Bacon sarnies in suspenders, jacket strokers, coffee with a small 'c' and LOTS of Coffee with a capital 'C' it's dating thread 32

[lulubellaboozle]

Thought I take the liberty of starting us off again ...

Got an email in the week from 'mr un available and the fall-back girl' which mentioned that a lot of unexpected contact from flaky flakes is seasonal. They don't want to be alone at Xmas. They will instigate contact, suck you back in if you allow them to and then sod-off again in the new year. nods it's an especially nasty time of the year to be single, but it's preferable to dealing with their shit all over again once the lights are packed away for another year and resolutions are made and broken.

Arse yes we must never give up on them.

Snape Mr Fucked up mentioned christmas in his text. I know he will be alone. If he had said something like 'sorry for being a complete cunt I may have at least replied, no hard feeling but I have moved on.

DD has always been a challenge as well. Her tantrums now are not unlike those she had when she was 3 only now she's bigger than me. But this too shall pass. Doing the maths, DD is 11, nearly 12. I'm counting on her being human again by the time she's 16 at which point DS will be 14 and become an stroppy horror. So on the plus side, with any luck they won't overlap. On the down side I have another 6-8 years before I stop wanting to run away from my DCs.

snape who is the Max suit for?

SevenSnapespearesSwimming I'm sure you're right, I had seasonal contact this week from an Ex I've not seen or spoken to in over THREE YEARS! It began "I think you made it clear last time I got in touch that you didn't want to keep in contact...." - clearly I'm well shut of him anyway!

My 2 last things I ordered online just arrived. Yay!

Yoga 2 frog to prince kits. Got them to put in as an extra for my 2 single sisters. Worth it for the laugh. Better than a seasonal wanna be

(Ike crashes back in with a tear streaked face and grazed knuckles) I dont want bloody Bant I want my Mummeeeeeeee

Only trying to help Ike sorry! I have tissues and plasters.

Oh god and my farts stink har har...PARP!!!

That cleared the thread !!!!!!!!(snigger)

Max-suit is for DS1. I only put a great deal of love and care into making presents for people who love and care about me these days....

Poor,poor hungover Ike - told you, lemonade and crisps.

And out of the blue, an email from Mr Talent Show arrives ( his email previous to this was full of wanky nonsense about us having been on 'an intense journey' and me being 'part of him' before he got to the ' I've started seeing someone I work with ' shizzle ). I have no idea whatsoever why he bothered replying to my ' that's lovely, I'm really pleased for you, good luck ' with another load of effusive tosh. I feel like saying ' if you're not offering me spectacular Coffee, please just fuck the fuck off '.

On the plus side, I haven't downed 3 pints of Advocaat and left a message on Maris Piper's voicemail, tearfully crooning ' all I want for Christmas is youooooooooooo, oh babeeeeeeee' . Yet .

I can confirm that 17 is the peak of being a pita. I am one year post peak and sometimes there are glimpses of the kind sweet boy I think is in there.

Meeting Mr Vague soon. He has of course mentioned today's jacket in detail.

In theatre interval so big wave to everyone

Anyone?? I know it sounds pathetic, but I'm feeling sick with nerves and worried it'll be rubbish (due to me, not him!) Last Coffee I had was not so much tepid as stone-cold, so not feeling very confident.

Libby I was about 2 years as withdrew from ex.

It is a bit like riding a bike. I would tell him, perhaps thats just me.

Relax and enjoy

I keep getting viewed on match by a woman who looks really nice. Attractive, 3 years younger than me, about half an hours drive away, 2 young DC. However I'm mentally hung up on the fact she says she doesn't have a favourite book. She can read, she says, just doesn't enjoy it.

Now I know opposites are meant to attract and all but I love reading, I have 300 or so books on my kindle, shelves stacked full of the ones I haven't given to oxfam, and if I go a day without reading I feel a bit odd. I know that's just me, but I can't imagine actually going out with someone who just doesn't get it the same way I do. It would be like dating someone deeply religious, who prays every night and evangelises for their church. Fine for some people, not for me. Something that's so important to one person that isn't shared with the other one. Is that just being silly?

If I met her in a bar, we wouldn't find out about books etc till the 2nd, 3rd, 4th date maybe, at which point I may already be head over heels. But knowing she doesn't enjoy books up front puts me off

Libby, just because the last one was stone cold, doesn't mean that was down to you, or to him. Some couples work well together, some don't, some improve with practice. Don't worry, but a bit if nervousness is a good thing I think.

48, thanks - he knows I'm a bit nervous. Will drink lots of wine and hopefully it will be ok!

Oh yes libby some wine will help.

Thanks Banta. And re the books - I have a similar thing with music. It's been such a passion throughout my life that I find it hard to imagine being with someone who doesn't share it.

Books and music are up there with the good stuff.

A man going on about cars, sport that sort of stuff turns me right off.

I think the fact that I'm on my way to a date/possible Coffee is partly down to all the wisdom, support, etc, from everyone on this thread. I don't post much but I've learned a lot from you all. Thank you. I may update tomorrow depending on how it goes!

Libby, when I went to bed with Mr Maris Piper, I hadn't had any Coffee for 3 years and he was only my third Coffee partner ever - I was terrified, I was worried that he'd be really disappointed with me, all my self-confidence had eked away over the years but it was all fine, we needed a little bit of time to get used to each other and then it was wonderful. My top tip would be to just enjoy yourself.

I'd like a Max costume, I'd put it on when I wanted to be somewhere faaarrr away!

Ike - sorry, I have no sympathy for hangovers. I'm mean like that.

48 I love that you bought the frog to prince kits!!! I may have to get one for one of my fellow single friends - it will def make her .

bant no books is a deal breaker. I don't understand those people. I 'popped' into waterstones today & got Xmas stocking fillers for the DCs. I can spend a happy couple of hours in waterstones, especially if no DCs about. because they know I can't be trusted in a bookshop

Book thing wouldn't bother me. Each to their own.

Surprising given how unfussy I am about stuff like this that I'm still (and clearly destined to remain) unable to find a man interested in me.