Twirling body builders, dominant alpha males and been hurt in the past-Dating thread part 29

[Milkandlotsandlotsofwine]

Took the liberty of starting a new thread.

Off you go ladies and gents...

I try and adjust a bit to peoples messaging styles, but sometimes you just feel there is no middle ground!

I use he he. So cant really moan about lol. But its an ongoing joke with my FB friends that I hate LOL.

So think Saturday date is ringing me tonight - hes currently playing football - after texting last couple of days. Had to apologise earlier after my not so witty jokey banter text was taken the wrong way - but guessing its just as you get used to each others humour? And wasnt anything serious.

I do like this guy, just not sure about it. I think last one raised my hopes a little - it was shit in the end, but the beginning was one of those few weeks of hitting it off from moment 1. Saturday date obviously went well too (not many people I can sit in a pub for 7 hours with when just drinking coke) but cant help but look for holes in it all? I'm being picky I think, and there is absolutely nothing wrong with the guy - think Im just bracing myself for it all going wrong. Ive been honest with him though and told him I want to take it slow etc and hes been very accepting of that - only put his arm round me in the cold and kissed my cheek Saturday and asked before he kissed me Sunday.

and he is good looking. if you squint he is a mix of guy from jackass mixed with guy from take that

I like meh!! It's one of those words that sounds like their meaning like woof or pop - onomatopoeia I think?!

Love a lol and a hehe too, but context is everything, fine in a witty exchange, not in a profile! Oh what a fussy lot!

I used to be picky about height. said nothing under 5ft 10 (im 5ft 4 and have always always dated guys over 6ft)

however last two guys have been 5ft 7. and ok.

guy who reckoned he was 5ft 8 but barely taller than me I dated once clearly had been lying to himself. wonder if he lied about inches elsewhere too.......

and joining in with gawjus making me want to scratch out my eyeballs. That and using "dat" instead of that.

I prefer men over 5' 10. Mainly because I am 5' 6 and wear very high heels, so any less than that and I will be taller than them, which I prefer not to be.

Also all the men I have dated who've been less than 5' 10 have all been complete tossers.

Mind you come to that, the majority of those over 5' 10 have been as well...!

BC just rang me. He's accepted the HK job ... and is leaving December 1st. :( Had a big talk and yet again I was right, there was something wrong, it was that he'd made the choice that he knows is the definite end of us, knew it was much sooner than we'd orginally though and going so far away, and didn't know how to tell me. I asked when will he learn that I'm not daft? and know when something is wrong? And that I'd guessed this is what it was anyway...

Sigh.

We are going to meet up one last time and have a more fitting goodbye than a hug outside starbucks which was last time I saw him! So glad about that at least anyway...

Then on with the plan I had the other day of just dating myself

I'm no so fussed about height but I dont like slight, he needs to be able to beat me in an arm wrestle:o

Aw lubey I'm sorry, but sounds like you knew where things were heading anyway. You've got good instincts. And a good plan lined up as well!

Oh Lubey that's really :( I hate it when men do that thing of just clamming up and saying nothing when if they just came out with it, it would be so much easier all round. Glad that you get to say goodbye one last time though :)

I did see your previous post about dating yourself though and (to use DS2's favourite word) I thought it was an awesome idea

Lubey I stuff my face with many more biscuits and I will be dating myself. Nerves. Darn them.

sorry to hear about BC

I cant do slight or skinny either. But equally I cant do chubby. Averagey.

Hmm, I'll date someone my own height (5'10") but am generally partial to a guy 5 inches so I can wear huge heels a little taller.

I have dated a guy shorter than me he was a tosser and it's kindof put me off.

Aah just broke and did a POF search. Cute guy in my area. 75% chance he'll know the other guy I'm dating. Brilliant.

Lubey I'm sorry. Are you in need of emergency chocolate?

I just received a message that says "I notice you looked at my profile but didn't send a message. Is it because I'm tall and muscly and that scares you?"

His profile says "No offence to any one but if you arent looking after yourself please dont bother to contact me,I know you might be a nice person but I am Shallow."

So I'm tempted to reply "No, tall and muscly doesn't scare me, it's vain, arrogant and shallow that puts me off!"

Should I?

May I join please v late in the thread?

Newly single (very.... horrible ex just dropped me like a hot, er, cake) but things had been on/off for a while and I'd been dabbling on the free sites.

I'd been on PoF before but can't face it again :/

I've got a date sort of lined up for next week with a film studies professor from OKC (anyone been out with him yet??) who is at least interesting. A lot of it is I just want to meet people and chat cos I am lonely, sad eh :)

Oh I would Yoga

Welcome domestic

classy set of messages for my first day... man with blurry pic of one eye (= married obv)... no.

From man with sideburns posing on sports car: 'Not sure if you're my type but it would be nice having a drink with you.' oh cheers!! nope.

Gawd I forgot how funny/depressing it is!!

Or something quite scathing.

His profile is rude!

So something like "no, I just prefer to avoid men who advertise their arrogance. And shallow = unattractive."

having a bad day of sorts

lubey I think your idea for dating yourself is an excellent one. Perhaps we could also have 'platonic dating' where those who wish to can meet up for a few hours, boost each others egos, have a drink and then depart? No need for an afterwards "No spark" text because we all know we are amazing.

I have just finalised my plans for 2nd date with man boy on Thursday. He is taking me to the cinema which I find rather sweet. It's better than the usual take me to the pub & try to get me drunk then laid approach that most of them go for.

At least it will take my mind off the "I've nearly spilt up with my girlfriend" headfuck my friend I am besotted with landed on me last night. Man boy is at least 60% hotter as well. I might just bring him home and screw his brains out actually. The Milk&Wine boudoir has seen no action for a good few months now. A sad state of affairs.

Thanks all! Yep I bloody knew something was up again, I bloody bloody buggering well knew! and I knew that it must be baaaaad news, really baaad bad bad awful for him to go against his promise of being more open and all that - so therefore i'd guessed that it was the dreaded HK. Damn and blast.

But anyway I'm very much looking forward to making the most of our last love-in and I had kind of accepted it was all over anyway.

I've also already started dating myself, by treating myself to a massive horde of lovely new things (dresses, boots, shoes, bag, perfume, make up, kinkyfuckery items, a new PC, new undies... the list goes on)

Damn I'm good to myself, I bloody love me already shame the bank will hate me

I like that idea milk

Mac I sent it - will see how he replies. No doubt with something suggesting I am an uptight, frigid cunt lady. Why you having a bad day?

domestic - Welcome. You have to just laugh at it. I just got offered a roll in the hay (first message)! Let me think about that one.....um, no.

lubey you must link to items!

oh I am up for some platonic dates def.

i wonder if I had more RL friends if I'd bother with men....hmm.

Good luck milk I could handle a man boy atm. x

Lubey really sorry to hear that. Why oh why couldn't he just have been straight with you especially as it was obvious something was going on?

Godless - great attitude! If you go out just expecting a drink and a bit of a chat, then anything else will be a lively bonus. Plus it will take a lot if pressure off. I know, I was much the same myself and in one way or another enjoyed all my dates apart from the awful one with Mr Bitumen. (I can manage two minutes on the subject if bitumen, if pushed. He managed two hours and could probably have doubled that if he'd had the chance).

Yoga - yes!!!