Bizarroville!! PoshBoys, Muppets, Surgeons, nurses, coffee addicts and RL - dating thread 27!

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Western, handholding from here. I don't know how to stop you worrying, but I do know that worrying won't change anything between now and his surgery. Hope it turns out to be nothing.

Thank you all of you. Need to get it out of my system a bit tonight so I can be ok when I see him tomorrow

Don't stop posting about nurses and booze though!!!

Hi Sponge

For the record, I wouldn't say and don't think you are whiny and self obsessed.
It does break my heart that you get so sad because of these men, rather.

It is definitely natural to want a partner.

I'm mostly worried that you are investing so much so soon, but at the same time being so pessimistic, and get hurt.

Regardless of what happens on the first few dates, it can be a bit overwhelming for both.
Particularly if you spend a few hours together. And feelings may get confused.
Maybe this time he's just not that into you, and realised that in the cold light of day, maybe he's married, maybe he did find someone else.
Or lost his phone (do you have other ways of communicating?).
Who knows?

Anyway, totally rooting for you to find happiness.
And if with a partner, even better.

Bantam I think date 3, with booze - not so much as Date 1 maybe? see how it goes. Might be the gap between dates 1 and 2, plus lack of alcohol, made for todays lack of spark. Worth a try at date 3 anyway, not that I really know what I'm talking about, but still...

Western sorry that is crappy news. Hope all proves to be ok.

I'm a little relieved everyone seems to find the LC thing weird. It all seemed ok, even the day after, which makes me think I can't have put him off on the date. I don't think he's had time to meet anyone else. I doubt he's married (given that he's told me the road where he lives and the co he works at, plus we've been out til 1-2am twice in a week). And he's always been so please and thank you polite that if he had changed his mind or whatever I can't imagine him not telling me...

Just another baffling episode in my strange life

OWW so sorry to hear this

sponge it is baffling. As regards wanting a reason, of course you do, but it wouldn't be true, it would be half-arsed excuses that mean nothing. It's always lovely to hope, please don't lose that. God, I know it's difficult, but I'm holding your hand too. [hand]

Western fingers crossed he will be ok x

just thought of another reason he cant be married, he was telling me to find him on FB

Weird.

Snape I always have hope. Too much sometimes. There's even a little bit of me that hasn't quite yet given up on LC. And thanks for the hand :)

ok, I'm just catching up but okcupid think this guy is a pretty good match www.okcupid.com/profile/grey_shadow_mc so much so the bot emailed me with excitement or something?

um. yeh. Also no. This is just completely not my beverage of choice.

Sponge I've been talking to a male friend about this. He said 'well, asassins creed 3 has just come out - priorities, duh!' and added a wink.

I should add that he is a supposedly adult and educated professional male

shuckle. I love the morris dancer :

You should message me if
Absolutely if you're based in or near Newcastle, female, and interested in being hypnotised.

How can you resist? You are feeling very very sleepy.

Well, I'm kind of irritated about the Nurse situation. Not irritated by the nurse, she's done nothing wrong at all. We had a very quick first-wink-to-first meet thing (she winked, we met two days later, unusually quick) and we got on really well chatting online. Then we met, we talked,there was lots of wine and we snogged, although I can't say I was blown away by her physically she was really good to chat to. Then lots more chatting online and we met again today and it was a bit meh. I wouldn't look at her three times in a bar, although possibly twice, and whilst I've learned from past experience that the 'being able to make each other laugh' is hugely important, I also think that the butterflies have got to be there a little bit. Haven't they? And she was a mate today. Very funny mate, but we kissed a bit (just a little bit) and it wasn't happening.

Ah well. I can suggest a date 3 with booze and a meal, and maybe we'll be drunk enough to try sleeping together to see if it works, but it seems like forcing it a bit. Once we sober up, will we have regretted it?

