Husband tracking

[Stopthepidgeon]

Just tought of a novel way of checking up on my DH - want to run it by you all for possible pitfalls.

Use my iPhone touch - register it on my track my iPhone app and leave it his car? I can track its whereabouts from my iPhone.

Yes - I know, I know, if there's no trust then bail out. We are in the aftermath of my discovering his affair - we are talking things through and he tells me it's over with ow. It's just early days for me.

Just to add, I don't want a moral debate on here as to why I want to track him.

Just want to know if this is a realistic way of doing it.

Thanks in advance.

If you do this, don't forget to put it on silent and make sure it won't vibrate in case someone rings you! Otherwise, sounds like it would work.

But... how can you track its whereabouts from your iPhone if it is in the car?

iPod touch in car.

Track on my iPhone.

Or leave iPhone in car and track from computer.

Good points about if using phone put it on silent.

Thanks.

Does he have an iPhone? Then you could use the Find My Friends app.

What about being open with him about this though? I think Shirley Glass's book talks about this phase, and says that the person who had the affair should do everything possible to reassure their partner.

Yes it would be possible. I'm not going to lecture you about the rights and wrongs- you have to get there on your own x

I track my DH's iPhone and iPad using iCloud (find my phone) on the computer.

I often use it to see where dh is - he's rubbish at answering his phone or forgets to switch the volume back on after meetings so it's useful for me to see if he's left the office yet or whatever. He doesn't give a stuff, or view it as me checking up on him. He'd do it back to me if he only had the technical nous to be able to!

Would the iPod touch not need to be connected to a wifi/3G method for this to work? [scratches head]

TCD is right, the iPod touch won't work without an Internet connection.

How much is iCloud?

Sorry, but either trust him or leave him.

He's betrayed you, so you aren't endebted to him in any way...

My DH follows everything I do. Everything I write (he'll read this), every text I write (which will be collated with the bill, to make sure I haven't deleted anything), every call I make, everywhere I go...

It's soul destroying.

Yes, I gave him a reason to check (way way ago.. before we were married and had kids)... Now, it's just soul destroying.

Either believe him or leave him.

DH says this would work:

Put the Iphone on his car and then track it through ICloud (for free). You would obviously have to make do without your Iphone during the tracking.

Oh god this iphone tracking thing makes me feel very uneasy. If i found out someone had been tracking me i would be very very angry.

Is it worth it?

Mayisout, I don't think iCloud costs anything.

In our case, my DH suggested me tracking him as like Clam's husband he is rubbish at keeping in touch so this gets him out of informing me of his whereabouts.

I do feel like a bit of a stalker. The DC do like to follow his movements.

OP specifically made a point of asking for no moral judgement on this...

I personally have no experience in this situation, but I have seen dozens of threads advising women to take control and "gather evidence", this is no worse than hacking his phone or going through his personal emails. If you're comfortable with that, this is not that different.

I'm not offering a moral judgement. I'm offering practical advice.

If the only way of being - comfortably - in a relationship with someone is to check up to this degree, then I would (comfortably) suggest that it is not right for either party.

Oh, I was thinking of an Xmas present for geeky DH as he whinges if I don't answer the phone when he calls so he could waste time faffing about with yet more gadgets use cloud to see where I am (usually driving).

I happen to agree with you, but that's my opinion and the OP didn't ask for that (she also made it clear on her post that she already thought about that) so it's just unhelpful

Maysout the "Find my Friends" app is free to install and does the job really well.

Good point, poppy.

OP - why not just insert an RFID / SAT tracking device into his neck? Just in case he wanders too far from his car?
Maybe get an PI to follow him?
Or... how about... a hypnotist... just in case he's not divulging every last thought he's had throughout the day?

Not helpful??????????? Please look at what you are suggesting! This is no way for either of you to live.

if you need to do this you've got no trust,no marriage.is shame you feel need this
you'd need to leave charged,switched on,silent mode iPhone in his car,then track via cloud it will tell you street the car is packed in.not exactly where he is
so he may pack in the high street then traipse off somewhere else.you'll also need another phone so when,or he or anyone calls you answer

pointtopoint - that sounds like a desperately sad way to live your life. I'm sorry. And pointtopoint's DH - everyone is entitled to some privacy. This isn't sensible watchfulness, this is an invasion of privacy.

I don't know anything about i-phones or how they work. But I think you are right to do this if you want to. I would if I wasn't sure.

This is no way for either of you to live.

And yet you are point.

I agree with you btw, but maybe take some of your own advice?

Sorry to go off topic, but
would do your friends know you're using the app?
[clueless]
I'd be livid if anyone tracked me.

Coffee no, with "Find my Friends" you need to to give individual permission to each friend and can revoke it at any time.