Onwards and upwards we go, still sniggering at the sausage seeing the roll Dating thread 26

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All dating related gumph here.

Still feeling a bit nervous, as per comment 5 mins ago. Any reassurance anyone?

Doesnt help.

It is insane.
But you know it doesnt come from a place of ' excellent now we can sort stuff'
But rather from a ' fuck, poor ywk i hope hes ok- be his shoulder to cry on type thing. I have issues with him not being happy. If hes happy im fine and can ignore him easily. If i know things arent good i have to help.
He helped me loads in the summer when i had all the shit happening. Called me everyday..... as he was worried about me.

I dont know. Comes from a weird place. I just need to talk to him and make sure hes ok . Thats all.

dog - did you specify in your profile that the bloke needs to be attractive? As in, written down.

It sounds like a form letter from a twat. But i'd defer to the wisdom of people on here that have developed the radar

Yoga, just answered that above. Lol.
I wont ever be with him. Ever.
I wouldnt do it to myself
But still, ijust need to make sure hes happy and ok .

Parsley, just do it, be yourself, relax and enjoy it :)

Thanks watch, think we x-posted (I said that to one of the men I was talking to last night and he thought i meant my XH had written to me )

Parsley - a few nerves are normal but it's just coffee, you have absolutely nothing to lose. x

Watch I'd be v sceptical of ykw. Having said that, I can see why you want to be sure he's ok. Just dont let yourself get too involved with him again. Easier said than done I know.

Snape a date! Hurrah -enjoy! You deserve a lovely vodka filled evening.

Parsley - yes go for coffee. Even if its bad, its an hour of your time. Worth a try :)

I am seeing lc (lovelycuthbert) tomorrow. He text me earlier to say how much he was looking forward to it, and how it seemed ages since he'd seen me.

Am I allowed a little of excitement?

You SQUEE away sponge

And watch fuckit, talk to him, but do so with your wary-goggles on. And report back.

sponge

I am on my sofa (literally) with David Tennant (metaphorically) & M&Ms so all is well

sponge - I'm still wondering how he extricated himself from the photo request? You were steaming after that. He did sound great after your pub crawl, but you sounded very angry.

sponge, you can squee as much as you want ITS A SECOND DATE!!!!!!!
:)

yeah, guard will always be up, its another of the reasons why i cant be with him, because i can never trust him. But hes hurting, and i just need to be there for him. i dont know why. i dont love him, i dont even lust after him, i just care about him.

And does he honestly care about you watch, because from here, he certainly cares about himself.

Sorry, I know I am in bizarre post-voldie territory here, but Ffs. He needs a damn good slap. Oh poor ykw, oh! he's feeling vulnerable.

You care because you are a lovely person. He is trying to work out his next docking-station.

oh, he cares most about himself, reason number 1001 why i wont let it ever go anywhere.
hes far too selfish and want everything on his terms, i know this, im not making any excuse for him, its how he is, and its not for me.
Still i need to make sure hes ok, and his next docking station ( love that!!) wont be me.
Its never going to happen. I dont feel that way towards him, havent for a long time.

Good. Strong. :)

Ditto what bantam said - what on earth could one say to minimise the impact of asking for nudie pics after one date? He must be like God or something

parsley you can do it .. What have you got to lose???

I may have my first OD date on Tuesday with a guy who lives quite close to me ..

:)
like i said, doesnt come from that place, comes from somewhere else.
I dont know where, couldnt explain if i tried.

in other news, i unhid my profile on pof for a little while. There was this guy on there who asked me out some time earlier this year or maybe last, but who i declined as i thought he might be a bit wet, and was only recently divorced. BUT, i spied him on okc and his anwers to some of the more personnal questions have really made me interested...... and hes just messaged me :)
So, i can go back into hiding again now.
I do like the hide function.

I haven't really found the time to break things off with Safrican yet, as I've been busy with DC for the last few days, so have been somewhat incommunicado, and she's become like a kitten on speed. Texts covering 12 different topics. She actually sounds like she's on cocaine...

'I'm watching some tv and shopping online. My neighbour is going to come begging for food as he spent all his money on fireworks. Freaking so many freaking fireworks!! :). I saw skyfall last night. Skyfall was awesome!. Did you know the chinese logographic system has between 40-50000 symbols? Bizaroville! How do we have only 26?'

I have no idea how to respond to that without resorting to 'calm down dear'.

Question for all of you. I've seen her semi naked, we've had two dates, We've only spoken on the phone once, the rest by email and text.
Do I have to break things off (citing distance, not insanity) over the phone or is a text hugely cowardly?

text is fine. its been two dates.

Is that actually a real text?

I'm scared and I haven't seen her semi-naked...

watch - whats the background with ykw? I don't think I know much about him.

sponge is lc the guy that is taking you to the theatre? how many times have you seen him?

snape yes, I received that text a couple of hours ago after I apologised for being out of signal for two days (at some friends in the country) and asked her how her weekend had been.

I'm scared too.

moving, no point going into too much detail. have known him for 3.5 years. didnt happen, was unrequited on my behalf, then unreqited on his. far too much pain caused by both parties, though he has been far meaner than i ever would be. That being said we have suported each other through the ups and downs of the last few years, and i know that he will always be there to listen. He, unfortunatley does understand me, in a way no one has before, ( i dont think this is a paticullary good thing and it would be better if he didnt. unfortunatley i understand him too. It doesnt help either of us.

Hello

Can I have a bit of advice please. Been on 3 dates with a man and had quite few phonecalls and texts. He is nice. Freakingly similar to me in terms of "issues". He has been very nice to me and helped me make some pretty big decisions but I don't feel a spark and I don't think he does either. We have not even had proper kiss yet!! weird!! He didn't reply to a text I sent him on Friday and then text me today apologising saying he was busy all weekend and feeling off colour today. We had loosely agreed to meet tonight. I know I need to text him but don't know what to say. He has been good to me but think more as friends - unsure whether or not to say this because I think I will look massively full on. Arghhhh I am such an idiot!! I know he fears rejection as much as me so I need to tread carefully. What should I text back?

I want to slap her.

Give me her number. I'll text her and tell her I'm your wife. Job done.

banta - that does seem alot of information in one text. I think texting to say your not interested would be fine.

watch I remember him now, sorry bad memory its difficult as you have been in each others lives for a while. As long as you dont think you will get hurt by him by being there for him, then its fine. I think if you feel so strongly about being there for him then you have to go with your feeling.