Twirling body builders, dominant alpha males and been hurt in the past-Dating thread part 29

[Milkandlotsandlotsofwine]

Took the liberty of starting a new thread.

Off you go ladies and gents...

how will you cope with a last meeting Lubey?
I have a 'friend' who may be leaving the area for good soon, I'm going to ask him to tell me after he's gone...otherwise I know I'll just weep through the last meeting:( :(

mercury can't take credit for that - it was Bantam.

I'm going to try and purge my brain of this rubbish read my book.

Mercury I'll be fine. Much better than not having one anyway... we deserve much more of a send off than the hug at starbucks, although the night out the night before that was really damned good but yeah, we need to see it out with something that packs more punch than pain au chocolat and hugs. He said he is planning something special and to leave it with him. Think he's realised he's been a knob again and feels guilty which is fine by me and I shall milk it

Corsets are the best thing ever. I have an amazing steel boned one from What Katie did. It gives me a waist that almost gives Dita Von Teese a run for her money.

Only to be worn on special occasions. It is a lethal weapon!

Corsets are indeed the best thing ever. I love em. Bloody faff to get on but god, worth it.

Mercury I missed the bit about the weeping. I am sure there will be plenty of that when we say goodbye. But I will be fine in the end. I understand your feelings about your friend, I might possibly have suggested the same with me and BC but as i haven't seen him for nearly three weeks as it is and we've been trying ot organise something and looking foward to it for a while anyway, it would be awful to now take that away, iyswim.

must be I'm over emotional then
a corset would kill me, I cant even put up with underwired bra's

seriously? I mean do you not find them uncomfortable?

They are the most uncomfortable things ever mercury but one must suffer to be beautiful!

Hmm, can vary from comfy-ish to seriously uncomfortable depending how tight you lace it. I do very tight if I want to impress and it's not going to be on all that long, and a bit more comfy if its a night out thing. It's also quite rare that I bother but I like having it just in case!

Lubey I love the dress and the corset!

I think the fish is to show off their hunter skills, in a macho display of manliness . I bet if hunting wasn't so unpopular you'd get pictures of guys with dead dear. But fishing is more acceptable I guess (fish aren't so cuddly!)

My theory anyway...

I draw the line at actual bodily discomfort..luuurve is painful enough as it is :o

I can see that a corset would make your waist smaller, but once it's off, well the illusion is gone surely?

fish is a phallic symbol..same as car..cock pic by proxy

Is it really? A phallic symbol I mean? I never knew that.

yoga amouse bouche was lovely .. We sat and blethered for 3 hours with a bit of leg and arm touching. .. When we left the pub (blue dog in Glasgow v nice) he kissed me and it was very lovely indeed .. He had been asking what I wanted to do for our 'big date' on Thursday and I said I didn't want to go to theatre etc (one of his suggestiobs) just dinner and drinks .. After the snog he suggested that I go to his for dinner on Thursday so I told him I'd think about it .. I've thought about it and texted him to say I'd rather stick to the city ..

He's sent me a text saying 'Think im falling for u in a big way xx' I'm concerned as I quite like theSubmariner .. Wish I could meet him sooner to see who I like best ( I feel bad at having both on the go)

really? A fish is a phallic symbol? It has fins.

I think it's that some men like fishing, and like to show off how manly they are - even maybe showing the hunter/gatherer thing (Ug! Look! Me catch big fish! me feed whole tribe!)

To be honest the most amusing photos of women on POF (you don't get them so much on Match) are the ones of them being seductive, leaning against the doorjamb in a doorway in their underwear. They look like Joey Tribiani doing his sexy pose in Friends.

according to freuds model of the human psyche yes probably..the symbolism isnt exactly obscure..think of the rock star guitar, similar thing

lubey how're you supposed to get it off again though?

anything can (in theory) be a symbol for anything, these are obviously subjective theories rather than objective facts, but I'm pretty sure it's in line with general freudian theory:)

bantan That reminds me of the time a girl mailed me on OKC to tell me I needed more full length body pics on my profile.

I checked hers out and it mainly consisted of self taken pictures of her in her bra and pants.

I mailed her back and told her as politely as possible that when I want "How to catch a man" advice from a 19 year old stranger I will ask for it.

kirsty Hmmmmm, sounds to me like he's desperate to get you in the sack. All this "I'm really falling for you" stuff would really put me off. Tread carefully.

Although I do tend to go for men who are emotionally dead so what would I know about people giving me huge demonstrations of their feelings?

hmm. Not sure if I agree with that. It's a fundamental aspect of masculinity to show off the trophy when you've hunted and caught it. Deer heads on the wall, bearskin rugs, fresh caught turbot. I don't think it necessarily needs to mean it's a phallic symbol. If it was, men would have a major problem sticking a big hook into it in the first place.

I just replied 'steady :-o'

Don't want to end up with a Cling-on .. Supposed to be a bit of fun .. x

Yes I agree with you bantam, more of a "me feed tribe" thing

So is there a female equivalent to the 'man with a fish' picture?

woman with a fish?

no, I'd say the aforementioned doorway shot, the 'lying back in bed showing cleavage from above' shot, the 'cuddling a kitten' shot. Lots of cliches. Probably the bed one in the underway - 'see how sexy I am' is the closest alternative.

Oh and lots and lots of women on horses :)