a special one to remember , but not like this.

adultwork IS full of porn so he might not be telling lies ... they just have to pay to view it x the members upload there own porn as pay to view or the seeking members can view girls Live on webcam on the site as well as it being for escorting needs ect so please don't just think hes cheating he might not be xx

personally I would rather my fella booked a escort than has a affair but would also hope he would not feel the need to of if he wanted to try something different ect would ask me to arrange it for him and not go behind my back to do so himself ..

Adultworkgirl - very brave of you to post here. I hope you will not be flamed or abused.

Another adult work thread getting bumped today? That's three!

Adultwork is for men who want to wank over prostitutes home porn videos or book prostitutes. It's mostly for the latter. If he's been uploading loads ofcredits you can be happy he is wanking over hookers (but may still be meeting). If he spends no cash its likely he's just booking hookers.

Found my dh doing it, he was meeting. Woman wasn't interested when I contacted her, told me it's her job and she doesn't care about dw's, my 'h' is a lovely man who is apparently frustrated, according to her. Screw them all.

katiemummy this zombie thread was bumped for dubious reasons today, so best not to engage tbh

I am sorry your H has acted like a vile pig though. x

Men have not evolved to live under one roof with one woman and remain sexually fulfilled, that's the stuff of Victorian fairy tales I'm afraid.

and again

second thread I have seen bumped by this poster tonight to explain why men "need" porn and women should STFU about it

wow just looked at the site myself it's disgusting. I would be devastated if I found my husband on there. I can't imagine how you must be feeling.

Faldelals, I have. I guess I'm just more evolved than you. Anyway, stop reanimating zombie threads for your own shits and giggles.

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