Twirling body builders, dominant alpha males and been hurt in the past-Dating thread part 29

[Milkandlotsandlotsofwine]

Took the liberty of starting a new thread.

Off you go ladies and gents...

really? That's a strange way to put it.

NotSuch there was a guy I had a bit of a fling with a while back who used to say that. I found it a very strange thing for a man to say and found it really offputting!

Yep, offputting it is.

but 'I'm soaking darling' doesn't imply he's horny. It implies he suffers from premature ejaculation.

bantam

I am actually still trying to figure out how I would react to meeting someone who deliberately made false statements about his ethnicity race

Notsuch how did you react to this?

LOL at premature ejaculation! I wasn't gonna stick around to find out!

I've just been looking at a few over 40's websites and although they are free to join you have to pay to message people and i didn't want to do that.

The only ones getting anything from OD are the website owners.

Also, a lot of the men say they are looking for a relationship, but they don't actually put in the effort a relationship takes. they just have date after date after date! I think they expect the woman to do all the work and of course there are women around who will, just so that they can have a man in their lives.

You might have touched on this subject before I started lurking but do any of you know anyone who has met their LT partner through OD?

My experiences have been dire and it appears that they are matched by many on this thread. So I keep asking myself why are we all doing this?

Are their good sites I just don't know about? Is it all a total waste of time or just a numbers game? How many frogs will it actually take?

Honestly the race thing was such a shock! It goes without saying of course that i'm not a racist, it was just the sheer cheek and dishonesty of a black man listing himself as caucasion - did he think i wouldn't notice when I met him.

Come to think of it, also went to meet a man in the bullring who said he was italian and was CLEARLY north african - right down to the fact that he came to meet me on the date having come straight from one of those "hooker" cafes - you know where they inhale that stuff coming out of funny pipes. I kept saying again and again "your middle eastern aren't you, not italian" and he kept denying it EVEN AS HE WAS SERVING ME LAMB WITH APRICOTS AND RICE WITH A CRUST (it was very nice)

I know someone who met a long term partner on a dating site for people who were into motor bikes..perhaps niche is the way to go for serious relationships?

PE. I reckon OD has all of the 40% over 40 !!

you mean hookah not hooker :o

yeah hookah thats it - shame really as he was freakin cute! just can't cope with that level of dishonestly

Notsuch you have all the right to be pissed off. I mean what are these men thinking. Serioulsy, that is infuriating.
By the way, someone who is North African is NOT middle eastern, but that is beside the point, but had to get that one in

I still am gutted. I do know lots of men who try to pretend they are some nationality or ethnicity, but they are not. Some women get it and some don't. But unfortunately for some this seems to be a numbers game also.
Hoping for the woman to feel sorry for them...maybe something along those lines of well, it's hard for me to have women respond due to lots of prejudice etc.

Only men, who are dodgy would do something like that, I'd say.

And notsuch I would never think of someone as racist because she is livid about this behaviour. I think you have all the right in the world to be. I know I would.

purse my fanjo was meant to be purge my fanjo. Bantam by all means use it either way

Yoga You shouldn't have to explain yourself, it's also no one else's business. It wasn't my religion, worse it was an assumption that despite stating I was 'Christian but not serious about it' on the profile, because had a Muslim bf in the past I was likely to be Muslim too. Yes judging by colour, certainly not by culture

Notsuch how can you mistake black for suntanned. Just how suntanned was he? Light skinned black, mixed race, black black? There is no excuse for lying about it but maybe he got sick of people judging him by his colour

As for the North African, there are lots of Italians of north african descent. They are still Italian just as black British or people are still British.

I met my dp on POF a couple of years ago. He is the kindest, sweetest, most gorgeous man you could ever hope to meet. If that cheers you up - more to the point, he's normal

Had to meet a fair few complete fuckwits first though!

Hi all. Update on 1/2 Italion Stallion. He's mailed and texted. Although I must admit that I started the dialogue. Slightly flirty - but saying he hopes that the kids will be at his wife's at the weekend so he might have more time and hinted that we might be able to meet up. The usual in depth analysis from me again.

Is he just keeping me dangling?

Wife? I meant exwife

Poppy - it's a tough call, we don't know him. The problem is that people tend to stay in their usual patterns - so if he's hot and cold now, if things continue with him then he'll be hot and cold later on.

Trying to juggle dating with having kids is difficult, we all know that, but 'hinting' that you might be able to meet up sounds like he's throwing a dog a bone. And you're not a dog. If you plan to do something else at the weekend because he hasn't made any invitations or offers, then suddenly he'll get very keen and act hurt that he's going to all this effort to make time for you.

And that means he'll continue to be a dick for ever.

I agree juliette, but whatever the reason, what does this say about him.
Also, Italy and Spain share a lot of history with North Africa and many North Africans look exactly like Sicilians and Andalucians and vice versa, there are also so many cultural similarities and lots more.
Also Tunisians for example have a rich history and are a mixture of various Mediterranean cultures...
BUT, in this poilitical climate full of prejudice and ignorance, I can see some men trying to go this route to "bag a woman" and again, I believe it doesn't say much in a positive way about them.

I also agree with you bantam about people tending to stay in their patterns.

But now I am off to bed, was nice to de-lurk for a day Good night all.

If his ex wife is unreliable then he might not have a choice but to keep you dangling Poppy

When my DD was younger I would often have to arrange dates on speculation about whether DD would be going to her dads or nans or neither, and had to let people down sometimes and/or drive them a bit mad being unable to nail down anything firmly til the day or before.

I go out for the evening and you guys skip ahead by about 3 pages...I think you're all having much more fun than me!

Erm, it was nice, very nice, lots of wine was drunk some level of nakedness may have been achieved I did try to post from the loo, but I took my bag and then realised my fone was in my coat pocket. Doh!

Currently on my way home in a taxi...he asked a few times when he could see me again, so we shall see!

Questions, nakedness???!! Must have been a good date then!

I know two people married with kids that met online. It can be done.

Saturday man is coming here for coffee Thursday. Eight pm. I'm taking this one slow (last guy I saw for four months we ripped each others clothes off on the first date) and he seems happy with that so no nakedness will occur here. But the third date is the important one to me - the one after work, where he sees my manic life (though kids will be asleep) etc.

Fingers crossed.

And poppy, know im new but I've read posts and tbh to quote someone else, he's not that into you. He likes the attention and the idea of a fuck. But he is not into you enough for anything more, or he would find a way.

Wickan - I know so many people who have done OD but only know of one marriage and one long-term long distance relationship. Aside from that, I know of no one who got beyond 5 or 6 dates (male or female) with one person. In most cases it is 1 or 2.

Catching up, but did not make notes to make witty, insightful, or even mundane comment.

My Coffee was very good, the best Coffee IMO has a lot affection, chat (I am a chatty bint) and cuddles. Current FWB is pretty fab, good natured, kind, amusing and light hearted. It is cathartic and restorative and most importantly, lots of fun .

Action Man has been in touch, but just a one line message 'I haven't forgotten you at all'. Not much to go on. Don't think this will go anywhere, but who knows eh? (his nickname is due to profile being full of photos of him skiing, jumping out of planes, playing sport etc, although I am a very easy going girl, if he has no genitals (like the toy of the same name) it would be a deal breaker unfortunately )

On the plus side, in my RL I have a few parties, get togethers etc where men (available men) will be present. Time to roll out the FM (F**k Me) dress collection perhaps?

Morning - haven't caught up from last night yet but just a quick post to say lots of cute men in Starbucks this morning