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Onwards and upwards we go, still sniggering at the sausage seeing the roll Dating thread 26

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lubeybooby · 29/10/2012 21:41

New one!

All dating related gumph here.

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WarmFuzzyFun · 04/11/2012 07:50

Oh and hello to the lurker who messaged me. Smile I never get mails so that was a lovely surprise.

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lookslikeacoconut · 04/11/2012 09:01

Long-time lurker here, I've been on pof for a couple of months now and just had my first OD argument ... Got quite upset about it! (Needs to toughen up)
Exchanged a few emails with a guy, then dropped into conversation that I had young DD. had lied on profile cos wasn't comfortable with including that info.
Straightaway he got v prickly saying didnt I think I should've included it, I said no and that I didn't know people on there from Adam.
he shot back with 'deceitful. You don't have a pic up (I'd sent him my pic) you don't have a name on (I'd given him my name!) and you either have kids or you don't!
Escalated a little bit, with me saying i was a bit upset at him calling me deceitful, then he called me paranoid. Nice.

Bit pathetic, but I did get upset by it (hadn't had any tea by that point and WAS a bit hungry... :-)

It seems like people can be far more horrible when OD 'ing than they probably would in person.

Bit disillusioned with pof now, might wind it down then come the New Year get some pics up and pay for it (OD, not sex.)

watchoutforthatsnail · 04/11/2012 09:12

coconut :( sorry. Happens all the time, best thing to do is to ignore and hit the delete button. Also, sorry to tell you but paid sites really arent much better, if at all.

Yoga - knobber. The worst one i had was someone teling me i looked like a man. I do not look anything like a man. He was just a cock. Sorry about the surgeon too, thats exactly why i cant be arsed with it, it takes so much effort and more often than not they turn out to be wesels.

parlsey, you got a bit confused there! lol. Pirate was mine. i dumped him monday morning. Saw him sat night, and still not sex, i made all the moves, moved his hands onto my boobs etc... he kept saying he felt shy. Sunday i realised he wasnt for me if he had intimacy issues, but saw him sat night toom after sending some flirty texts. He came round and sat on the opposite sofa, made no moves and then when he left ( or rather i said he needed to leave) he said we hadnt done very well with our kissing. It was just ridiclous. Sent a few texts, turns out he feels friendship and an ember..... funnily enough he said when i first met him ( and i may have posted it) that he usually blows it by treating women as friends, which is essentially what he was doing. He asked if i would see him a few more times, but i said no and dumped him.

Snape - you have a date!! oh my god, bet you didnt think this time last week you would be having a date!!!! :) :) good, have a fab time.

raskolnikov · 04/11/2012 09:13

Morning everyone
I haven't been on here for ages but have lurked to see who's doing what (and who Wink).
Yoga good luck with the biker - reminds me of a guy I chatted to briefly a while ago, his biker-type photo put me off but the chat was lovely and I did keep thinking I shouldn't have discarded so quickly.
Anyway, I'm not OD now as am busy getting misty-eyed over a lovely, funny, ageing hippy who is so not my type, but I'm not listening to myself!

FateLovesTheFearless · 04/11/2012 09:14

Coconut - what a twat. It's up to you what you choose to tell people. Use the block button next time, not worth the energy Wink

Hi everyone else, not been on much over the last week too busy with college and the kids. I am going to the college tonight to find out more about climbing Mount Kilimanjaro for charity, a group of lads and I want to do it next August Smile

Going to try read back some 300 posts Grin

ParsleyTheLioness · 04/11/2012 09:14

Difficult one Coconut.... A lot of them don't seem to read the profile anyhow. I have on mine that I am a larger lady, they message me and it is clear from their profile they want a size 10. I feel obliged to do the checking for them, to avoid wasting my time. Sometimes when I point to THAT bit of my profile I never hear from them again. Nice!

ParsleyTheLioness · 04/11/2012 09:17

Also, on POF, i think you can not disclose, rather than say no...have seen a few weird questions fudged, which makes you wonder...

Yogagirl17 · 04/11/2012 09:25

Coconut just block - really not worth the upset! Personally I always put that I have kids on my profile cause if someone does have a problem with that I'm not even going to bother but that's still no excuse for someone who doesn't even know you to be horrible.

Ooh, snape has a date too? I missed that-is it the shaving guy? And when?

watch honestly not bothered about either the knob or the surgeon - my block list is getting longer. Was brave this morning and messaged a very cute engineer (no kids though..). Also, keep wondering about this guy, he's too good to be true, right? I mean his photos (except for the dog one which is very cute) look like they've been downloaded from some stockphoto site. Is he for real? Scammer? Player? Even if he's for real he's going to be totally in love with himself, isn't he?

