Twirling body builders, dominant alpha males and been hurt in the past-Dating thread part 29

[Milkandlotsandlotsofwine]

Took the liberty of starting a new thread.

Off you go ladies and gents...

[bantamrooster]

poppy as I said before, I don't think you've done anything wrong here, sometimes people do blow hot and cold. Men are not rabbits in a headlight, you'd have to be much much more full on (talking marriage, baby names, asking about his pension scheme etc) to scare someone off if he was keen on you. Maybe it's moving too fast that's possible but as you say a lot of that is down to him. Just decide whether it's possible to slow down, communicate that you're okay with that if you want and make him do all the running. All of it.

He may be lovely in lots of ways, but he's just shown himself to be a bit of a PITA in others, so try to take a step back and see if you want to keep trying

[Scattylatte]

Oh god sponge that sounds like hell. Can you get drunk?

Poppy get busy, push him out of your mind. sounds like he has checked out. try not to ask him questions like 'where are we going' or anything like that. leave him to his ironing and find someone who will appreciate your loveliness

[WarmFuzzyFun]

Goodness me! I just withdraw from MN to deal with some RL stufff and what happens? A new thread. Wow. I will go back and read the end of old thread and 128 messages on this one!

Slow the down, I am trying to catch up!

Hope all the stuff I read is going to be good news...

[snapespeare]

Bumped into ex flatmate and his gf, so went for a pint. Discussed voldemort. General consensus being that he is a twat.

So why do I feel weepy?

[snapespeare]

...and poppy I agree. If he wanted to make time to see you, he would. Ironing or hot date?! You're too far down his priority-list.

[SweetSeraphim]

Aww Snape

Suppose because you were talking about him, brought your emotions to the surface.

[mercury7]

is it just me or would the phrase 'i'm feeling naughty today' make anyone cringe
we've been exchanging messages and it all seemed fine till he came out with that toe curling little boy phrase

[KirstyWirsty]

watch fingers crossed on the house

snape it's only been a couple of weeks it's to be expected that its all still a bit raw

yoga are you going to put the engineer out of his misery?

I have a wee extra date for a couple of hours on Tuesday night with TheAuditor before our 'Big Date' (his words) on Thursday when neither of us are driving

[Yogagirl17]

Hi snape, sorry you're feeling weepy today. It's bound to happen from time to time, all those years of bottled up emotions aren't just going to disappear overnight. Still think you have been absolutely amazing to have gotten through the last 3 weeks without contacting him. Talking about him with friends and feeling weepy is still a much better outlet for those emotions than sending him texts & emails so you're still being amazing.

poppy He may be lovely. And he may genuinely like you. But just remember you've only known him a couple of weeks. You know so little about him really. Like Bantam said, it's very unlikely you've scared him off by being too intense - it sounds like it was mutual. But he may well have scared himself a bit by getting so intense so quickly. It does sound like he's taking a step back. If you don't think he's just messing you around then try and do the same and wait and see what happens. (but if you stay on this thread for any length of time you'll also realise I'm usually one for the 'lets give things the benefit of the doubt' point of view - I'm not often always right)

I know the engineer is now at work all evening so have ignored his text and thinking about sending an email. ARgh, why is this so hard?!

[KirstyWirsty]

Barf!! mercury

And sponge hope the baby shower wasn't too torturous .. Have these men not got football to watch??

[mercury7]

and yet another bloke has e-mailed me a pic where he has sunglasses on
I mean whats the fucking point soft lad...I need to see what you look like.

... even with the shades and a polo neck jumper he looks about 15 years older than the age given in his profile.
Who's is he trying to kid

[mercury7]

yes I want to BARF!!

it could've been worse, he might've said 'norty'

[Yogagirl17]

Kirsty a pre-date before your date? A bit like an amouse bouche, what fun!

(no idea if I spelled that right and can't bothered to look it up)

No, i haven't put him out of his misery yet - he won't be home from work till 11pm so I have until then.

[lubeybooby]

Sooooo.... I have made the decision to end things with BC. I shall break the news next time I see him. He's definitely gone into shutting me out mode again despite doing a really good job of keeping his promise for aaaages... sigh.

I think I might date myself... take myself out to nice places, laugh inwardly at my own amazing jokes to myself then come home and masturbate til I can't see or walk. I generally fancy myself and think I'm bloody great, I also don't care if I don't have make up on and don't shave my legs. I don't mess myself about or take ages to reply to myself. I like cats and music and mountains and science and cheetos, and so do I. I have an awful lot in common with myself really.

Fuck, I'm perfect for me!

[mercury7]

laugh inwardly at my own amazing jokes to myself then come home and masturbate til I can't see or walk :o :o :o

[KirstyWirsty]

I didn't know what an amuse bouche was .. An appetiser .. That sounds about right for Tuesday's date although already had a shorter date last Tuesday

I really wonder if lubey has the right idea as not sure I CBA after the initial thrill of OD

[bantamrooster]

Well I've got a date in a couple of hours with a policewoman in Essex , one on Wednesday with a psychologist in Hertfordshire and I've still got to schedule things with the Venezuelan. All of whom contacted me first which is a nice ego boost.

[mercury7]

I guess it depends what you hope to get from it..I try and treat it as a bit of harmless fun..a lighthearted distraction, if I wanted or needed a meaningful relationship I'd have given up in despair long ago

[Yogagirl17]

lubey that's brilliant - I think you have the right idea!

[Poppysquad]

I wish it was so easy. I have only met two men through the internet. Thanks to Sponge I improved my profile and met 1/2 Italian Stallion, but he is the only person to have responded to my emails. I was on Times Encounters and now GSM , although I have hidden my profile for a while.

I am feeling pretty rubbish at the moment. Do I need to be younger, slimmer, more attractive? Bollocks

[bantamrooster]

poppy you definitely don't need bollocks. Generally they put men off.

[mercury7]

the man with the sunglasses pic has now sent another 'classic' the one where you lie down on your back and take a pic of your face from about, cuz we all look 10 years younger like that dont we

[MyLittleMiracles]

I AM IN LOVE with my EEYORE The only thing i need to cuddle up to in bed of a night!!!!

Still sitting on the sofa happily, but enjoying reading everyone's adventures!! I do feel your pain.

[snapespeare]

lubey. I'm going to go out with myself too! We could double-date! :)

Except I've broken worn out my rabbit, so the wanking will need to take a back burner for a bit..

Not so weepy now, just miserable. Actually said to ex flatmate 'there's this hole in my life' ...and if I don't say it out loud, then it doesn't exist, but I said it out loud... So it does. just need to be strong and distract myself a bit.

[hatesponge]

I have escaped baby shower hell! ActuaLly it wasn't TOO bad. Not great, but not awful. Shame about the 2 hour journey home...

poppy I'm glad you found our thread :) sorry abou this guy - being part italian myself I'd say as a genenral rule italian men should be avoided (but that's just my own prejudices!) Leaving that aside I think all you can do atm is wait and see what happens.

One thing I have realised is that there isn't a magic formula to success with OD much as I wish there were, and looks,age, financial position, intelligence, personality, none of it seems to matter, or make much difference. It really all is luck.