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Bacon sarnies in suspenders, jacket strokers, coffee with a small 'c' and LOTS of Coffee with a capital 'C' it's dating thread 32

999 replies

lulubellaboozle · 16/12/2012 14:29

Thought I take the liberty of starting us off again ...

OP posts:
48howdidthathappen · 22/12/2012 10:06

Arse I know what you mean. I sometimes felt like driving my DD to a far and distant place and dropping her off Shock

Yoga It does get better Smile

MsArsebiscuit · 22/12/2012 10:13

48, is your dd 17 ? My smartarsed, gobby son is 17, perhaps 17 is the peak of unbearability.

Yogagirl17 · 22/12/2012 10:18

Am thinking hoping with all my being that girls peak earlier...? If she's this bad at 11, surely by 17 she will a human being again?

At least the nice thing with DDs (as opposed to XHs) is that when they are NOT behaving like gobby, hormonal so-and-sos it's easy to like them again. Smile

48howdidthathappen · 22/12/2012 10:36

Yep my daughter is 17. She has always been difficult. Could never ever just go with the flow. She is quite human now Smile

My son was a shit at 17. By 19 he was over it.

MsArsebiscuit · 22/12/2012 11:04

Ok, so he might be over it in a couple of years, actually he has whole days where he's reasonably pleasant but like your dd has always been very hard work.

My STBXH is rarely overtly nasty, he's just a very manipulative, sly and cold character, fortunately none of the children have inherited that.

VelvetSpoon · 22/12/2012 11:07

Yoga well done on the realisation. That point when you know you don't need the Ex any more is a really important one - good for you! :)

BantaBaby · 22/12/2012 11:18

When I was a student I was introduced to a very mature Camembert described as 'wormy'. It was, in fact, full of worms. Can't touch the stuff anymore

ike1 · 22/12/2012 11:36

Oh dear ...went to the pub with my single mum neighbours last night ...and had a few back here. Had to get up later to be sick....not a good look in your 40s..

SevenSnapespearesSwimming · 22/12/2012 11:40

DD was an absolute nightmare from about 14-15. She wanted to go and live with her dad because she loathed me so much. So I let her. :) the grass really isn't necessarily greener. Now she's fab. DS1 is a monster at the moment (14) but a lot of that is psychological and not necessarily his 'fault' so I'm putting up with a bit of it. The difficult bits are when he tantrums. A 2 year old tantrum ing in a supermarket is one thing. A 14 year old who is taller than me tantruming because he is being old to get off the laptop so his brother can do his homework is actually pretty scary. And I wonder why I'm single! no-one would actually have us

Shopping done! was out at 9AM for iceland and to pick up XPs present (i am a saint...) Need to pick up a joint of whatever meat is left at the supermarket in the yellow-sticker counter on Monday night and then that's it. Still need together a present for ex-in-laws, but I traditionally get that at the next Boxing Day sale...

SevenSnapespearesSwimming · 22/12/2012 11:41

...actually scrub that, I need to find my sewing machine lead and make a grey fleece dressing gown into a 'where the wild things are' max suit.... Hmm

VelvetSpoon · 22/12/2012 11:52

I also have a tantrumming 14 year old.

He gets what his friends call 'the rage'.

It involves shouting, screaming, punching and kicking things.

Apart from the fact he is much bigger and his voice a lot deeper, it is incredibly like the tantrums he had up to the age of about 5....

SevenSnapespearesSwimming · 22/12/2012 11:55

Yeah, it's very similar. at least when they were two you could feign vague amusement and let them get on with it. 'Amusement' to a 14 year old is a running away from home offence. 'You don't understaaaaaaaaaand meeeeeeee!'

VelvetSpoon · 22/12/2012 12:00

God no, laughing at him is like red rag to a bull (mind you it was when he was 3/4 as well).

His friends find it hysterical. I am sure sometimes they deliberately wind him up...

48howdidthathappen · 22/12/2012 12:00

Snape Alot of my sons stuff was from being bullied. He realised if he became an angry young man everyone left him the fuck alone.

I could finish my christmas crap if Mr R&R stops texting me divine filth Blush

notthegrinch · 22/12/2012 12:01

DD1 was horrendous from 12-14 and now is lovely.
DD2 is in her teens and still pretty hideous, her stroppiness started later but it shouldn't be long before she's out the other side, it is horrible though.

Had a conversation about The Coffee, I was so worried!
It's fine though, having tried it with a kick he's becoming quite a fan Xmas Wink

The cheese thing though is beyond weird. How can you not touch cheese?
Arse will try foil and report back.

AndLibbyMakesThree · 22/12/2012 12:11

My DS is only four ... I'm getting scared of what's to come!

Meanwhile, things seem to be going well with Mr Coffee (I really wish I hadn't chosen that name for him - it pre-dates the meaning of Coffee on this thread!), and I'm going to stay at his for the first time tonight. We've been exchanging flirty texts all week, but now that the time has come, I'm terrified!

Any tips on how to cope with potentially having Coffee for the first time after a long spell (over 2 years) without it?!

ike1 · 22/12/2012 12:12

I dont feel well!!!! Nobody cares!!!!! (Ike has teenagerish strop...)

ike1 · 22/12/2012 12:15

Slams door, strops off back to bed

KirstyWirsty · 22/12/2012 12:16

yoga mr cheeky is from RL .. Works in the same company as me but different wing of building .. Just about to reply to your post on my thread .. I'm not ignoring you

SevenSnapespearesSwimming · 22/12/2012 12:21

ike

Brew

There, there. :)

48howdidthathappen · 22/12/2012 12:22

Ike but I gave you bant...just needs to grow his hair Grin

MsArsebiscuit · 22/12/2012 12:24

Poor Ike, hangovers are shite - have you tried paracetemol, lemonade and a packet of crisps ? Always worked for me.

The teenage boy /young man rage thing is really common, they often punch doors or walls, causing them to break ( usually very specific )bones in their hands - I have seen this HUNDREDS of times over the years, I always ask them what they've done, they're usually honest about it and then tell I them how much of a bad idea it is, in the vain hope that they listen.

48howdidthathappen · 22/12/2012 12:31

Arse My son always listened. Just forgot it all as soon as he left the building.

48howdidthathappen · 22/12/2012 12:41

Mr Fucked up has just texted again! I bet he can't fucking believe I am ignoring him.

If I may Arse Fetid Moron Grin

MsArsebiscuit · 22/12/2012 12:48

Oh aye, 48, I always suspected as much but I consider it the least I can do for their poor frazzled mothers - solidarity, sisters !

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