I can get FWB, and maybe that would do. But is that something you do while you're waiting for a better thing to come along, or something you do when you're not ready for something more. And I'm ready for something more.

lubey :) sadly I don't think he is a gamer. He spends his spare time selling antiques and baking cakes...

bantam I don't know about the butterflies tbh. I had them with LC (and apparently he did with me, we both said we had them more so before the second date than the first), maybe they're over-rated in view of my experience?

I'm just catching up too.

I had my first date tonight. It was pretty crap. He was boring, I nodded politely and was glad when it was over although I didn't have the heart to say I never want to see you again. Now he's sent me his phone number. I'm tempted just to not reply and block him but that seems a bit heartless.

sponge - if you could send some of your hope my way it would be gratefully received tonight.

bantam- third time lucky? Definitely involve booze.

western - fingers crossed everything will be ok.

gies sorry your date was crap. you're welcome to some of my hope, it doesn't seem to do me much good, might as well share it :)

bantam re: FWB

In my case, a bit of both at different times in my life, and also while I wasn't waiting for anything more/better to come along, it was purely getting certain needs met while I had absolutely no interest in dating or relationships at all.

sponge- thank you. Any time I can return the favour just shout.

giesa - just reply and say you weren't feeling the spark, he seemed lovely, good luck. It's nice to give a response at least.

bantam needing to be drunk to try sleeping together doesn't sound the best, right? There could be an element of regret the morning after! I like the fizz of a spark when you only have to touch each other's arm when chatting!

strictly - you're right, of course, but not having done the dating thing for a long time, until my recent foray, I seem to remember that most of the relationships I got into were pretty fuzzy for the first month or so. Not sure how much was alchohol and how much was hormones.

I think maybe it's just a case of a date working out okay, we got on very well talk-wise, the goggles kicked in mutually as alcohol makes everyone a bit horny, and in the somewhat colder light of day the talk stuff is still there but if you can't maintain the fancying then it's probably not going to work.

I'm too new to know whether the fizz of a spark when touching arms happens often or if it's incredibly rare. I enjoy it when it happens but I think trying to make it happen with booze is just a bit shit.

Bantam, I was just going to say what you already know (because you just said it yourself). Beer goggles help to get the flirting and snogging going, but I would hope for a bit of a spark just with kissing? Life was so much easier when you just went out with your mates, and snogged the person you'd fancied for a few weeks, wasn't it?

Giesa, I think a message just to say you had a nice time but don't see it going anywhere would do the trick.

Sponge, did you find him on fb? Maybe he thinks you've snubbed him by not doing so?

I love malted shreddies, by the way. Have recently rediscovered them and taken to having them in bed in the morning. No man required! Just thought I'd share that.

Hey folks. Want to ask your opinion on something. Been doing a bit of thinking about NL and I am thinking it might be best to stop seeing him. Initially it was just meant to be a bit of fun, but I can't maintain that he is 23 with no kids and that to me means no chance of anything more than fun and I don't think it's wise to let me kids get attached to him in any way. He has met my parents, I don't think his know about me and if they did I can't imagine they would be delighted with their son dating a divorcing 28 year old with four kids I know I wouldn't be if my son was! So yeah, sensible head on...right thing to do?

Morning All. I've had trouble finding you all! The thread magically disappeared from my 'watch list', my 'threads I'm on' etc, don't know what happened. Has anyone ever had that problem?

Anyway...

I am sorry to hear of the things going pear shaped for so many of us. But keep going, eventually, things will get better, mustn't they? Bloody woo is broken or something I think

However the thread is not over yet, there is still time for a dramatic turnaround....please woo, play nice.

Fate morning! How do you feel about him? Do you want more than fun?

I'd perhaps just have fun with him, but then I am not wanting a LTR at the moment and being happy, not making any plans is really important to me due to my marriage ending etc.

He is very young, where did you find him? (I want one)

Having re-read your post Fate, you are probably right to end it.

The best way to have just fun or a FWB arrangement is to have more than one so that you don't focus all your thoughts/energies on one person! I find that at least two, ideally three. Otherwise the relationship tends to become important IFYWIM.

He's lovely, very sweet and fun met him at college, in my defence, he made all the moves

Yeah I think so too fuzzy.