Jaffa cos he's a cock and wants to keep all his options open?
Snape good luck tomorrow, hope it goes well
I'm impressed by all the DIY'ers!
Bantababy bells are ringing and they aren't the jingle ones! I think there is a lack of self awareness and empathy going on and that she genuinely can only look at things from her own perspective.
and my update, well STBXH is being a controlling Twunt nothing new there
Had a lovely weekend with Mr Ex Army, been seeing him 3 months now. I love being with him, we have a lot of fun, he makes me laugh and has been very understanding about my insecurities as a result of treatment by STBXH .....maybe a small red flag though, keeping an eye on things.
We went to a friend of mines party on Saturday, we both got very drunk but him more so than me. There was a woman there who I know to say hello to and who I spoke to briefly at the beginning of the night and introduced him to.
The party was packed and throughout the evening we bumped into her a few times as she moved past us, a few smiles and laughs. Towards the end of the evening we were standing together when this woman passed us again and we had to move to let her through. Mr EA suddenly says to her "I've been watching you all evening", not in a lecherous way, but it was an odd thing to say and she was slightly confused and laughed and walked on. He knew as soon as he said it that I didn't like it and said to me "sorry, I don't know why I said that". We had a few words, mainly me saying that is really inappropriate why on earth would you say that to a stranger and him apologising and saying I don't know why or what I meant. I did get upset, I don't want to be in any sort of relationship where there is even the slightest question that who I am with is eyeing up other women or looking at other options.
He got upset to and swore he had no idea why he said it, and told me how much he thought of me, how lucky he was to of found me and then told me he loved me. I've sort of thought that is how he felt, and I always expected to it to be said when drunk. He doesn't find it easy to do emotional chats when sober. He sounded genuine and remorseful and a bit confused by what he had said the women.
The next morning he said he thought I wouldn't be talking to him after what he had said last night. I said it was a stupid thing to say and he said, I know.
We had a lovely sunday. I don't get any sense in any other way that he is a player or looking at other women but he is very gregarious when he has had a drink.
so my question is, if he really was hitting on someone would he do it with me standing beside him. His apology and remorse seemed genuine, he seemed upset with himself and a bit confused. But, it is an odd thing to say and it is bothering me because obviously I am posting on here and I am turning it over in my head.
I guess I was so shocked when I discovered my STBXH was having an affair and I question what I missed and didn't see and now I am sure I trust my own judgement.
Sorry for the ramble!