Residual Parenting Commitments, The Last Turkey In The Shop, Boiled Bunnies, Men With Fish and Stolen Condoms. Dating Thread XXXI.

[FlorentinePogen]

Get on with it, daters.............

Congratulations, Bant! Brilliant news.

Snape, Nature, anyone else for whom things don't seem straightforward....things will always get better. I promise.

Yoga, your night out sounds lovely.

Thinking past the dreaded C word, 2013 is going to be the year when I ...

• finally put the past where it belongs, behind me
• turn back into myself, and get rid of all the silly, unnecessary defences and fears and anxiety
• feel and enjoy the freedom of having no ties at all with my ex
• appreciate all the good things I do have instead of focussing on what I don't
• come to the end of this transition time of moving and starting my life again, and begin to feel settled and put down some roots
• finish the work on my house
• pay off my credit card whoopee

How about you lot? What's the new year going to bring for you?

In march 2013 I want my man in OZ to return to me. My cherry on the top!

Oh confession! I started stalking his flat today. I am turning into a bunny boiler

Back from Away..

yep, offer of a job, really interesting, but it means spending over half my time in Hungary, with travel possibly on top of that, keeping my flat over here so I can still have the DC with me one week in 4.

Horrible choice to make, there just aren't that many jobs on the ground at the moment. I was hoping I'd wow them enough for them to say I was fine to stay in the UK, but that's not doable.

Only 14 texts from the Artist while I was on the journey back. Well, at least I can use the fact I'm moving to the other side of the continent a backup reason in case I can't quite articulate 'It's not you, it's me. Me is scared of you'

Aw bant congratulations on the job although it doesn't sound like an easy choice.
And 'me is scared of you' is very funny.

Thank you for your best wishes but it was my choice and I'm good with it!
He had a touch of TheArtist trouble (not the condoms thing) and I found his constant persistence wearing.
He says he will win me back. Hmmmm.

Hello all - I've been stupidly busy again and lost track with the thread. Forgive me barging right back in...

Well BC is gorn, but I have a few men knocking about now.

#1FWB, fave fwb, lovely bloke. We do dinner and wine and conversation and then shag. Lives even further away than BC did though (pre hk move!) so opportunities are rare.

Mr H - tall, gorgeous but a bit full on. Met at a fetish fair, suspect he might be a feeder Also suspect he's a bit offended I'm more cautious and not as into him as he is me within three seconds of meeting. Will however go for a coffee with him at some point (probably just to confirm my alarm bells are correctly ringing) to see what he's like in an actual date situation. Texts reveal bad grammar. That makes me miss BC aside from being annoying...

Mr iPhone - him from the iPhone 5 queue ages ago. He still wants to meet.

I really can't be arsed though, with any of em... we'll see. Maybe after xmas when I'm desperate for a shag more organised

Could The Artist and Ironman be a match

Set 'em up!

Although he's not a overtly nutty as TheArtist I'm an independent girl and that independence was hard won.
maybe it's just me but in a room full of men the needy one will hone in on me with exocet precision.

Banta - horrible choice to make. Would you be able to sort out the childcare arrangements to make this work? When do you have to let them know? I would probably turn the job down in the knowledge that I must be pretty shit hot to have been offered one of the first ones I applied for so there will be something else along soon, but I can quite understand why you would be tempted to take it . . . Sounds from your last post that you're leaning in that direction.

Bantababes congratulations! Tough call whatever you decide but it's a major success

As for the Artist, I would have said face to face but I've now skipped even a phone call and am now going to text service. She is indeed scary.

nature is it the absolute end or would you be open to persuasion?

I agree Banta that's a tough choice on the job front...I suppose it depends on how much you need work in the immediate future and whether you could apply for others as and when they coe up when you are actually working. OWW when you put that cosmic order in can you do the same for me...all you have to write is: 'ditto...as OWW'

There's alot of emotionally scary peeps in the OD world. Had another chat with Mr Anarcho-Punk last night yes I know - men in bands...seemed to all be going ok ...got onto a chat about past relationships I gave a brief synopsis of mine...he went all odd. 'Oh' he said 'a litany of sad endings would make an excellent emo concept album'....then exclaimed that I had opened up a wound and that he 'needed to be alone'.
WHAAAAAT??? Maybe Online Dating is not for this little flower...

His relationship endings would make an excellent emo concept album-not mine...just want to clear that up ...

Hahahaha!! Worraknob!

and seraphim provides the perfect summary once again

Short but sweet, Banta.

Congrats on the job offer, btw - I'm redundant as of 31/12, so I'll be in the same boat - won't be flying to Hungary for an interview though.. have you not seen Severance?

right- I'm now single again. She cried, it was horrible.

Fuck.

sounds grim banta :(
but she had it coming

the artistic temperament can be such hard work!
not into witchcraft is she?
perish the though that she should be getting busy with your wax effigy and the pins

Banta that sounds horrible! even when it's the right thing to do it stinks to hurt someone else. 14 texts though, I'm assuming that wasn't a conversation just successive texts? That is scary. I'm a firm believer that there is someone for everyone and somewhere there is someone perfect for the Artist, but it isn't you!

Aww banta it is shit when you have to hurt someone.

Oh dear Banta..and I dont want to make light of the horrible convo you just had..but you can see from my previous post it is easy for some to get 'upset'..

from what banta says she had quite intense feelings for him, she likes to have it all her own way and she's not good at keeping a lid on her feelings.

She might not handle rejection well...?

No..oh dear