Onwards and upwards we go, still sniggering at the sausage seeing the roll Dating thread 26

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New one!

All dating related gumph here.

Well I've signed up for POF as I was looking at the profiles yoga sent .. Anyone want to review my profile for me?

Already had lots of one line messages ..

Mmm. Interesting about the dating thing. I seem to have quite lot of messages from guys who are looking for a relationship even though I've just put down dating. I'm wondering how much notice people actually take of profiles?

I've been at this lark about a week now and to be honest I'm finding the thread about OD more interesting than the OD itself. I am exchanging messages with 4 guys. They all seem really nice but just a little bit boring and earnest. Maybe I should answer some of the one-liner guys and see if they are a bit more spunky lively. One of my messagees ( not sure what the correct term is ) has messaged me a gift of a teddy bear and then this morning a rose. This seems quite full on so early in our correspondence. If it had been a bottle of whisky or a box of chocs (I.e. something practical that I could actually use) then I might be more impressed.

On the upside my attempts at meeting people in RL seems to be yielding better results. This weekend I learned how to tango ( a little bit) and also managed to do some horizontal dancing. It has been over 5 years since I have had sex and it was very good. It is just unfortunate that my dance partner wants things to be very casual and I'm not sure if I can cope with that.

Yoga I am admiring your enthusiasm and am slightly jealous that you managed to get an actual date. I thought engineer looked lovely (but then I'm one myself so I have a soft spot for them).

Watch Urgh, the last thing you needed. Hope the film was good though.
Snape I'm liking the sound of the Shaver actually. I hope he fulfils his early promise.
Western how are you getting on?
Yoga I like the sound of the Engineer too.
Sorry I cant keep up with you all!

it was more than a little awkward. Plus he was with 6 or so friends, who all looked like 90's rejects, in a not cool way.
awkward as fuck.

film was not worth it, i should never see films where dogs die. this one it died TWICE!!

was speaking to my stepdad ( whos 13 years older than me and the nicest man alive. he reassured me its not me, he spent 10 years without a serious relationship and that it happens when it happens and that the pirate was clearly not a red blooded male as his reactions were way off.

kind of makes me feel better.

Very well I think/hope Mme though not as loved up as you - yet!! Seeing him tonight for the first time in ages and an really looking forward to it, though strangely I'm feeling a little butterfly-ish.

Not sure whether to invite him in afterwards as children will be asleep upstairs. Any thoughts from you lot? They haven't met yet ... Can't go to his as he's got his mum staying.

Ykw is now single. Apparently.

[Biscuit]

Western, invite him in :)

Shit. Shit.shit. shit

I just bought myself a notebook. It's substantially bigger and I will still fill it with hope and love and imagination. :-)

Had a lovely day with various DC's, went on a charity shop hunt with Ds2, to no avail, but bought nice tea cups in tk maxx and pyjamas for DD, (£8) who was delighted.

The more I think about voldemort, oh I was an idiot, continually excused his behaviour. When he was unemployed, I sent job ads, cooked him dinner once a week, took him to the pub, bought him constant drinks. Because I was in love. I was so pleased for him when he got a job, (still am) I never do anything with the expectation of return, but, you know, take me out for dinner with your first paycheck. It was an unequal relationship. If he wants to get a bit of us back in his life, then the constant ego-stroke is over and he needs to crawl over metaphoric broken glass.

Mr haha and I are going to a vodka bar tomorrow night. He checks in on OKC when he wakes up 'just to say hello' he seems to think vodka will peel away my cynicism. How much vodka is there!?

watch dear lord, absolutely cringing for the cinema queue. How much worse would it have been if you had fucked him and it was awful though?!

;-)

No. watch. Even if he is single he has treated you abysmally. 'Do my shopping for me, here's my credit card, oh, yeah, forgot to mention, you're personal shopping for me and my girlfriend

How. On. Earth. Did you find out he is single? Did he tell you?!

giesabosie - I know what you mean about mostly finding this thread more exciting the OD thing itself! And although I did manage a date I cancelled. Actually I didn't cancel, we hadn't confirmed exact location or time last night and this morning I deleted and blocked him. A little cowardly but hey ho. I have managed quite a few dates before this (tho not off POF) but no one of any interest since the summer. Sounds like you are doing in better in RL anyway!

watch is ykw the one who kept messaging you about his girlfriend? Don't go there - he sounds such bad news.

