Bizarroville!! PoshBoys, Muppets, Surgeons, nurses, coffee addicts and RL - dating thread 27!

[lubeybooby]

Roll up roll up get yer dating chat here... all kinds of dating...

Online, RL, established, new, join in and blether away!

watch - tis ok, you're not raining on anything! Not totally convinced about Gingerbread man, just keeping my options open while I see if anything happens with the Engineer.

think it gets a bit skewed because blokes over 40 start winding back their age on dating site (and women too I'm sure!) so the men who say they are 42 look 50 because they are actually 50 :o

On the other hand (and this is what I've seen from people I know in RL rather than online), I think there is something about men in their 40s getting a bit of a second wind, so to speak. 30s, esp if they have young kids, a lot of them do let themselves go, get a bit fat if their wives put on a little weight (as did I when mine were little). And then suddenly they hit 40 and think, fuck, I'm not gettting any younger, maybe I should start going to the gym...you know?

I'm definitely not suggesting we go for a meal & drinks - he's spent about £40 each time we've been out, and I've seen him twice in a week, I need to find something cheaper to do :) (hence the idea of him coming to mine. Plus I don't want every date we have to be spent in the pub/drinking!)

If me cooking dinner is a no-go, and I'm not much of one for takeaways (sorry this is me being the precious princess again!), I'm a bit stuck for ideas....

I will only have about 2 hours, 3 tops, while boys are at the cinema. And this is always assuming he's free anyway.

I suppose I could just invite him round to watch a film or something and make no mention of food at all

Why don't you do something simple for dinner?

Preferably something he can help with.

It won't feel so much like doing it for him and such a big investment.

I don't know sponge I wouldn't say making dinner is a bad idea as long as you don't go over the top. Either make something simple or get in some wee nibbles & wine?

Sponge - what you need is nibbles

I wouldn't really go out with a younger man, never have done, although I am quite happy to admire from afar. But not too old either - imagine if someone thought you were out with your dad! Lovely optician is 45 so four years older than me but goes to the gym and runs and has a great body hehe. Works well for me.

nibbles and a film then :) easy peasy :)

ive actually postponed fridays date, rather than cancel, for 2 weeks time, he said hes fine with that. Its possible mightchange my mind, so it give me the option to :)

Oh yes, drinks and nibbles would be great, why didn't I think of that! It also avoids the issues of (1) since I blew up my hob my cooking repertoire is even more limited than normal...and if I cook for him or let him cook with me he will find this out. Plus (2) my oven is filthy

And (3) we both have a slight phobia/fear of eating meals in front of people we don't really know...

Now lets just hope he's free :)

sponge - im sat here, literally grinning ear to ear for you. I can feel the excitiment coming from your posts. So bloody happy for you ;)

Ooh, Gingerbread man doesn't have a lot to say really, does he? Guess we'll You'll just have to wait and see with that one.
Younger men are a bit meh IME. DP is a very well-preserved 50. No wrinkles and saggy bits and I can only see a few grey hairs, not that that would really be an issue - ex was 19 stone when I met him, jowly and had a bald spot

MadameO - did you see the Engineer's profile on the last thread?

Yoga the surgeon has texted me asking if he can call .. I'm ignoring him though ..

Kirsty use your own judgement but I'm just a little wary - I wouldn't be at all surprised if he didn't like the fact that you have 3 dates lined up!

Kirsty I agree with Yoga - if I was interested in someone and they told me they had 3 dates lined up I'd feel like I was interviewing for a job against a bunch of other candidates. It would bruise my ego a little bit.

Saying that other people were asking for dates is one thing, makes you look in demand, but I like to feel like I'm the only one lucky enough to actually get a date, if I actually ask and get one.

I know the Nurse may have had dates with other blokes too, of course, but if she'd told me she couldn't fit me in till a week on wednesday because she was seeing two other blokes before me, I'd lose interest. That's just me of course.

Another one grinning for you Sponge. A third date?!? :o. Brilliant.

Actually Bantam, it was more that he struck me as a bit controlling.

Any reply from SAfrican?

Very excited for sponge's 3rd date

Date 3 is fab Sponge and I know what you mean about eating in front of someone you don't know that well yet!

I'm another one that goes for younger unfortunately. STBEx-H is 7 years younger which is why I'm 42 on my Match profile rather than 45 but I can just about get away with it. Especially now I've dyed every bit of grey away prior to Sunday's first date!

yoga - yes, that too. I think surgeons have a reputation as being egotistical generally. So take my comment about ego bruising and multiply it by 10.

No reply from Safrican, it'd be nice to know she understands, no hard feelings etc, but I think she'd include a dozen crying-face emoticons in her text.

bollocks arse and fuck. just got 2 months notice to move. landlord wants their house back.

:(

what the fuck am i going to do.

Oh shit watch

Sponge, that's fantastic! The second date curse has been broken, hooray! Hope the third date goes just as well - bet you can't wait to see him again.

Watch, I'm so sorry. Is there anywhere else nearby that you could rent? I know moving is a real pain though (just been through it).

Meanwhile, Mr Coffee has invited me to an event in December - I'm getting the feeling that there could be potential for something to happen between us (and I hope I'm right - haven't had so much as a snog for 18 months!)

Libby that's sounding positive! :)

Watch bloody hell, I'm so sorry, how awful for you :( Is there any chance of finding anything else locally? I really hope something turns up. Being forced to move is a horrible thing to happen, one of the many reasons why I wish there was more available social housing to give security of tenure.

Can I ask your opinions please? My first date with Mr C was a week ago and we are going on our 3rd date to the theatre tomorrow. He has asked me twice so far to be his gf, planned dates 4 & 5 which are surprises and he will just tell me what to wear and where to meet. he has told me WE are going to work on my self esteem and WE are going to get me used to compliments, all because I said I'm not a fan of over the top public displays of affection.

Oh no watch do you rent direct from a landlord or through an agency as they may be able to help you find somewhere.