Onwards and upwards we go, still sniggering at the sausage seeing the roll Dating thread 26

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New one!

All dating related gumph here.

Batam why dont you skype her...I find it really helpful, infact now I wont meet anyone without a prior skype call.
Really I wish I'd started doing it earlier I could have avoided lots of awkward coffee dates :o

I couldn't skype someone i didn't know. I know that sounds weird but I don't even like using skype with close friends and family that much - I always feel slightly self-conscious that I look/sound weird. Don't even really like talking on the phone prior a first date, although I have done it a couple of times. I'd much rather meet in person.

I'm with Yoga on this - I skype my kids, and sometimes work colleagues, but it's no indicator of chemistry, I think, just whether someone picks their nose or is okay looking in 'real' life. You can't tell if there's chemistry until you meet in person. I think some of it is body language, some of it is pheremones (or whatever). I know SurreyGirl is attractive - and one of her pictures was even a webcam one so I know she could skype, but..

no, not going to work. Too far, no point in meeting. She'll be someone I send witty mails to until they mutually tail off.

Might meet the nurse for coffee later. She's fun and seems quite into me.

And thanks for the compliments. I'm almost blushing. Why do men generally not do very well on here?

todays 'woo'

K'un / Receptive Force
Earth above and Earth below: The Earth contains and sustains. In this situation, the Superior Person should not take the initiative; he should follow the initiative of another. He should seek receptive allies in the southwest; he should break ties with immovable allies in the northeast. Responsive devotion. Receptive influence. Sublime Success if you keep to your course.
SITUATION ANALYSIS:
This is a time for dealing with reality as it is, not as you would have it be. If you realize that in this situation you are the receptor, not the transmitter of the stimulus, you will find yourself reaching goals that seemed unattainable under your own steam. If you persist in futile efforts to be the Shaper rather than the Shaped, you will completely miss this unique opportunity.

( i know it's generally Gateshead, just in relation to where I am sitting ...)

bantam men do not get on very well on here because we break them

thanks snape. First laugh-out-loud I've had all day

I couldn't skype with anyone...before this thread I didn't even know what skype was . Plus given the sort of men I tend to encounter I'd be worried about what I'd end up seeing.

I haven't heard anything from either of my prospective dates today - this is normal though isn't it? I'm used to hundreds of texts before meeting which I now know is in no way a good sign.

Eek after dreaming of my ex last night guess who's been texting me today after a week of silence asking to try again? Gotta love a good mindfuck.

Bantam sorry to say but you sound really into Surrey girl, just how big a distance is it?

Parsley I think he sounds a right catch. I may have to message him.

Parsley that profile! Mind you the picture alone would put me off. Something about the stance, the grimace expression and the hands on hips pointing to groin
And then you read the description. And nod. And shudder. And hastily move on.

Bantam Aren't you doing well! My take on that text is: Run for the hills. If you bristle with one text (which yes I would judge her whole character on, as I would a bloke) you are going to find her very irritating, very quickly. So if you are after a LTR, then I wouldn't waste your time.
If I was gambling kinda gal I'd put my money on the Nurse. SurreyGirl can occupy your mind just now. Personally I quite liked having someone to message who had a brain. Even if we looked unlikely to meet it was reassuring to know there was intelligent life out there [hgrin]
Gettingit PoF, are you sure? Eek. Ok make sure your profile excludes the neanderthals. Use lots of big words etc. Sorry, not being patrionising, I just feel slightly protective toward you. Oh and you were in my dream last night!

slightlyconfused - it's a two hour drive, pretty much. And I know people the next town over so I could crash at theirs, but she's got 3 kids at home and an ex who is likely to cancel having the kids at the last minute, and even when he has them it's rarely overnight. No. Not going to work.

Plus one thing I've learned from OD is you can read so much into texts and emails and when you meet there's just..nothing. Awkward moments because you've both realised it's pretty clear that it's not going to work and you'd both got your hopes up. So you shake hands and go your separate ways, facing the trudging journey home instead of the walking on air you were hoping for.

The alternative with SurreyGirl is that we could meet up and there is a spark, it's kismet, made in heaven, and then we don't get to see each other again for a month because she has to cancel last minute when I'm already on the way down there, she's suddenly free when I have my kids with me. Meeting halfway means London and that's just ridiculous, no chance to relax with each other.

No. Not going to work. Buggeration.

Ah well, there's SexyNurse and Safrican. Both of whom there's chemistry with after one date and a bit of snogging. I think I'll do one more date with each and then let the other one down lightly (see, there's that modesty I was talking about)

Sponge - you can't read anything into no text by lunchtime. If they'd been texting you constantly since breakfast you'd be annoyed they were too full on. Go with the flow and don't overthink. (ha! hark at the bloke not taking his own advice)

bantam you're right about surreygirl, don't go there. That's what happened with Mr60, the chemistry was amazing, we got on so well....and THEN we decided the distance was too much. Heartbreaking.

