Active discussions

Meet the Other Phone. Only the apps you allow.

Meet the Other Phone.
Only the apps you allow.

Buy now

Please or to access all these features

Talk
Relationships

Mumsnet has not checked the qualifications of anyone posting here. If you need help urgently or expert advice, please see our domestic violence webguide and/or relationships webguide. Many Mumsnetters experiencing domestic abuse have found this thread helpful: Listen up, everybody

Original poster

Residual Parenting Commitments, The Last Turkey In The Shop, Boiled Bunnies, Men With Fish and Stolen Condoms. Dating Thread XXXI.

999 replies

FlorentinePogen · 04/12/2012 19:49

Get on with it, daters.............Smile

OP posts:
KirstyWirsty · 10/12/2012 21:54

Yoga I really am a tart .. TheAuditor has only been history for a week

Got theCop on Wednesday as well but not sure if he's going to be a Goer .. Barely heard a cheep from him since last week .. Although he texted to say that I am 'gorgeous' after our first date .. Mr Cheeky is a sexy beast and keeps me entertained with lots of rather filthy texts

JulietteMontague · 10/12/2012 21:57

Nature wonderfully normal imo. No one is perfect, I personally think some people take time to settle down and are more, not less likely to show odd behaviour in the initial stages. Contrary to the MN mantra I know but sometimes one partner subconsciously to 'test' the commitment initially by letting others see the 'real' them very early. Enjoy Smile

48howdidthathappen · 10/12/2012 22:02

snape my mum walked out on my dad with 2 preschoolers in 1967. Didn't even have time to pack a bag. Women rarely left husbands back then. She started from scratch with nothing but the clothes we stood up in. I was brought up to believe women can and do Smile

Knock em dead!

48howdidthathappen · 10/12/2012 22:23

I am so fickle Blush

Gets up off sofa. Have joined OKC, sorting profile. Spotted a couple of live ones Smile

Sometimes I want a hand with the DIY Wink

OhWesternWind · 10/12/2012 22:30

Erm, I appear to be going to meet his mother tomorrow night. Hayulp.

Got to be a good sign though?

BantaBaby · 10/12/2012 23:06

Can't be a bad one, OWW

48 - 'live ones'? You mean fish?

Pixiebelle123 · 10/12/2012 23:12

OWW - I'd say that a very positive sign Smile. Good luck, meeting the mum is always scary!

48 - good for you. I liked okc, there seemed to be less men sending me hairy chest pics on there than POF!

Kirsty - you are a man magnet and I'm incredibly jealous

Lulu - that would really upset me if it happened to me, it's quite disrespectful of him. But if he's genuinely sorry and you really like him then give him the benefit of the doubt for now but keep a look out for any other red flags.

Sorry to those I've missed, haven't been able to catch up on it all yet.

Things seems to be going too well with mr tall, it's scaring me a little. We email and text loads of times a day and have arranged to spend a lot of time together this weekend. He's handsome, has a great job, seems to really like me and is really nice - too good to be true? I'm scared of getting hurt.

Also, I told the history teacher politely that I'm not interested, he replied that he'd already worked that out. Why on earth has he been sending me so many pointless one line texts then?! Hopefully he'll leave me alone now!

48howdidthathappen · 10/12/2012 23:14

banta Potentials. Hoping nothing fishy about them Smile

OKC matches? is that everyone on your area?

48howdidthathappen · 10/12/2012 23:58

pixie Remember you are only seeing a snapshot. No harm in enjoying the ride Smile who knows?

Yogagirl17 · 11/12/2012 10:24

Bant you realise it was all doomed as soon as the words 'boiled bunnies' made it into the thread title?

OhWesternWind · 11/12/2012 10:27

Yoga - I thought it was the stolen condoms - double doom!!

Yogagirl17 · 11/12/2012 10:49

Well yes, that too, but didn't we notice a couple of threads back that anyone who makes it into the thread title is doomed!?

KirstyWirsty · 11/12/2012 10:53

The submariner was gone before he made the thread title :)

OhWesternWind · 11/12/2012 10:55

Yep, that's right so La Artista has two mentions in this title - not a hope! (I did notice when the title was put up but didn't want to say anything as it seemed a bit negative, but the Curse of the Thread Title is alive and well).

BantaBaby · 11/12/2012 10:57

I'd noticed the doomed thing - didn't bring it up though in case invoking the jinx causes the jinx, if you know what I mean.

However, that means none of you can ever date a man with a fish picture as that'll be doomed too. If its any help, for the sake of solidarity, I'll vow to never date a man with a fish picture either.

Yogagirl17 · 11/12/2012 10:58

Duh - just noticed that the stolen condoms were in the thread title too (it's very long).

Original poster
FlorentinePogen · 11/12/2012 11:03

..just noticed that the stolen condoms were in the thread title too (it's very long).

Yoga, do you normally have problems with paragraphs ?

Smile
OP posts:
OhWesternWind · 11/12/2012 11:11

If any one of us dates someone with a fish picture, then we deserve it to be doomed.

Yogagirl17 · 11/12/2012 11:27

Ha Florentine - no I can actually read entire paragraphs that aren't even written in text speak but the thread title disappears away into the status bar. Wink

mercury7 · 11/12/2012 12:11

re the 'thread title curse'...we may be confusing cause and effect here?

The inventor of the thread title may just be picking up the various clues that some dating endeavor or other is 'doomed'?

Poppysquad · 11/12/2012 12:25

Date Update: Well Boring Engineer was just that - a boring engineer. Half way through the evening I felt myself thinking - I can't stand this.

I wrote to MercMan yesterday - not telling what an idiot he is thinking he can buy his way into someones knickers but telling him that there are more suitable lovely women out there for him.

So back to square one. Shed a tear or two on the way home from the date, I was feeling a bit sorry for myself. I am wondering if I have the energy for this. Plus, it just highlighted to me how lovely some aspects of Half Italian Stallion were. Maybe think about the positive things I liked - he was intelligent, good fun, he made me laugh, he was caring. A short list for someone new?

Another guy who has mailed me, sounds a bit like MercMan. He reckons that he wants to meet someone who can see during the week so that he has weekends free for his (18 year old!) son - compartmentalising again?

HellonHeels · 11/12/2012 12:38

Poppy is he working away during the week and home to wife and family at weekends perhaps?

Santasapunkatheart · 11/12/2012 12:43

Poppy...I am sorry that you were sad after the date. I also think that a man who is setting rules like that before even dating anyone, is quite into control. He could have talked about it on the date - nicely. But also some people would worry that he may actually have a wife tucked away that he goes home to every weekend.

Come on girls (and boys) - I want to see some lovely matches. Boring engineer sounds a delight.

48howdidthathappen · 11/12/2012 13:11

Hmmm. Wonder if I am guilty of compartmentalising. I told Mr Fuck I would always go to his place, mine was out of bounds. I needed to keep him in a separate box to the rest of my life. No merging. The texting often did my head in, looked on it as an intrusion into my space.

Am I a bloke Confused Grin

ike1 · 11/12/2012 13:24

Oh it can be a bit rubbish The Architect2 -lets call him Mr CRASS (after the band he loves sooo much) accused me of leading him on by dressing like a schoolgirl (was wearing a vintage school blazer) but having the libido of an octogenarian! Presumably cos I did not stick my tongue down his throat outside the pub and gave him a matey hug instead!!!