Twirling body builders, dominant alpha males and been hurt in the past-Dating thread part 29

[Milkandlotsandlotsofwine]

Took the liberty of starting a new thread.

Off you go ladies and gents...

I get arses and penises often ?? Maybe I attract weirdos

I spoke to a guy who I thought was lovely for 2 weeks, then he asked me if I wanted to see him on his cam (first time on site) I said 'yes that would be lovely' he was dressed up in stocking and suspenders, looked better than me.

Then I had another 'nice guy' who was very interested in my children, I thought 'how nice' then he asked if they fought, they do, then he asked if they kicked each other in the nuts, they do, turned out he had a fetish, he liked getting kicked in the nuts, I googled him to see who was abnormal, I think its me, it's named 'ball-busting'! I am so naive!!

I even met a guy who lived quite close, it turned out too close, 3 streets away and he was erm... not attractive, he leaned in for a kiss I moved and he kissed my car window. Then started driving up/down my street, thankfully I moved. I re-joined 3 days ago and he was there 'oh I see you have moved'...'fancy another date' I said 'no' he said 'ypou hate me don't you?' I said 'no I don't find you attractive@ he said 'well fu@k off you ugly bitch'.... thank you.

I also have a policeman, I dated twice, (giving him a second chance) he collects teddy bears, he is 36!! He left his number again.

I was supposed to go on a date on Fri/Sat whatever day I joined but felt rushed, sure enough via text the next night 'do you ever get so stressed you fancy a good f@cking session'.... OMG. sex sex sex. I would he was a little bit 'too keen'.

Are there any normal men on there? PLEASE

Bantam I wasn't having a pop at you, my post was a reflection of my own feelings and experiences, nothing more. I know you wouldn't be rude like that.

I've ever had anyone say 'no spark', quite the opposite and have made it clear they fancy me. I've worked out it's a race thing. Yes, there really are people around like that. They've usually given themselves away by then but it's usually the ones in their fifties, wealthy who are miffed because my knickers I didn't fall at their feet with gratitude. Of course I wouldn't want them if they looked like George Clooney but jeez, no need for the sour grapes texts trying to put me back in my place.

In case anyone doesn't believe this, I actually had one email spelling it out, how about "I have thought long and hard about this, and I'm surprised to realised I don't see black Juliette, but just Juliette and try as I might I just can't see us being anything other than friends." Then was also the man who asked me right before we were due to meet if I had a British passport (as if I was then going to turn up). Oh and lets not forget several men who, on learning my last serious relationship was with a Muslim guy have said "You are Christian, right?" Felt like saying well I've had a couple of Catholics since then, does that purse my fanjo? .

Hello sponge have been following your dating adventures and was wondering about you.
Well, would like to ask so much, but am not sure about being too personal here.

Have you decided to take a break or are you too heart-broken (this is OTT) because of the last one, the one with posh name?

Quiet - sorry for all the shit you've been through. Hopefully it's a little cathartic writing it out for our amusement education. You've definitely had a worse time than me. I didn't even know what ball busting was.

No one has ever asked to skype me wearing stockings and suspenders. Which is a bit depressing really.

There are normal men, I promise, they just take some digging out. And lots and lots of screening.

Evening all, another one here waiting for the dispatch from the loo!

Yoga yes, finish this one Friday, start new one (about 500m from where I work now!) on Monday. I wish they would let me go earlier, but it's all v inter office politics so won't happen, and I just have to sit doing nothing in the meantime!

Good luck to you on the job front btw, really hope something comes up for you soon :)

surprised to realise that although I don't see black Juliette

Juliette that is dreadful, I'm sorry you've had to deal with that sort of crap.

juliette this is awful

Another one here now hoping for a loo update and not finding one so I'll be hitting f5 f5 f5 f5 f5 an awful lot!

Juliette - I hope you don't take offence at this.
Please please please can we use the line 'purse my fanjo' in the next thread title? I think it's brilliant.

Along with giraffes in wheelchairs and updates from the loo

Scatty your account of the bodybuilder's conversation is . You might be onto something with the listening service...I was going to say at least he's not talking about anything dodgy, but frankly that might even be preferable to tales of tractor pulling (unless that's some sort of euphemism...?)

Juliette that is awful. I find many men who OD are horribly judgmental and superficial.

World ask away! I'm taking a break from OD just because I think I need one, I've finally got my second date so can afford to rest on my laurels for a bit :) LC (the poshname boy) may come good, he may not, that remains to be seen. I can't really be bothered to look online at the mo though, I may well change my mind come the new year, but in the meantime I have a new job to start, and social stuff every weekend from now to Xmas. I intend to spend the next few weeks going out, fluttering my false eyelashes, and if I meet anyone then great, if not I will have a good time anyway :)

Oh I forgot one, the polish man.....

We set up Skype, he said 'you be here tomorrow at 8pm'

Me: Yeah why not....