Braveheart

FateLovesTheFearless · 04/11/2012 09:33

Yoga - there is something about that profile that's making me pull a face Hmm 'nice new girlfriend' 'idyllic sea location' no ties or baggage at 40.

watchoutforthatsnail · 04/11/2012 09:38

nope, that profile is dodgy as hell. avoid!! lol
not real pics either.

fate - sorry didnt reply to your pm, only just remembered it seeing your name on here, i was away all week and then have spent the last 2 days recovering. The climb sounds good, i know a few people who have done it :)

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FateLovesTheFearless · 04/11/2012 09:40

Don't worry about it watch, I know what it's like to be busy! Smile heard anything from pirate or is all quiet?

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watchoutforthatsnail · 04/11/2012 09:47

i text him thur night, hes got my dvd boxset of walking dead 1 and2. i had said monday morning for him to return them, and he hadnt.
So i text to see how he was getting on and to remind him to drop them back, we swapped a few texts, that was it. If they arent back by friday ill have to text again.

Then i just deleted and blocked one from friday who asked me out, but the one who has my number isnt taking it so well :(

ParsleyTheLioness · 04/11/2012 09:50

Yoga did you mention the good personal hygiene, nicely fragranced thing upthread or was that someone else looking at the same profile or cliche...

Yogagirl17 · 04/11/2012 09:55

thanks re dodgy profile - am sure you're right! Can I just post a bunch of profiles on here and get some feedback? Or is that not the done thing unless they're seemingly dodgy/wankers/scammer?

FateLovesTheFearless · 04/11/2012 10:00

Make sure you get that set back watch, £42 in hmv just now :/ I watched episode three last night but am slightly depressed there was no daryl in it, just his uglier brother Grin

watchoutforthatsnail · 04/11/2012 10:02

Oh, i will do. Even if i have to go round for it !!!
Yeah, i like daryl too :)

Go for it yoga

Yogagirl17 · 04/11/2012 10:15

Ok, thoughts please, total honesty appreciated!

3 I haven't had messages from yet but I've messaged the first two:

Engineer
Southsider
JohnS

And 2 of the guys who were messaging me last night (not the biker tho):

EmptyProfile
FixerUpper

lubeybooby · 04/11/2012 10:21

Hahaa that profile is probably Mr Angry twat in disguise. It's all just set up to look like what some idiot thinks women want. Calls himself intelligent yet makes a lot of mistakes... he is at least mostly literate though I suppose. 0/10 from me Hmm

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lubeybooby · 04/11/2012 10:21

oops cross posted with yoga - am referring to the fakey profile upthread!

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Scattylatte · 04/11/2012 10:26

Morning all

Pirate seems wet. Jeeze he wanted to hang around waiting for his ember to start...Ffs.

Yoga....alarm bells in his list of requirements, no rough diamonds etc. he wants a trophy. Also he will be judging your class...ugh. And the 'reasonable intelligence' is a serious warning IMO.

Does anyone else find Okc odd in that men answer the most private questions publicly. Like how many times a week do you masturbate?

I had a fwb there for a while but he is ignoring me now. He would text me to meet up and I would but if I asked him he would ignore me. Plus I asked if he could help me do something next weekend and he has said no, he doesn't want to. Again, no friends...no benefits.

watchoutforthatsnail · 04/11/2012 10:27

yoga
just my opion

  1. i dont know, seems slimey to me

  2. wont open

  3. hello!!! very good looking, BUT - profile not so subletly hints at being very hurt and not trusting women, so for that reason id give it a wide birth

  4. is empty, which is usually indictive of it being used to fish for casual sex, usually by a married man. They cant be arse filling it in properly, because thats too much effort, they just message women and hope they get some replies, and try and woo them with flattery....

  5. no, just no. hes a potato. His profile is grim, and the bit about men like being chased - urgh. I hate anything negative on profiles, it normally shows people have big issues. You can do lots better.

AndLibbyMakesThree · 04/11/2012 10:28

Grrrr, no contact from Mr Coffee. I've sent him a nice e-mail, so I'll leave things in his hands now. I kept dreaming about what we'd do if we had another date last night - and it didn't involve drinking coffee Wink

watchoutforthatsnail · 04/11/2012 10:29

www.okcupid.com/profile/ZamiWami

this is the one who i was going to see who bombarded me with texts. We did seem to click online, BUT, hes only 4 months out of a marriage.... so i see this as a no go really. Can someone have a look and just double check for me?