Onwards and upwards we go, still sniggering at the sausage seeing the roll Dating thread 26

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All dating related gumph here.

gies Welcome to the thread! Yep, that's a great strategy. Go for it and feel free to share some of the messages if you wish

I cant decide whether to sleep with the bloke I met last week, he's 15 years younger than me, and only 7 years older than my eldest child.
Is it normal to feel weird about that sort of situation

MadameO you're right about prolific being chaotic, I do generally feel more comfortable with less contact, albeit a bit wobbly :)

I sent him a how are you, still on for tommorow kind of thing - this is his reply:

'Hi, yes very well thanks. Yep, definitely still on for tomorrow. Looking forward to it x'

So all's well for now I think. Best away to dye my hair shortly otherwise I will be meeting him with grey roots...

gies welcome! yes feel free to share.

mercury i know if my ridiculously young colleague (who is 18 years younger than me, and 8 years older than DS1) was to offer I wouldn't hesitate :) But then most of the time I forget I'm actually a mature old woman...

Oh dear god, I've just realised tomorrow is Halloween!

Not really an auspicious day for a first date

I got married on Halloween (cheap late licence and easy to book registry office) - it lasted 12 years.

I like to think of it as a night where there is the possibility of mayhem and devilry.

thanks Sponge p'raps I should just bit the bullet, grab the bull by the horns, etc..and the iching says go for it (great abundance moving to endurance)
think I'll also do my roots first though :o

halloween's a great night for a date, you can be a black magic woman and put a spell on him

I'm not going to mention horny devils... I'll be trick or treating tomorrow

Aw sponge I think halloween is a great night for a date. I agree with the magic aspect

Halloween is fabulous! :)

Just back from taking DD to the gym that's my last time, it was ok. We had a glass of wine to celebrate.

DS1 is being an absolute fucking monster. Even more so than usual. He sleeps during the day stays up all night and had a raging argument with the other two last night, god knows what new flatmate thinks, expect he'll be off ASAP. DS1 actually 'left home' at midnight and phoned me to come and get him half an hour later. I slept through it all because I am absolutely exhausted with everything right now. No word from voldemort, which is arguably good as I can't be dealing with his shit on top of everything else. (Sigh)

Sorry for thread-downer. Yay for the good news. I need a really good book or some kinky fuckery knitting to take my mind off of things.

Hi giesa welcome to the thread.

The problem is there isn't one perfect way to do Online Dating. It works differently for different people. I used to get annoyed at people with grammatical mistakes and typos in their profiles, but then thought - is that really going to bug me? If I met someone great in a bar, or at a friends party, I wouldn't find out about that kind of thing until we'd been together for a while.

Seeing so many profiles side by side can paralyse your decision making instincts and make you judge them on stuff like their favourite film, music, eye colour, etc, which really isn't important.

Don't look at all the emails. Pick a few that arrived first, just 5 or 6 maybe, then look at the picture. Firstly could you possibly fancy them. Those that are definite 'no's, discard. Then read the message. If it's generic and boring or short, then discard. If it's interesting take a look at their profile and see if they sound interesting. If not then discard. If you haven't got 2 or 3 to respond to, then move on to the next few, but I'd only do a few a night (this is the way I work, but I'm a bloke so it's a bit different)

Interestingly I read an article about online dating in a science magazine the other night, and it talked about an experiment with jam. They had two booths set up at two train stations, one showing a range of 6 jams, one showing 32 jams (including the 6 from the other one) The one showing only 6 jams sold a huge number more because if you have too many things to choose from, you start judging on the pattern on the lid, the crinkliness of the bow around it -all irrelevant stuff. Keep it simple.

Oh, and once you've got some dates lined up, we have soooo much more (bad) advice for you :)

good luck.

snape what kind of stuff do you like to read, maybe I can recommend something. I read all sorts but lots of psychological thrillers at the moment.

so this is the profile of the girl who winked at me a few minutes ago. No picture.

