Kirsty - shame about the submariner. I always think it's kind of hideously crass to start talking about what you like in bed until you've actually been to bed together, or are about to, and there's chemistry and that inevitable feeling that it's going to happen. Putting pressure on you 'you'd better go along with what I want or I'll have to rethink' is just ridiculous.
If I were you I'd reply something like 'I love everything you said you like, toys, oral, everything. But I can't stand people I've never met before insisting that they get it from me. Goodbye'. Or some such.
A bit of a flirty text before meeting is fine, but if someone you'd just met and quite liked was chatting you up in a bar then leaned over, winked conspiratorially and said 'I like watching while you play with yourself' then you'd probably stop talking to him. I think this isn't much different except you don't know if you'll fancy him yet. A mistake is forgivable but that 'maybe we need to think about things' is putting pressure on and is shit behaviour.
godless - yes OD is a rollercoaster, it's got ups and downs, boredom and excitement and annoyance and cockshots (apparently). You need thick skin to deal with it and most of us on here are ambivalent about whether it's right for us at times. But if you think you're not ready you probably aren't. You can still look round the sites with a hidden profile and get ideas of who you'd like to meet, maybe.
lulu great news on NYE - sometimes overthinking things is part of the problem.