Onwards and upwards we go, still sniggering at the sausage seeing the roll Dating thread 26

[lubeybooby]

New one!

All dating related gumph here.

Name changed, an intermittent regular on this thread.

Here goes.

I am totally despondent. I get lots of views and very few takers so I am wondering if it's my photo or what I say in my profile.

Here goes. Would any of you lovely regular daters be kind enough to check out my profile and give me some honest (gentle) feedback please? Something needs to change here.

PM me faintheart. I'm here with time to spare today! :)

That does sound like a good date, slightly - and a nice polite chap who likes you.

faintheart pm me the details and I'd be happy to take a look - I'm sure tbh your profile is fine but a second opinion can't hurt :) I promise to only comment constructively!

You might also want to PM Bantam for a male opinion, he's looked at mine and a couple of other ladies on the thread, and offered some helpful advice.

Sometimes though your profile can be fine though, and it's nothing you're doing or not doing, just that theres not much traffic in your area or age range on that particular site.

slightly yes that sounds like a great date. Hoping mine tonight goes even half as well...:)

Thank you sponge, its on its way.

Bantam, may I take the liberty and PM you?

I can't pm at the moment for some reason, will try later. Thanks again.

bantam are you a name changer or new to thread? I missed some if it...
I'm sure I've been flirty back numerous times.. this particular time I havnt heard from him in 9 months. I'm just suspicious I guess. when he pm'ed me on fb a few years ago I thought he'd done it by accident as hadnt seen him since high school which is a long distant time ago now :(

Faint, pms received and have replied :)

Worley I suspect you're right to be a bit suspicious, I think some men (and probably women too) like to message old flames on FB as a bit of an ego boost/stroke, without any intention of any more coming of it...

Sponge where is your date taking you tonight?

Worleyk sorry but I agree with sponge it sounds like an ego thing rather than a genuine interest in you, I'd listen to your instincts

Worley no not a name changer, I've been on the last couple of threads giving a blokes point of view and commiserating/celebrating with everyone else

faintheart feel free, I'll take a look, although I posted something in the last thread about general things (not being overly picky in your list of 'must haves' about eye colour or favourite book etc, as it makes the profile look high maintenance) I'll see if I can find the link if people thought it was useful. I can only give my opinion though, it's not a guaranteed fix and as some people said, sometimes it's just the site you're on or the time of the year..

Worley - agree he needs to go/be blocked/whatever. Whether or not its anything suspicious, it sounds like he just likes the idea that you're still there, will always answer, give him a bit of an ego boost but never really give you more in return. And in the mean time you're not able to fully let go and invest your emotional energy elsewhere. Although I am also very sympathetic to the fact that this is easier said than done and if I had any sense in my head I would follow my own advice

faintheart really sorry that I can't look at your profile. Not registered, I might make a snooping account to have a look in a minute though when I've made a cuppa.

lubey same here :)

slightly we are doing a pub crawl of the local pubs...I am still struggling with the idea of meeting at 7, seems v early to me!

Which site are you on faintheart?

ok, settled with cuppa now. I'm going to register just for faintheart... brb!

Ok faintheart. There isn't anything wrong with your profile at all, and your pic is lovely. The only thing I can think of is a lack of guys on the site in the age range you're looking for. Would you consider widening the range a little?

You know, I think my biggest problem may bethe fact I've not looked at men as prospective dates for close on quarter of a century and all men of my age looks so very old! And the women far more poised and attractive than I was in my 20s :(

How can I compete with that, particularly as every picture ever taken reveals the usually well hidden, overweight 16th-century Russian peasant woman in me!

I do think OKC can be quite hit and miss, I hardly got any messages on there nor did I see anyone worth messaging. The messages I did get were always dodgy and not worth replying to.

I think a lot of the time it's less the profile and more the site tbh. Faint it may be worth trying elsewhere - POF you will get a LOT of traffic/emails, it is v much looking for a needle in a haystack but it's free and high volume. alternatively Match isn't bad - although most men are looking (it seems) for women a lot younger. I got a 3 day free sub with them, if they're doing anything like that I'd give it a try.

sponge whatever happens tonight I hope you have fun!

I'm tempted to try POF again one of these days but not feeling quite brave enough yet - it was such a shock to the system last time!

Sorry about my hidden dating profile, I've now opened it so it shows on Google and

ok faintheart I took a look and replied to your PM.

oh no, do they show on google if they're open?

Thanks Luby, I'm sorry I crossed posted. I have thought about lowering the age limit but I'm already 5 years older than it says and can't be too cheeky and always tell them if I think we are going to meet again. As for raising the limits, I am already struggling to find men something near my age who have a heartbeat a life. I have always dated younger men in RL (by accident, they have looked older, me a bit younger). The oldest I managed via OD was only 4 years younger, lovely but bonkers. The youngest in RL, don't even ask .

you can't say 'don't even ask' and not expect us to ask... how old? :)

er, he is now 28. I have worked hard to get this up to the current range, going up in increments . I and don't consider anything up to 10 years younger than my (real) age to be 'younger', maybe because I've been so slack in the past

Bantam, yes if you don't click 'open only to members' it will show up on Google.