moving tell him to sod off. This boat has sailed. tell him you're busy.
deanmartin you're very kind, thank you. I think you're an absolute gent, it's so sweet to hear things from your perspective. :) if I might be very rude, how old are you? You seem to display lovely, welcomed traditional values that i think are amazing. to generalise wildly, I think younger men (forgive me, your name on here and the loss of your lovely wife puts you, in my mind as a bit older than I) are affected by the easy availability of pornography - I know it's still available to older men, but I think older men react differently to the prevalence of porn... Men in my age group grew up with women being seen more as commodities, which has been exacerbated by a kind of pornification of society, hence the attitude of photographs of disembodied genitalia and a lack of respect.
I'm covered in tattoos, I dress to please myself and generally look like I've been pulled backwards through a hedge. I'm an avowed feminist, I want to be treated as an equal...and I want to be cherished, I want romance. :) I don't see that as a contradiction.
Thank you for all well-wishes for today. I think it went ok, I am currently resisting running over and over and over the interview (shit! He meant that. I should have said other stuff') but therevwas LOTS of nodding and note scribbling and they were actually very nice people. I really hope I get it, it would solve a shit-ton of problems, but, as we say, 'what's for you, wont go by you' there's always greener grass. :)