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Men who don't watch porn

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FBworry · 10/12/2012 19:40

I do not believe all men watch porn.

However I wonder why they dont with it now being the "norm"?

Was there never any interest in the first place? Has it lost its shine? Is it a for feminist reasons?

Or is it more of a case of resisting temptation? As in they do want to watch but guilt and/or morals stop them? Fear of being caught?

We live in a time when we are constantly fed the message all men watch porn so nobody ever discusses those that don't watch it.

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ouryve · 10/12/2012 19:43

Mine simply isn't interested and has never been the sort of person to do something simply because other people do it.

Men aren't a single entity with a hive mind, are they?

lalalonglegs · 10/12/2012 19:44

I can't speak for all men that don't watch porn but my husband claims to find it very fake and mechanical. I suppose a lot of men don't watch it for the same reasons that a lot of women don't - they don't find it very sexy.

CaptainNancy · 10/12/2012 19:47

you sound like a journo Hmm but FWIW DH doesn't because he feels porrn is exploitative, degrades women, leads to warped ideas of what sexual behaviour should be etc.
He feels how can anyone get turned on by watching women being abused?

Seems like a reasonable stance to me.

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FBworry · 10/12/2012 19:47

Of course men aren't a single entity and they will all have their own reasons for the whys, I just thought it was interesting discussion as it against the grain.

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SantaJaxx · 10/12/2012 19:49

DH doesn't watch porn because I don't like him too. He did years ago, it caused a lot of rows and pain and now I think he thinks it's just more trouble than it's worth. He does now know about the horrors behind porn as I've told him/showed him evidence but I'm not sure he believes that all porn is forced on the woman.

MamaMary · 10/12/2012 19:52

DH doesn't watch porn because he feels it is exploiting the women; and because, as a Christian, it is clearly seen as destructive in the Bible.

Jesus' words: "You have heard that it was said, ?You shall not commit adultery.? But I tell you that anyone who looks at a woman lustfully has already committed adultery with her in his heart." Matthew 5: 27-8.

Also Job 31: 1. "I made a covenant with my eyes not to look lustfully at a girl."

BlameItOnTheChoirOfAngels · 10/12/2012 19:55

Captainnancy, dh is the same. He doesn't find the exploitation of women sexy.

Meringue33 · 10/12/2012 19:55

Doesn't like it and would rather play Call of Duty with his mates

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FBworry · 10/12/2012 20:03

A journo! I wish I was being paid for this :)

I just tried write neutrally

Mamamary thats an interesting reason . Many people seem to think viewing porn isnt cheating so refreshing to see a different take on it.

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NulliusInBlurba · 10/12/2012 20:04

DH just doesn't get turned on by watching someone he has no connection with on a screen. I can imagine people saying 'oh yeah, that's just what he tells you', but I've made it clear that if he really wanted to watch it I wouldn't mind too much (although I don't actively like it and do think it's exploitative), yet he still has no interest. He's not into porn mags either. He's also totally not into wanking, which I do find rather weird. I do wonder whether his Catholic upbringing is having more of an effect on his life than he thinks is the case.

SolidGoldFrankensteinandmurgh · 10/12/2012 20:05

I've known quite a lot of men who simply aren't very interested in it. In some cases it's because they are not very interested in sex, in some cases it's superstitious reasons, in some cases it's because they prefer their own imaginations.

I have encountered one or two men who are opposed to porn who were creepy, control-freaky misogynists, too.

CailinDana · 10/12/2012 20:05

DH doesn't watch porn because it does nothing for him. I went through a phase of liking it (grew out of that) and tried to get him to watch it with me but he wouldn't - finds it distasteful and a bit weird, not a turn on at all.

HoHoHokeyCokeyPigInAPokey · 10/12/2012 20:07

Same as CallinDana said, it does nothing for him, not a turn on at all.

BelaLugosisShed · 10/12/2012 20:07

With my DH, simply a case of never any real interest, even when he used to be away for work, porn didn't feature in his life at all.
He isn't particularly anti-porn , well, he does think that porn should be far more heavily controlled on the internet, with opt-in and proof of age being the default but that's as far as his thinking on the subject goes - it doesn't have any place in our life at all.
He just doesn't see the point of porn to be honest.

ObscuredByClouds · 10/12/2012 20:07

My dh simply doesn't like watching women who potentially are being abused.

monsterchild · 10/12/2012 20:08

My Dh also doesn't watch porn, and I am not really sure if it's "the norm," or if the sellers of it want us to think so.

DH says basically the same thing other's DH says, which is, it doesn't interest him or turn him on. Same reasons I don't look at it, really.

bradyismyfavouritewiseman · 10/12/2012 20:09

Dh met me no longer after I came out of a very abusive relationship. He says porn reminds him of how I was abused. It makes him feel a bit sick.

He did watch before he met me, but doesn't anymore. He feel is exploitative and abusive.

He also believes very strongly in the link between people watching violent porn and people being violent.

yellowowl · 10/12/2012 20:09

My DH doesn't watch it because he feels it exploits and degrades women and treats them as objects.

AnyFuckerForAMincePie · 10/12/2012 20:10

It's a reasonable question, FB

It pisses me off that on all the porn usage threads, there is always a couple of people who come on to say that women whose menfolk say they don't use porn are stupid, deluded and that they just don't get told about it

I know my H has seen porn (most men have, along with most women at some point) but he doesn't "use" it, doesn't need it and feels that real men should have grown out of it by the time they are out of their teens.

It's a lazy and exploitative way to get your rocks off...he prefers a warm and truly equally receptive/responsive partner to enjoy sex with. Watching others have sex has to be one of the coldest pastimes in the world.

seeker · 10/12/2012 20:11

Mine doesn't watch pron because he is an adult human being with a brain and a heart.

seeker · 10/12/2012 20:11

And he doesn't watch porn for the same reasons..........

Jinsei · 10/12/2012 20:13

DH doesn't watch it. I have never asked why and don't know if it does anything for him, but I do know he thinks it is cheap and distasteful, and degrading to all concerned.

Dededum · 10/12/2012 20:17

Mine doesn't and he does a lot of travelling. Sure he has watched the odd movie on his travels. But he has quite a 'high minded' view of the world and doesn't like to be around people or things that he finds grubby. Little bit sanctimonious, but I suppose it's his protective shield.

ThePinkOcelot · 10/12/2012 20:18

My DH just says it does nothing for him! Not all men, or women for that matter, are interested in it.

MarzipanAnimal · 10/12/2012 20:24

DH doesn't. I think he had the odd look when he was a teenager out of curiosity. He considers it sleazy, fake, distasteful and exploitative, and would also consider it to be cheating when in a relationship.
AnyF it totally annoys me too when people say 'of course all men use porn, they just hide it'. Completely wrong, and sad that they have such a low view of humanity!