Next evening I had a bath,put DS in the bath, put him to bed, wandered downstairs, possibly 9pmish, logged onto POF to see my message.

'you rude rude bitch, I have been waiting since 8pm on you'

Okay... sorry.

'that is not funny you should not say a time then not be here, I wait for hours'

BLOCKED!!

I did actually meet one nice guy, no chemistry there though. Met another one, same again, he thought we should get married Spoke to another onefor 8 months, moved onto texting/calling, went to see him, stayed over... was nice, he was back on site the next day, yeah slapper alert... it had been 22 months though, I felt used, he suggested we be FWBenefits what did I say 'yeah why not'... then had an over-think and sent him a message saying 'look stop texting me, I am not here to be used liar goodbye' He actually started boring me so much, he was sexting me... I was reading a magazine and sexting him lines out of Sylvia Days 'Bared by You'... I think he was impressed.

Didn't hear from him again until Friday, he is STILL there saying 'hi, hows you' Its just not cute anymore and I didn't really like him that much it was just a build up, of talking for 8 months and I morphed him into some sex god, he isn't.

Oh the American guy who wanted to 'hang out' he passed out drunk I took the £50 he gave me for parking in a disabled space and getting caught, ran away, jumped in my car, he phoned and phoned and phoned, I leant over to turn phone off, and yes I wrote my car off.

Hence taking a break from February until Friday.

I have 124 meet me's.... don't like one of them... I mean with a name like MUFFDIVER or a HEADLINE : I WANT SUM FUN ....meh!

I'm gong to Tesco's to find someone.

nodoubtIwillbebackontomorrow

Just read back - oh dear god Juliette that is horrid

Oh well sponge just enjoy a quiet week then - since you're not OD, can you bring a good book to work?

Juliette maybe i'm naive but that's really shocking. And quite revolting. Why couldn't he have simply said, "I can't see us being anything other than friends."? There are lots of reasons why we don't fancy other people, some of them physical, but to specifically say it's because of your colour or religion is just....ugh. I'm sorry. I have to admit sometimes I little wary of telling men I meet that I'm Jewish. I'd be shocked if encountered any outright anti-semitism (although right at the moment maybe not so shocking) but I still worry that people will be put off or just not know what to make of it. I hate having to explain myself.

Scatty did I really advise you to enjoy the narcistic body builder? If I did, you should ignore me. He sounds dreadful.

Awww hatesponge that actually sounds very positive. Don't want to jinx it, but seriously you might end up just meeting someone cause you're just out having a good time and you're not bothered, everytime I had that attitude all of the sudden men left and right were interested

But the thing was, I really wasn't interested, wanted my peace and spend time with friends and somehow that then gives me a certain allure men can't resist, but when I'm looking and am on the hunt myself then it somehow doesn't work out , I think I am rubbish when it comes to that, which is why now I am thinking it either happens or it won't [shrugs]

I would find it very difficult not to take offence at what juliette had to deal with.

Quite You do seem to attract some real nobs interesting ones!

Hello all.

Been reading since the beginning and finally delurking to ask if anyone knows any free dating websites for the over 40's.

POF has scared the living daylights out of me - i've had nothing but liars and sex maniacs

I even met a man who listed himself as caucasion and was black when I turned up to meet him - it was the sheer dishonesty that infuriated me about him.

NotSuch - did you not see any pictures? That's pretty much a prerequisite before I'd even think of meeting someone. I've never heard of anyone trying to pull such a fast one though. Weight, yes. Height, yes - but race? That's just kind of ridiculous.

There are a bunch of niche sites for older daters, but most of the free ones have filters so you can only be contacted by people within your preferred age range I think

bantam he did have pictures up - he was standing quite far away in the picture and could have just been suntanned.

also, he still lived with his ex-wife, sent texts after our date saying "i'm soaking darling" and spent the whole of the date moaning about the 02 network going down.

I could have fucking kicked him straight in the bollocks I really could.

He's a salesmanship (director, whatever that means. I've no interest in fancy job titles). I think he tries so hard to be super successful that he comes across a twit quite frankly. I've got 2 friends like that and one isn't that bad in RL which is why I'll probably meet twirler.

I do want an FWB so someone like that might be perfect as he won't notice much being so inward looking.
Knowing my luck he will spend the afternoon with me, talking about himself then tell me 'no spark'.
It really irks me when I get the no spark shite. Too much upper handedness. Walking date for instance: poor teeth, poor clothes (not fitting), didn't look like he made much effort. Me- good teeth, good effort, looking ok. He sent me 'no spark'. Ffs.

Juliette- I've come across so many men who are still watching Mind your language circa 1980 if anyone remembes it on here. Narrow minded twats.

"i'm soaking darling" . What did he mean by that?

i think he meant he was feeling horny after meeting me

ewww, so sort of wet in his pants

I think saying something like this suits a woman more, if there was lots of chemistry and all that going on