Twirling body builders, dominant alpha males and been hurt in the past-Dating thread part 29

[Milkandlotsandlotsofwine]

Took the liberty of starting a new thread.

Off you go ladies and gents...

Hi World Citizen I watched 'Patagonia', it was really lovely. Made me cry at the end, reminded me of my mum .

Oh and lubey the meetup.com looks like my kind of thing, I may give it a go in the new year. Thank you for mentioning it, it looks like a good way to expand social circle and create opportunities.

Hey Yoga, you okay? ( Is that all Starbucks worldwide, or just your local Starbucks ?)

I have my fingers crossed (daren't send any of my dodgy woo ) for a job that will delight you winging it's way to you.

Damn, I dont think I have a fuck-me dress. Or FM shoes for that matter - is that where I'm going wrong?

WFF Coffee sounds fab u lucky girl

Poppy - cant remember, have u actually met in person yet? I'm not going to tell u not to see him but I do think it wld be good if u could be a bit more in control of the situation cause at the moment it sounds like he thinks he can just keep u dangling until he makes up his mind.

Juliette - it's not so much that people I meet expect me to explain myself, it's more that there's a lot of just plain ignorance around Judaism in the UK. Coming from NY, even after 14 years I sometimes find that hard to deal with. It's the blank stares when I say I don't celebrate Christmas - like I'd just said I didn't find puppies cute.

Hi WFF - x posted! I'm ok I guess. Actually, no not really. The job thing is seriously getting me down. I feel like crying every time I go to the job centre.

As for Starbucks - I was referring to my local this morning. Not one of them paying me the slightest bit of attention but nice to look at. Sigh...my life is very sad!!

Yoga - I had a very good friend die on Xmas Eve many years ago when I was 18. As you can imagine, it was a lousy Christmas and for the next few years I didn't 'celebrate' at all but went through the motions for my parents on the day. People thought it most strange that I didn't want to celebrate Christmas. Not quite the same as you, but I can relate to the blank stares.

Incidentally, what is the male equivalent of fuck-me shoes???

A tux I suppose. Looks a bit out of place in Starbucks though :)

Voice - I'm so sorry about your friend. I think youll find a lot of people actually put on a brave face over the holidays for similar reasons.

For me, I certainly dont actively dislike Christmas, I think it's lovely. But the day itself is just kind of a non-day for me. We used to go to the cinema or out for Chinese food!

Let's see, male equivalent of FM shoes? G-star jeans? Superdry jacket? I don't know really just going by what 40yo XH suddenly started wearing when he was f*ing his little tart not that I'm still bitter or anything

Bant - can I politely suggest u seem to have a bit of a penguin fettish? You might want to speak to someone about that!

i dont think there is a male equivalent..these matters are not symetrical

or are there any male items of attire which cause an equivalent level of discomfort?

I have 2 friends who both met their husbands on Match.com and are both very happily married and know of one other friend of friend in a LTR through Match. From what they have said, they also met their fair share of fuckmuppets beforehand though. promise I don't work for Match!

Yoga, you are doing everything right (I know, that you know that), just keep doing it a little bit longer.

i dont do xmas either..just because it's a pain in the a$$

My dresses are very comfortable, the idea is to produce a level of discomfort for the man/men looking at me . Hahaha!

Nothing too extreme, to pique interest, just creating opportunities.

Thx WFF

Oh and I know an absolutely lovely couple who met on line and recently married (only I'm not supposed to know that's how they met!). They've both had a rough time in the past and are two if the nicest people I've ever met

Morning mercury

I usually try and to out to work at somepoint on Xmas day. Can't bear the eating and sitting around. Otherwise a big walk in local woods.

Awww warmfuzzy you remembered my pm. That's lovely. Glad you liked the film. I also cried at the end.

Oh yoga you*re from NY. I've spent quite some time in Ann Arbor, MI. Am a Wolverine myself

Wff I was thinking of shoes (in terms of discomfort) rather than dresses.
The problem is that sexually alluring dresses only really look right with painful shoes, and although I think those shoes look good I just cant bear to wear them.

Re xmas, I just dont do it, dont mark it in any way, the hole shebang just gets on my t!ts..I think the gym is closed so I'll prob make it a rest day and just do some yoga

I think I need to invest in a couple of dresses!

Hello everyone. I'm not doing very well at keeping up with everything so sorry for not replying. It's all moving very quickly at the moment . . . Hope things are looking up on the job front for those of you that need it (Bant, Yoga, Snape) and your house stuff works out (Watch). Fingers crossed for you all.

Well it's the Big Op tomorrow - feeling really nervous on his behalf. Went over to see him last night and ended up just talking - again. I am putting this down to a) stress about the operation and b) having his dcs over (which they have been the last two times) - they do wake up and wander around so I've ended up "meeting" them after a fashion, so I can understand how it's a bit off-putting and tbh I wouldn't be doing anything with children liable to appear in the doorway - but it's getting a little frustrating especially as he's now going to be out of action for a while post-hospital. Oh well. Don't think he's going off me or anything, lots of talk again about things we're going to do in the future, so I'm hoping it will all sort out in a couple of weeks. Or am I being a bit naive here?

Poppy - I don't think that making tentative arrangements is too much of a problem if there are potentially childcare issues - but aren't his children teenagers and so able to be left for a couple of hours? Or is his point that if he has the children at his then he wants to spend time with them and so isn't available? I'm not sure what to advise here at all, but I think if I were you then I might rein things in a little, leave the ball in his court and see what happens. And maybe get yourself online to find a couple of back-up options just in case . . .

Collective chins up, chests out and face the world with a smile.

mercury, I never wear uncomfortable shoes. Flats or boots aka 'the kids cast offs'

same here Wff
but is it not the case that only vertiginously high heels qualify as 'fuck-me' shoes?

I guess a fuck-me dress is going to be some combo of short, tight, revealing but it'll not really work unless combined with the fm shoes?

I have a slightly chuffed smile on my face this morning. I got winked at by a faceless person on match yesterday, and sent a fairly pro-forma email saying 'hi, thanks for the wink, always flattering but I don't know what you look like'

I only do that for profiles which sound interesting, nearby, my age range and they've actually been bothered to fill in the headline and profile text - if they just leave it blank then they're obviously not bothered.

Of course men generally get a lot fewer winks than women, we're meant to do the chasing on these sites, which is very old fashioned but is the way of things.

Then this morning she put up some pictures and she looks lovely. A cute intelligent girl fancies me. Aww. I'm all happy.

Of course it will come to nothing, but it's better than the other woman who's winked at me 3 times in the last 24 hours, who is really quite remarkably unattractive.

I can't walk in high heels.

I wear (bodycon, hourglass 40s/50s inspired) dresses which are fine with flats. Or boots.

I am relatively tall so don't really need the extra height that heels give. Also as a big walker I have worn one of my FM dresses and walking boots (mad Fuzzy) on a date. He was chuffed, we didn't walk very far

Morning Bant How are you?

She sounds promising. Keep us posted.

Any news on job situation?

Why of course? bantam Does she live too far away?