yoga - it's not that I keep giving them the benefit. I think OD is very different for men and women. Men are generally expected to make the first move, send the first email, or whatever. Women can either put up with the huge amount of dross they receive and try and find the good ones, or be more proactive, hide their profile and just contact men they like the look of.
I've been contacted by a few women who I've gone on to meet, the Artist was one, Nurse another, SharkGirl another, all were nice and friendly but turned out for whatever reason to not be long term. The only buzz I've felt after the first kiss was from women I contacted myself - Historian, SurreyGirl being the only two that spring to mind. If I think of it like meeting people in RL, in a bar or whatever, I might approach someone who's a bit haughty or off, and generally I'll think 'sod them' and not approach again. Or, later on, or at another party, I might speak to them again and see if they were having a bad day the first time and are worth talking to again - if I really fancy them that is.
If I don't persist in chatting to the ones I like the look of, I'll end up talking to those who I just feel 'meh' about, and won't get anywhere. And personally I quite like a woman who can take the piss, and can have the piss taken in return. I just haven't got to the point where I work out whether she's generally an arse or just depressed with the dross she's getting online and suspicious about whether I'm a weirdo. Her taking the piss out of my photo was saying that it looked like I was advertising for a mail-order bride, she wasn't actually nasty about my face.