Twirling body builders, dominant alpha males and been hurt in the past-Dating thread part 29

[Milkandlotsandlotsofwine]

Took the liberty of starting a new thread.

Off you go ladies and gents...

I can't stand lol. I could not date someone who lolled me. Ever. Lol is a dealbreaker all round!!

i'm fine with lol..i mean i've come across so much worse than lol :o

I don't mind lol .. However one of my friends regularly uses gorjis and that makes me want to delete her number and never speak to her again !!

I went on a couple of dates with a guy who kept saying or texting 'for sure' instead of plain 'yes' and referred to himself as 'this boy' as in 'this boy is tired out and off to bed' instead of I'm. It grated the first time and every time after!! it was doomed!!

Mind you he was the guy who took his profile off Match after one date declared himself to have found the one! and after the second date told me there was no chemistry!

Oh dear, I use lol all the time. Does this mean that I will never pull?

It's the only one I use...

LMFAO

I like IJSML. It has a certain honesty.

Oh LOL, haven't heard that one but guessing what it means.....,

Ok, question for you seasoned dusters. If somebody looks at my profile but doesn't get in touch, I would presume that they weren't interested and I wouldn't contact them. ??, because you don't know what they are looking for until you read their profile, and you get told everyone who looks at your profile...

I've not contacted anybody yet, I wait for them to contact me (lack if confidence)...

Daters not dusters..... Stupid iPhone..,.

Ha! Caught you Bantam. Knew you could do it.

Kirsty how was your amuse bouche?

I have no dates lined up at the moment and can't be bothered looking. No doubt by the weekend i will be bored again.

I don't bother contacting men who look at my profile but don't send a message - I assume either they have read something they didn't like, or had a better look at my photos and had second thoughts!

Skye are you on Match? (sorry I can't remember which sites people are on ) I found that easier, I used to just wink at loads a few I liked the look of, and see what happened - some would then send a message, others would wink, which I would take as a green light and send a message myself. On occasion I did send the first message myself, I was worried I might get a horrible reply but tbh I never did, even when sending the first msg on POF.

(I did get lots of nasty messages on POF, but never when I made first contact)

I'd send a few messages if I were you, or at least a few winks. See what happens, you may be pleasantly surprised :)

and to stick my 2p's worth in:

lol is perfectly acceptable. As are emoticons :)

I wince at yep and hiya, can't abide LMAO/LMFAO, and stuff like hunnie and gawjus make me want to stab myself in the eye with a fork.

A v v senior manager at work who is also a complete knob signs his emails 'cheerz' .

Yes.

With a z.

Dominobasset I think you both come out of that exchange very well for literacy, good manners and sense of humour. Are you sure one lol condemns him for ever? It's not in the same league as a cockshot, surely ...

I use LOL occasionally....... ok more than occassionally, but text talk is fine for me, like brb, but not bbe, if you want to call me babe, call me babe not bbe?

I only really use LOL, nothing else and I always type words in full. I think I use lol a lot because I'm quite sarcastic, so want friends to know that I really am joking! Lol. But its definitely overused.

Yes it's Match that I am on , and POF, but Match mainly.

I use textspeak to some degree but only when texting or posting from my phone because the typing can be a pain (especially when posting to MN from my phone because the MN app doesn't let you flip the keyboard sideways).

I have decided that the phrase "I take pride in my appearance" in a profile translates as "I'm vain, go to the gym a lot, expect you to admire my 6-pack and will only date someone equally toned and tanned and vapid".

oops, strikethrough fail. Gingerbread boy has reappeared. CRBA.

third person references are a bit annoying, I've had 'and how's mercury today'
also men younger than me calling me 'young lady' (I'm mid 40's)
couple of younger guys addressing me as 'hello trouble'
wtf???

mercury I got addressed as "miss" the other day.

I like LOL. It's better than "haha" which just sounds forced.

Embrace it bantam

My friend who met her husband on Match, saw that he had viewed her profile but hadn't contacted her. She says that she got very little approaches on Match so she always contacted people who had viewed her profile who she liked the look of. It turned out that she had said she preferred a minimum height of 5ft 11 and as he was 5ft 10 he hadn't bothered to wink or message. Once they established that one inch wasn't a deal breaker (!) they met up and the rest is history!

Altogether now .... aahhhhhh

I do 'ha' and 'heh' , that's enough surely. Ha means a short bark of laughter. Heh is an amused small chuckle. Ha! means I thought it was very funny indeed.

I do haha. I have a friend who writes heh heh in texts which annoys me for some reason!

PFWB likes to call me Miss. Which rather amuses me as he is several 17 years my junior

But the point is. I don't mind lol in a chat so much, or an email. If I'm being funny then it's nice to know I'm amusing the person, although I'd prefer to see a smiley face over a lol. But it's when people put it in their profile. They're writing something about themselves which is just so unexpectedly witty they make themselves laugh out loud.

And if I see 'my name is Karen. I love going out with my mates. Lol!' I immediately think 'giggling moron' and move on.

lulu aw. Cute. sickeningly happy and cute couples

Oh I see. So what is "meh" then? A sort of non committal noise?

Maybe she's laughing at the cliché? everyone does that I used to

Never put lol in my profile though. I get twitchy reading the cringey lines people have as headlines. And I hate people with lists of requirements. Eg

"Must be tall, dark, 125lbs, green eyes, Taurus, and love Nandos"

AAARGH.