Twirling body builders, dominant alpha males and been hurt in the past-Dating thread part 29

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Took the liberty of starting a new thread.

Off you go ladies and gents...

Skye I would just echo what everyone else has already said, proceed with caution. I have invested too much emotionally before with OD and it hasn't ended well for me yet. I hope he's lovely and that there's a spark between you but just be prepared incase things don't go to plan.

So did anyone have a date last night?

I went out and spent the night talking to a gorgeous man who seemed really keen on me. It was all going so well until I found out he was married .

On a happier note, dishy Dr and I are still messaging each other and he wants to meet me. But he lives in London and I'm wondering whether it's worth travelling that far for a date. The trouble is there is no one actually in my area that I want to meet. What do you think ladies (and Bantam)?

pixie how far would it be to travel to meet dishy Dr (oh er predictive text just turned that to fishy?!) ? I suppose the thing to think about is lets just say you made an amazing connection and wanted to see him or on a regular basis would the distance make it completely impossible? if not, I would say go for it - my best first date was a Saturday lunchtime I'm London, so I'm biased!!

In London not I'm London, bloody phone!

How did you find out he was married, Pixie? And how fats London in travel time? I'd say an hour max would be doable but even that might be a pain on a regular basis. But you could always meet halfway.

How did you find out he was married, Pixie? And how far's London in travel time? I'd say an hour max would be doable but even that might be a pain on a regular basis. But you could always meet halfway.

Sorry didn't mean to post twice.

One of his friends let slip that he was married, grrr at some men!

London is 40 mins by train for me or about an hr drive depending on what part of London he's in. It's further than I'd like to travel to meet someone but he just seems so lovely!

pixie I would say go for it! an hour isn't too bad, it's 30 mins if you meet halfway.

Well, that could be do-able if it's forty mins or so. Worth meeting up with him, anyway. He sounds promising!

Boo hiss to the shitty married man though. How can people like that live with themselves?

pixie it depends what you want. If you want a relationship where you can go to weddings with someone, spend the occasional weekend with someone, go for nice meals in the city and walks in the country, then londonman isn't too far. If you want to be able to pop round for coffee (either C or c) on a short notice Wednesday eve after work, Londons a bit far. But 40 mins isn't impossible at all.

Thanks for the feedback guys, I think I'll meet him and then see what happens. I quite fancy a trip to London anyway

I'd like to add to something Bantam said upthread re men dating women who have kids:-

In my first two LTRs, which I told you about on the last thread, both women had kids. The first had a daughter only four or five years younger than me, which was a bit weird...

The second had a two year old who I'd occasionally look after. I honestly never gave it a second thought whether a woman I would or could potentially have a relationship with had children or not.

Welcome Poppy, told you you'd get honest answers here.

Pixie, that doesnt sound too far. and you can go shopping too, bonus :-) Thanks for the advice. It is very easy to get carried away when its all anonymous. and GRR at the married man. When I used to go out a lot in a local town, I was always chatted up by the rugby players on a Saturday night. I used to ask a mate if they were single before Id commit to a date and 90% of them were bloody married!

Me and match.man agreed that we would meet sooner rather than spend hours chatting, but because he was off sick last week we have ended up emailing for hours. That will ease off a bit if hes back to work on Monday, then we meet Tuesday, so I guess that will be the first decider, how we get on, and do we want to meet again. We are having a meal too, so I hope we get on, or it will be a long time, lol.

He has made it quite plain that he is paying. Refreshing after my last date let me buy him a drink, lol.

Im so new and crap at all this dating lark I just want to fall for the first guy I meet

I hope we all have a good weekend.

I am off to the hell that is a baby shower. Full of smug marrieds, ALL of whom are bringing their husbands with them. And who all think I'm weird because I'm incapable of getting a man. As you can probably tell, I am really looking forward to it...

sponge I promise they do not all think you are weird for not having a man. Only half of them will think that.... The other half will be wishing they were single too and will be bloody jealous (although they wld never admit it). Not saying this just to make u feel better - it is true!! Anyway hopefully you'll get some nice free food
(since when do husbands come to baby showers?)

Yoga, have PMd you

sponge Baby shower? Are we in bloody America? Honestly, what is it with all their traditions leaking in over here? I must be an old fashioned bugger (at grand old age of 33 ) but it get's right on my nerves.

I'm sure they won't all be thinking that. Like yoga says, half will be looking at their husbands (husbands at a baby shower?) and wishing they were single. Also, you can look at the women who are incapable of going anywhere without their husbands and be glad you aren't so pathetic.

I understand how you feel though. It's very difficult not to feel judged sometimes. Honestly though, I do believe we are our own harshest critics. Sometimes when I'm feeling bad I will go to my friends, "I feel like you just think of me as x, y and z" and they literally have NO idea what I am even talking about.

Oh and Pixie, I think 40 minutes to an hour is totally double if you like someone. My flatmate and I are in Camden but her boyfriend lives in Bromley. It takes him an hour to get here from there and they seem to manage fine. It's a bit annoying sometimes on work nights etc as obviously he's not near enough to just pop round for a cuppa and what not. They are still very happy though!

Sponge The husbands that are surgically attached to their partners go to baby showers. The same husbands that are overenthusiastic loud dads you want to murder in the park
The same husbands whose wives say things like 'he's taught me everything I know' (short book then)
I live in a nappy valley central. HTH

Sorry to barge back in. Just got this message after quite a dry weekend;

"They say a good painting is worth a thousand words, i looked at your smile and the beauty that emanates from your looks and i wondered how many words it would be worth, you are so beautiful My lady even the angels would be jealous..I would love to know you"

Shame he's in San Jose

Will go back and catch up, with end of last thread now!

argh, the engineer just sent me another one of his weird texts - 'hey sista, what u up to?' I don't get it - he doesn't talk like that! And how do I reply to that with, "Well, I was just thinking about how to tell you that there's no chemistry between us and I don't think I want to see you again."? If he would suggest a third date it would be easier to say no and then explain why. Maybe I shouldn't reply to the text at all and send an email?

Hi. Well the I/2 Italian Stallion is not on his way here today after all. He sent me an email this morning, and I phoned him and we talked. He says that he is totally tied up with the kids and keeping things going in the home for the four of them at the moment. He was away yesterday seeing his Mum and now has to cook, wash iron etc. I offered to go round and see him, but he says that he doesn't want me to be there watching him ironing. He hasn't got time to see me next week either.
He thinks we should slow things down a bit. Although some of the initial rush was driven by him and his emails to me
He also that the distance is a bit of an issue - we live just over 30 miles apart although it is rutal and can take 45mins to drive
I do feel brushed off - pushed away.

I am worried that I have frightened him off - being too intense.

I wish I didn't think so much of him

It's not you Poppy, it's him. Get rid and find someone else.

Easy to say Sweet not so easy to do. I thought and still think he's lovely

This thread is fantastic. So much help and information.

Which I appreciate Poppy, but you've known him 2 weeks and seen him 3 TIMES. He's not very lovely if he blows hot and and cold like that, is he?