So the latest is that Southsider has viewed my profile and not responded. The engineer has responded, albeit very breifly! But i didn't give him much to go on. Will send another message and see if he redeems himself.

Kirsty think there are others on here way better at tweaking profiles than me so will leave it to the experts! Good luck tho.

I'm sorry, who was ykw again? These threads move so fast these days I'm losing track.

Still preferable to going online and sending polite responses to the scammers, asking for their credit card details though. That got boring fast

Ooh and snape good luck with Mr Haha!

Kirsty I can take a look from a blokes point of view, I can't promise anything apart from pointing out things that would make me though or possibly give fodder to the illiterati.

Secret I never give out my number until I have checked someone out. Depending on the circumstances I have only given my number just prior to or even after meeting for a date. Some of them really don't like this and if they don't accept it after I explain I take care of myself then it's off. As soon as I get wind of their full name Once I've met them I google them too.

Yay snape. Indeed. Not much different to the puppy, who, to the naked eye was lovely, but he took the piss. I just saw through it because i didnt love him.

There will be enough vodka. I suspect it may take less than you think :)

And yes, would have been worse if we had fucked and it had been rubbish. Small mercies :)

The temptation to go rescue ywk and bring him here is huge. Im not going to. But o want to....

Ta yoga... I'm going straight from work,so it's obviously allowable to wear my 'new' m&s Joan holloway type frock isn't it?! (I got it yesterday for a fiver, tried it on his morning and actually yelled 'FUCK ME!' at my reflection.)

I don't think I will fancy him at all, but 'happy' to get the ego stroke and a bunch of vodkas.

Yeah. I know. And he just told me. Which immediatley means its suspect. Though she has changed her fb pic...

In any case, id want him to spend some time alone... im not a rebound.

Ykw doesn't need rescued. Ykw needs a swift kick up the arse and a period of contemplation where he may but probably will not come to some sort of relevant understanding that he has been a shit.

I know it's difficult with 'these men' if voldie managed to extract his head from his arse long enough to compose a contrite text, I'd be cantering down the road, stopping only to slink out of my knickers at the traffic lights. But he won't. So I don't have to deal with that particular head fuck.

He doesn't deserve you. You know that. He truly, truly doesn't. You are contemplating a man who wanted something he couldn't have, found that infuriating and has shot-himself-in-the-cock because he's basically. An. Arse.

You have a new job and you are solid. You might want him, but you absolutely don't need him, so stay strong and kick his sorry wanky arse to the kerb.

snape as long as you don't actually yell FUCK ME once you've got a few vodkas in you

watch as hard as it is, can you just try and totally ignore him for a bit? Not even reply to his texts?

Well I've unhidden my profile again for the night but must remember to hide it again before I go to bed - it's such a time waster otherwise! I'm assuming those I have blocked still won't be able to contact me though, right?

Yep. He is an arse. I dont want or need him. I know that 100%

Lord knows where it comes from, somewhere deep inside that neither logic nor heart reach.

I wont act on it, ill chat to him, but can never be with him. That would be the worst decision of my life. ··even though i would elope with him in a second··

Does that help?

Does that?!

You know it's INSANE! I wouldn't even chat to him but it's easy for me to say that because voldie is radio-silence ATM

Evening all.
Chatting to someone on POF. Might have a coffee date soon. Just feel I need to get out there and do it, break the drought, even if its going nowhere...Haven't felt I could do it before now. Decree Absolute due any day now, ending 20 yrs, so a bit nervous...

Dog yeah, sounds like a twat. Sorry.

watch I'll share my M&Ms. Can I ask a question though? Back to the conversation we were having about self-esteem a while ago. You have great self-esteem. You ended two relationships you knew weren't right for you. You KNOW this guy isn't right either, you KNOW you don't need him....but there is still that pull. That's what I was talking about when I asked if emotions can sometimes make it harder for us to do what we know is right? I'm not saying you won't do the right thing, but it's not as easy as just saying fuck him, he's a wanker. Am I wrong?

Dog I found Match a waste of money too, think I said upthread. The only real knobs so far have been on there....I don't know about the profile you mention. Yes, he wants you to be attractive. You could argue he was just being upfront? You would hardly say you weren't though...