Onwards and upwards we go, still sniggering at the sausage seeing the roll Dating thread 26

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New one!

All dating related gumph here.

scatty - yeah, thats not really fwb is it, thats just the benefits, or free sex. bin him off.
yeah, the pirate was wet. I couldnt do with that, there would be no pushed up againist a wall fucking. ever. We were kissing and he kept saying he felt shy. he was 37 not 17. never going to work with me.....

Thanks watch.
1 & 3 - Well, I'd already messaged them so will see if they reply but will definitely keep my guard up
4 - messaged me several times last night (and this morning) but still saying very little about himself - Delete
5 - yeah, potato tho I might have given him a chance if he had been particularly witty or interesting to talk to - Delete

The thing is - if we mistrust the guys who are too good looking and discard the ones who aren't so hot, what does that leave us with?

Totally agree about fake profile from upthread but it's good to have it confirmed!

Re ZamiWami - He looks nice but just a few alarm bells. 1 - like you say, still seems to be getting to grips with being single, 2 - seems a bit defensive about the racial thing, 3 - his favourite TV shows are all cartoons

i dont think its about mistrusting the ones that are too good looking, because everyone has very different taste, whats good looking to me, might be ugly to you etc. I think if they are very posery pics or false!! and coupled with an arrogant profile or one waving big red flags, then its best to avoid them.

Its just a case of looking at both the pic AND the profile. If they potato had a great profile, witty etc, then yeah, great. But he doesnt.

The puppy wasnt so much of a looker, but his profile was fab. he communicated very well in text, its a shame he didnt do as well in person...

i agree with zami - which is why i cancelled. just checking im not being too harsh.

Libby, frustrating! How many times have you met, I cant remember?

Ok, last one, this is biker boy who I think I am meeting for coffee & cake later (still waiting for him to confirm). Physically he is so NOT my type - I told him he looks scary(!) - but I do like his profile and he's been really interesting to chat with. We messaged a few times my first time round on POF as well. Am I mad?

Biker

i would have said yes, based on the first part of his profile, then he goes off on a rant about womens looks and no, its just awful.
I wouldnt go, id run away screaming.

Who does he think he is to comment on others looks and pictures, when, he admits himself, that hes no looker?

not fair and quite awful.

and thats yes you are mad. lol
not yes, go for it.

Honestly yoga, you can do so much better, really you can.

Thank you watch - I really wasn't sure but felt that by saying no I was judging him too much on his looks. Feel better now about deleting & blocking. Except now everyone I was talking to last night is deleted. Sigh...

Going to try the link that didn't work above again (tempted mainly because he lives really near me!) Southsider

Come to think of it - he said some other odd things as well. He's a youth worker so sees a lot of troubled teens but likened tattoos to self-harming

See. Hes nuts!!!
You get good at listening to your instincts when online dating lol!
Remember you dont owe anyone a chance.

Now, he seems much better! Nice pic and no reg flags in his profile :) have a chat and go from there.

Ah so you could see the southsider this time - that's good! Well I've messaged him so will just have to see if he replies. Now my profile is hidden it will be much easier to browse without getting distracted by all the knobs. I feel so much better now that today's date isn't happening - quite happy just to take the dog for a walk and go to Tesco.

i agree, that is a very scary rant by the bald bloke..i'd not want to engage with him at all, he seems bitter and angry.
Thats him trying to present his best side and sell himself..he chooses to do it by attacking other people!

Yoga, first one, ok but maybe a bit arrogant.
Second one. Classic thing that gets on my tits about would date a woman considerably younger than him, but not the same age or older...That would irk me somewhat.

Yoga, your instinct was trying to tell you something if you have cancelled and now feel relieved. If you get the feeling that something isnt right then its ususally right.it doesnt make you a bad person for not wanting to date someone.
Ive had tons of dates where i didnt want to go, i only wish i had learnt to listen to myself sooner..... and that kind of ties in with the whole self esteem thing.

Yoga, Biker is scary, but not because of his looks. Very critical in profile and rather judgemental for a youth worker. Rightly blocked.

Southsider man looks fine, the only thing I would watch out for is lots of men describe themselves as Company Director which can cover up all sorts. Going for it?

Okay , I agree with Watch about the rant about women...barely disguised misogyny IMHO. Bet there's a story there. His mother was possibly the cause of many Ishoos...

Yoga, on your list.

No 1 - has a bit of an edge to him. Sounds a little bit up himself with his sports and that topless pic. Worth a go?
No 3 - looks and sounds lovely and genuine. Only issue is being recently separated (probably why he is still genuine), depends how recently and if he's over it. otoh he is gorgeous so maybe you should just cheer him up

Well Biker is gone, along with everyone else from yesterday. What I can see now, is that he was making me feel defensive before I'd even met him which is JUST. NOT. GOOD.

1, 2 & 3 have all been messaged but no replies as yet. So, my new OD strategy is this:

1. Run all profiles past the MN Dating Gurus (that's you lot)
2. Welcome suggested profiles from said Dating Gurus
3. If all fails, watch more David Tennant and eat M&Ms

Good morning all. Back out of lurking to ask a quick question. How soon is it wise to go from messaging thru site to direct texts etc.

Had a response, but within three hi, you interested type message has asked for phone number. Is that normal?

Good plan yoga :)

You know i wish i had done the same early on, would have saved me learning the hard way.

Option 3 sounds good in the meantime :)

Thank you watch I think you have saved me a lot of unnecessary stress & time wasting today.

As for option 3 - have something called The Decoy Bride lined up to watch tonight.

Secretserve I wouldn't exchange numbers that quickly. With the exception of Mr60 who I was in contact with for a long time before we were able to meet face to face, I never give them my number until we've actually arranged a date, and sometimes not even then.

Thanks Yoga. It didn't feel right, but wasnt sure if I was being overly defensive. I spose if I'm gounod to do this OD thing, will have to learn to do what I'm comfortable with, without worrying about what they think. Mantra: stop being a people pleaser!

Hey yoga if I was ready to do OD I'd probably message the first 3 myself :-) and see what they were like in person .. I just put dating when I did the search yesterday and it was full of neds in football tops .. Perhaps I should put looking for a relationship as they seem to be a better calibre??

Oh, not embarassing at all. In cinema with dd to see frankenweinee. Guess whos in the queue in front?
Bloody pirate and his drippy mates.
Awkward conversation followed.
And then again when we got stuck in another queue.
And then a third.
Urgh.

Urgh watch - hope film is worth it :)

Oh no watch! Awkward

Ha ha kirsty - hard to tell though isn't it? Just becasue they don't look like neds in football tops doesn't mean they will be any better! But I do think if you put dating you're more likely to get guys just looking for sex. Anyway, no replies yet. I've set my profile to hidden but if I've messaged them first they should be able to see me and reply, right?