A Sex Question......

[moonblushtomato]

DH has a bee in his bonnet (or underpants) that we are not having enough sex. Just wondered what the going rate is these days?
We are in on our early 40s, have been married for nearly 8 years and have 3DCs aged 15, 6 and 4.
btw we are averaging about once a week which I'm quite happy with.

offred, indeed

the posting history is the big fat clue

thanks, fab

Bleurgh it's a big AF love in...

Although sometimes I do secretly think "argh, where's AF dammit?"

ha ! Me 'n' Fab have history innit

We sure do .

Proper love story... Bleurgh!

for the record, I have never touched fab in my life

How can you deny us??

arrgh

You're not supposed to laugh.

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@ Anyfucker: I don't have a problem with your attitude towards slllooomee's posts, but that's not what I was calling you out on. What bothers me about this thread is the response to the OP, and the fact that many posters seem to continue to be more interested in reacting to the much more extreme situation of sllllooommee, when that was effectively a hijacking of the thread and has supposedly been dealt with anyway.

Mismatched drives, and arguments over frequency, are widespread in even healthy marriages. Does anyone else have any constructive experiences or insight to offer the OP, or to someone else in the OP's situation who may persevere to this point in the thread ?

spoony, when the OP posts and runs on such a controversial subject as this...it always goes like this

derailing and everyone puts their two pennorth in

several questions have been asked of the OP, and I (among others) have asked her to come back and clarify some stuff but she hasn't

am not sure how helpful the thread is at all on such little information, tbh

Spoony- the problem is the op hasn't come back and no-one can offer advice because there isn't enough info in what was posted to do anything other than speculate. Besides I did post a speculating post just a bit ago.

Maybe people don't want to try and advise the OP anymore now they have posted and gone without answering any questions that would help one understand her issues, so of course the thread has gone on to discuss other posts.

I'm baaaaack!

Oo er, what a carryon! I'm not entirely sure what all (or much, more to the point) the above is all about???

But, getting back to the crisis, me and DH had a chat earlier this evening and think we've got it sorted out.

The main problem is that when its bed time, for me that means sleep time, so,we're gonna try and re-schedule the rumpy to earlier in the evening when all DCs r in the land of nod.

The whole question of sex drive is an interesting one as mine has altered beyond all recognition since DCs, and being in my 40s, I thought I might get a surge? A friend suggested it may b the pill I'm on? (Cerazette btw)

Anyway, thank to all those giving helpful advice, to the others , maybe you need to get yourselves a hobby........

It is so funny that whenever a sx question like this comes up the same old posters come out with the same old stuff... that is 'does he help around the house enough'? As if for some reason that has anything to do with the amount of sex in a relationship and then AF always says something about him expecting to be serviced or some such similar rubbish
I think you lot live in the dark ages

That's helpful advice penny

about as helpful as most of the other advice yes

Maybe you could explain why you think it is irrelevant?

I'm a bit that you post, bugger off then come back just as people are voicing their opinions of your post and run act and then you are blase like that.

Actually I think it is probably true that women who live with men who do fuck all in the house actually want to do fuck all with their men in the bedroom.

Love is in the air... Dum dum dee deeeee

OP - it's natural for your sex drive to lower innit! The pill probably doesn't help though. My anti-depressants made mine lower, but now it's normal again and sexy time is every night

I haven't buggered off anywhere!
Is housework a trade off for sex then? how many men really do fuck all in the house these days

oh blimey you weren't saying that to me!
what is irrelevant ?