snape your insight into OD for younger people was fascinating. I am in my mid 50's and until I started reading this thread had always assumed that the issues I experienced were either my fault or peculiar to my generation. I had assumed that because OD and social media were the norm for people in the 20's, 30's and 40's both men & women would approach meeting this way with a degree of integrity.
This thread has shown me just how wrong I was.
My OD experiences led me to believe that the pool of men in their mid- late 50's was both very limited and incredibly skewed. Most seemed to be carrying enormous (far more than normal at their age) baggage and be treating the whole experience like a sweet shop. They were determined to taste a little bit of every jar and had absolutely no intention of forming any kind of longer term relationship. They appeared to think that casual sex was what OD was all about. I also experienced a great deal of generalised bitterness and disdain towards women, often borne of the fact that they were the ones that had been pushed out of their comfy marriages by women who had realised that in their 50's they still had a chance to build happy independent lives.
Of course I realise that this might be a massive generalisation, but that was my OD experience.
I quickly decided it wasn't for me but came away, slightly bruised and certain that there had to be better ways of meeting people.
What interests me now, is that, if we all find our OD experiences so grim,why can't we collectively come up with a better way to meet genuine people with just a flake of integrity.