I think it's too far as well...but then my view is perhaps coloured by every bloke I meet, who all live within 20 miles of me and are always looking to meet half way (which is a pain as I don't drive) or in London (which as I spend over an hour a day on the train each way going to work I prefer to avoid!).

Still no texts from either PoshboyName (who I'm meant to be seeing tomorrow) or the Policeman...do I text them? Or wait?

Sponge what's contact been like so far? Are all the plans made and firmed up?

Poshboyname - various emails last week, but not loads - maybe 2 a day, culminating in us arranging to meet tommorrow, when and where etc. My match freebie membership expired over the weekend, I text him to let him know, we exchanged a couple of texts. nothing since Sun eve though, last from him said he was looking forward to Weds.

Policeman we have agreed to meet Sat night, but not a venue or time. He said when I spoke to him yesterday we'd sort that out during this week. We've only been in contact since Sat, a few emails, then about 5 texts and a call yesterday.

I probably should just sit on my hands...

sponge if the plans are decided for tomorrow, a quick text to confirm everythings still on can't hurt. For some reason my gut tells me to wait till late afternoon though

sponge i refer you to 'woo of the day'

'the Superior Person should not take the initiative; he should follow the initiative of another'

Hello all - it's taken ages to catch up having not logged in for several days and there's definitely a positive mood in the air!

Having joined Match a couple of weeks ago, I'm currently emailing 2 guys (all very chatty, mentioning kids, work etc with no inappropriateness) but how ridiculous is this - I am actually terrified of being asked to meet up! One of the guys is in Cambridgeshire and I think I deliberately emailed him because of the distance between us (I'm in N. London). God knows what I'd be like if it came down to a potential shag situation. I would probably implode or run away.

I'll sit on my hands for now then.

Let's hope they contact me, I thought my luck was changing but now I fear I spoke too soon.

smoothie - generally I've found that potential shag situations imploding or running away tends to bruise my ego :) Why are you terrified of being asked to meet up? You think you'll make a bad impression, or are you worried you'll make a good one?

sorry, that should have said - are you worried you won't both get along, or worried that you will. As several other people have pointed out, online dating isn't about finding someone you're good enough for, it's about finding someone good enough for you.

Do you know Bantam - I'm not actually sure what worries me so much. I'm a bit shy and worried about how I'll come across in person which is bloody silly as I'm not being interviewed about my hand in marriage, it's just potentially meeting for a coffee and a chat.

I think after some of the horror stories I've read, my ego couldn't take someone meeting me, looking me up and down and saying "errr... I think I've made a mistake!" Just need to work on a few confidence ishoos and I'll be fine

one more post before I get back to this report I'm meant to be writing.

sponge - don't start thinking negatively about this. You've got several blokes wanting to date you. Yes some of them may turn out to be flashes in the pan, be married, be scared of vegetables etc. But that's not your problem, it's them. And if someone makes a date and backs out without ever meeting you, it's annoying (and it's happened to me) but that wasn't because of anything you've done wrong, it's their issue.

You've said several times you can't get a second date, but then you've also said several times you've turned down second dates with guys who wanted one. So there's nothing wrong with you - it's just that you haven't met someone who deserves you yet. If these guys cancel (and now is late enough in the afternoon to throw PoshBoy a quick casual text to check plans are still on, bright and breezy) then it's because they weren't serious about dating anyone. It has nothing to do with you apart from being a waste of your time. Their loss, not yours.

smoothie

if you want I can check out your match profile and give you feedback - I did it for Sponge and Pixie, not that Pixie used any of it of course :) PM me your username if you want and I can take a look.

Just popped by to make you all jealous! The following chap wants to meet me. Here are his profile notes:

^Ok girls, lets cut to the chase here. Im looking for a girl who is willing to try and accommodate my unfeasiably large penis. I was born with it and i have to live with even though it scares the crap out of most women! To be honest, its not something im proud of as it has ment i have had to spend most of my adult life trying to discguise it in one way or another.

Jogging bottoms help but jeans or a pair of trousers are just a joke. If i had a pound for every time im ask why i carry a rolled up newspaper around all the time i'd be a rich man.

The novelty value for me wore off years ago. Feeling light headed every time i see something vaguley stimulating is not fun, but i have had to face up to the fact that there simply is not enough blood for the 2 of us!

If, for some unearthly reason you want to meet it, message me. But please girls, don't say you was'nt warned. Its not for the faint hearted and its not something you will want to discuss with you mum. Im the one who has to carry the bloody thing home when your mind has made an appointment your body can't keep.

Other than that, im perfectly normal, fun to be with and would always put you first. As for him downstairs, he does his own thing!^

Sheesh!!!!!!!!!!

Spoof or sheer big-headedness?

(Please pardon the unintentional pun right at the end !!)