Hello!
Why we leave, we throw men? We don't leave simply, without any reasons! We do not throw hot, cheerful, rebellious! Romantic, reliable and loving us. We leave from those who the tyrant and the weakling, infantile, the bore, the numskull, the fool. We leave from those with whom to us badly. We can throw by nonsense to return, suffer, be bored for a while, and to nestle on a breast. We leave, when stopped loving and it is boring, when change to us indifferently! We don't leave simply, without any reasons, never we throw beloveds! If you the real man write to me! I will be glad to new acquaintance! I want private contact! I will be glad to tell more about myself and to show the photos!

I think that is google translate. Very likely from Russian. I really want to take a random passage from Charles Dickens, convert to hungarian, french, tagalog then back to English and send it to her. But she will just mail me with her personal email address and promise to send me naked pics. Then ask me to marry her..

see, it's not just the guys who can be weird.

yoga. I like quirky different worldsy books. Loved the night circus, the girl with glass feet, never let me go, really like Scarlett Thomas, John Irving, Sarah waters...

I might be very bad and spend the very kind and generous 25 quid amazon voucher on books (sorry benefactor!). I can just about cope with wet feet, but the possibility of not having worlds to escape into makes me shudder.

sounds more like a scammer...I think there are alot of female scammers on the site I use but I've never come across any male scammers on a dating site

Well that depends on your definition of 'scammer' really...

Oh Snape :( I thought DS1 would be easier with it being half term this week. I don't have much to suggest, only much sympathy. My DS1 is being (oddly) wellbehaved recently so I am just enjoying the calm before the return of the inevitable storm. Is limiting xbox time a solution or is this likely to provoke the situation further?

Bantam That definitely sounds like a translation, and a shockingly bad one!

So, I text Poshboyname earlier, in reply to his text, to check what time we're meeting tomorrow. No repl .

And nothing all day from the policeman either.

However neither seems to have been online today...which at least is something.

oh I know it's a scammer. It's kind of funny. I get winked at several times a day, quite often by multiple different women using very similar names, from manchester one day, then the next day several from glasgow, then the next day several from oxford circus. All very pretty fake pictures with either no profile or one like the above. I also get winked at by women in their 60s and local women who just aren't my cup of tea at all. It's rare to get winked at by someone I actually fancy. The Nurse being a rare exception.

When I was a student I had a little book called 'English as She is Spoke' where some nineteenth century loon had produced a Portuguese/English phrase book via his Portuguese/French and French/English dictionaries. I loved it and can still quote from it extensively, especially my favourite scenario 'For to Ride a Horse' where he's presented with a less than perfect beast - "It is pursey! It is with nails up. It sal not how to march. Are you not ashamed to give me a jade as like?"

Snape have you read the Sisters Brothers?

Yes, not overly fond of it, it trundled along ok, but it didn't have that really escapist magical element that I love.

Been keeping up... its tough... I love your cynicism and humour and support for each other. I love the token male view - bantam and the woo snape and everything you guys are for each other - the new thread switch was hilarious!

Anyway thought would jump back in. My 5 date widower (if anyone remembers from advice asked on Sunday) has just dumped me - really nicely, it's not you and on the phone which took guts, but am gutted. And really pissed off. He has been stringing me along all week about our planned meeting on Thursday, wanted me to go to his... yes I'm sure I've thought about it...

Has just admitted he has been feeling ambivalent about me for the last 2 weeks, and that there is something missing, not sure what... I'm attractive, intelligent there's an attraction blah blah I jumped in with my heart wide open. Such a fool. :(

feck. I may have just asked the nurse to elope with me

sorry dippy cross post there. It's crap with it's not a mutual thing. I've been there. At least doing it on the phone shows consideration rather than just going silent

bantam.

Snort!

Oh dippy. You were just full of hope. Not a bad thing. :). It's best to find this out now, rather than dragging on. Hoist that bosom. Have chocolate or wine or whatever it takes and face tomorrow like the brave new day it is.