Onwards and upwards we go, still sniggering at the sausage seeing the roll Dating thread 26

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New one!

All dating related gumph here.

Worley - the ex is hot but looks like he knows it!

And WTF is it with men posting pictures of themselves in/on cars or bikes? Or worse yet - just the car or bike on its own.

The surgeon seems annoyed that I don't want to chat (IM) but says he will 'play along' and then when I didn't answer his message for 20 minutes said 'I did think my questions were that difficult' finger hovering over block...

Yoga, poor you! What an awful message to receive, I hope it didn't upset you. What a nob head he is.

I'm back from my date, it was ok. He's quite shy and I had to work hard at times to keep the conversation going, but I think he's got a little spark in him if he can just get over his shyness. But he is very, very short - I'm not sure if this is a deal breaker for me or not.

have you ever recognised anyone
I've seen a couple of blokes on dating sites that I knew or knew of.
A bloke that I had a thing with for a while (after connecting online) said he'd previously spoken to me in the gym but I dont remember it.

How short Pixie?

men posting pictures of themselves in/on cars or bikes
they think it's exchange & mart :o

or it's just a metaphor for a cock shot :o

Pixie - no i'm really not upset! Although I think i'd rather talk to you lot. I can't see keeping my profile up longer than the weekend. I have to admit I'm a bit ruthless - if a first date was just 'ok' and hard work I wouldn't bother with date no 2. But that's just me.

Scatty - no up to 8 but a couple of them I'm just humouring myself with because I put half a quote in my profile and challenged anyone to know the end without googling. So anyone who thinks they know it (so far they are all wrong) at least gets a reply.

Mercury I wish I was more like that. My inbuilt reservation side kicks in at a moments notice and and the thought of me fancying someone and them not fancying me or vies versa makes me feel a bit queasy. Plus I can't really accommodate.
Plus I'm hopeless in asking for what I want.

"it's just a metaphor for a cock shot" LOL mercury! There's one guy who just messaged me and I'm not interested but might ask him why all the car pics (3 in all of 3 different vehicles) before I delete & block. His message was quite nice actually but could easily have been a cut and paste job.

Scatty I also tend to be quite reserved with people I dont know...so I go for men who seem relaxed and confident and who I feel will be able to get me through my initial reserve.
Any hint that he's a bit shy and awkward and I'll just leave it.
I find it's a bit like taking a swim in cold water, I'm fine once I'm in, it's just taking the initial plunge..some courage is required:o

Urgh surgeon is definitely going to have to get blocked. Earlier he asked if we could IM or talk on the phone and I said I would rather exchange some messages first. He said he would 'play along'. Then just now he asked again if we could talk on the phone and I said it was really late but maybe tomorrow. He replied "tomorrow's rarely happen - here is my number, why don't you phone me now, just for 5 minutes?" Clearly likes getting his own way. Shame, he looked quite nice in his scrubs but nevermind.

Also just got a message from someone I remember chatting to my first time around on POF. He was actually quite nice and smart and funny but looks like a big scary biker type. Told him at the time he seemed a great guy and it was probably my loss but I didn't think he was my type. He's just messaged me and said "so am I still not your type". Hmm, something to think about.

Oh yoga I know so many big hairy biker types in your neck of the woods who are genuine, lovely, honest blokes. & a fair amount of tossers right enough... I think you should step outside of your periphery! :-)

Mercury. Do you think theres much difference between pof and the adult sex type sites? Personally I think pof men are those who don't have the balls to be upfront and go on a sex site and instead hide behind profiles.

snape this one is a big bald biker type but if memory serves (don't want to log back on right now to check) he's a youth worker and seems genuinely lovely. May consider stepping outside my comfort zone - which is definitely more surgeon and less biker but seeing as the surgeon has already proved to be an arse.... Going to sleep on it anyway.

Actually, wondering if the surgeon's attitude goes back to a discussion we were having upthread about cultural differences. I believe he grew up in England but his family is from the Middle East - could he be used to women doing as he says? Or is just an arse and I'm making assumptions?

I've had a POF profile but never really got on with the site..I spose if you're not looking for a relationship a 'hook up' site is more honest..even then I make it clear I'm not looking something that could potentially be an ongoing arrangement rather that for one off encounters.

(not that I think there's anything wrong with one off encounters if that's what someone prefers:) )

oops
I AM looking for something that could potentially be an ongoing arrangement

and men with fish!

Yoga the surgeon is most likely an arrogant surgeon arse, nothing to do with being from the Middle East. I have known several surgeons in RL, total nightmares, philanderers, self obsessed. Otoh I have known men from the middle east and they have treated me with the utmost care and respect. The middle east has a lot of cultures and I think it is easy to assume the worst as it's the worst excesses we tend to hear about.

You're right faintheart, think he's just an arse. Have set my profile to hidden now so i can browse without being accosted by morons! Should really go to bed but I have NOTHING to do tomorrow so am determined to stay up late and watch crappy movies.

Yes what is that thing where they are holding a fish

I'm thinking fish is just another metaphorical representation of his penis :o

But who'd want a fish for a dick??

well it's a phallic symbol..innit
the picture is a parapraxis (freudian slip)

Well it now seems I have something to do tomorrow after all. Went back on POF to have a sneaky peak at biker boys profile thinking he would be asleep and we ended up chatting for the last hour and now I have agreed to meet him for coffee tomorrow! Um...today. Shit. Going to bed now. Shit. He looks like a bouncer. but he definitely doesn't talk like one. shit.

yoga If hes a surgeon (I take it a medical surgeon - he's not a tree surgeon is he!) then he must be a consultant ? and from my experience by the time they've worked up to that level they do become arses no matter where they're from. there's a few good ones but they're the minority. most have got the god complex.

and thankyou to the lurker who sent me the PM. was a lovely thing to do :)
right off to work now but am thinking about signing up tonight for an hour maybe...

Morning, how is everyone?

Film was and , and left me feeling bleak...

Came home and chatted on Sype with old hook up who is a lovely chap which cheered me up.

BTW at the moment I am not OD, just enjoying my current stable of arrangements.

I don't think I am in the right place emotionally to concern myself with more than fun (sex) and being flattered by empty compliments!