Onwards and upwards we go, still sniggering at the sausage seeing the roll Dating thread 26

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sponge Oh dear. That smacks of teenager behaviour to me. Must admit, my last ex and I got down to sexting very early on (at her instigation) but I never asked her to do that. If she had volunteered it, that's different. Or much later on, yes. But horses for courses. I certainly think this early on, it's a bit sleazy.

watch I hear you. This will be my third Xmas on my own since split with the ex. Only had two dates in all that time despite trying POF, OKC, younameitdotcom. I shall see my parents on the day itself, come home to my flat in the evening and probably see no one for several days, as all my friends are either coupled or have big family things going on. It sucks.

ah, sponge, ffs. one date, and hes asking for naked pics. im fucking angry on your behalf. what the fuck is wrong with these men. this is not how relationships go. I dont know ANYONE whos got together with somone in RL who has had to go through this shit. I just dont. it doesnt happen.
fuck him off. you are worth more than that.
dickhead wankbadger fuckface.

where the fuck do they get off.

pie - gah. i know. :( i think that too. i dont really understand. Im nice. ive been with new people all week, made a ton of friends, helped, been caring, comforted people when they have cried, laughed till ive nearly wee'ed. im bloody nice, people have been saying all week how lovely i am. why the fuck cant any ( suitable) man see that?

and yes, ive ended both relationships, because i know they werent right, and i could be sitting here going through the motions with either of them. but fuck that. im worth more. i am. i hope.

I'm really sad.

I don't mind him asking, its the fact he's ignored me since I said no that's worse in my eyes.

this will be my 4th..... its not that i dont have a nice time. and im lucky that i can spend it with family... its just, well. every one else is in couples and then its just me. and when dd goes off to her dads, i come home to an empty house.

nevermind. im might just work boxing day etc instead.

a girl ( new colleague) was crying in the locked room yesterday. She was doing a phd but gave it up as she didnt want to do it. Her parents are berating her for what shes now doing, she cant believe what shes now doing. she was saying ' but how did this happen to me'
i told her that life happens, and we just deal with it the best we can at the time. My fall from grace has been pretty spectuclar and what im doing now, and where i now am, is so so so far away from the direction it was heading, and from what i imagined, but you do what you can. and thats ok. and then i chatted to her about this kind of stuff for about 20 mins..
she gave me a big hug and then thanked me again later.

and i sort of believe what i told her. apart from the day before i started this job, i was doing exactly the same as she was.....

because its shite.
life throws some mother fucking curve balls sometimes.....

it is sad sponge.

true colours shown.

there isnt any way you can paint it as anything else.

:(
sorry. i feel both sad and angry for you.

Oh sponge that's a bit crappy. I hope he at least replies and apologises.

And watch yes you are indeed worth more than having an xmas just going through the motions with someone who doesn't make the grade or doesn't make you truly happy. Well done for sticking to standards and not accepting shite for the sake of it.

sponge I don't think you are being 'Princessy' either. I would be very affronted by that request and would bin him immediately. In a few weeks time, after you have been a bit more 'intimate', perhaps but not after a first date! I'm feeling angry for you! Fuckwit! Sorry. There's still the policeman???? x

Watch We are nice, we are caring and we are lovely!! (Well, sometimes it makes me think I'm none of these things!) I ask myself whether I should just fucking give up completely and get 50 cats!!

When we were slighly drunkenly snogging post date he said he wanted to kiss me all over. I said he'd have to wait til at least date 5 for that.

He said he'd wait until I was ready and didn't care if it was 100 dates it would be worth him waiting for.

And then he does this :(

Oh, and I know the 'empty house' bit too watch x x 100 todayl

pie - i know. i wonder what the fuck men expect? i mean, are they just looking for the impossible? nothing based in reality? are they expecting lithe, blonde, 20 year olds? ready to send naked pics at the drop of a hat? or is that just the ones online?

and yes, while i did the right thing dumping the last two, fucks sake. now on my own... feels a bit like cutting my nose off to spite my face.

sponge- you know what? id send him a text asking him if he meant to be quite so sleezy.....and then dump.

sponge- thats because hes a lying fuck.

i feel all stabby.
very very very angry at dickhead men.

Sponge, I was about to post to say how happy I was about your dates in the last couple of days. But now I've read your update this morning, and I feel (like Watch does) quite angry. I'm probably a bit of a prude to be honest, but it would really upset me if someone asked for something like that after one date. I really hope he texts you back with a suitable apology, but it does seem like he's shown his true colours and he's not quite the person he appeared to be. Personally, as EiePie says, I'd probably bin him. I'm sorry.

urgh - pof message just come in
'hai ur sure prity aint ya'

fuck sake.

from a tracksuit wearing, gelled hair, dupstep loving ' dj' whos 22.

you couldnt make it up if you tried.

Can I just say, as a man, that shitheads like Cuthbert Cholmondley-Wanker and their ilk that seem to make up 80% of the OD population really:
a) piss me off and make me ashamed to be a decent bloke
b) make it much harder for us decent blokes to be noticed

sponge please bin him. Immediately. You can do much better than that.

Sponge it's a stage. If you believe in cosmic ordering and that sort of thing, you have to openly demonstrate that this is not what you want. And that is precisely what you did. Job done, move on.
Don't believe me? You'll see. You've moved on from the thick builders and neanderthals, you've adjusted your antennae. You won't find him first time, but he's there.
Maybe this is the right time to tell you that Mr non-subscriber from GSM has now subscribed and is "intrigued" - shall I send your email address?

Hmmm. he might apologise yet - if he isn't all that great at texting a lot it might be a little while showing up but I reckon he will. Well if he has any decency he will anyway. And after one date I'd forgive if he apologised nicely. Any more of that rubbish though and he's be a goner. It's not a great sign but I would give one chance IF and only IF he apologised very nicely.

pie - you dont sound ok today... :( kids with their dad? if i wasnt so fucked from my last few days away id suggest a coffee. HOWEVER, if you can bear the suspense :) im free week after next... :)

sponge you really should bin him. hes a fuckface. who the hell does he think he is. why does he think so little of you, that you are his personal porn after 1 date.....

Morning all.

Safrican slept on the sofa bed. I was a perfect gentleman. She pounced on me, of course, because I am, after all, awesome. But we didn't DTD, partly because I fell asleep

She really is quite attractive, and obviously very into me, and her enthusiasm for life is kind of nice, but it's the manic giggling that puts me off. I haven't seen the nurse in a week, and won't see her for another week, and funny texts are nice but trying to coordinate free time is just so complicated.

Sponge sorry mate, he sounded really nice. I'd love to be offered naked pics from a girl I'd dated personally, but wouldn't dream about asking for them until we'd actually seen each other naked. A bit crass, really, isn't it?

Still, there's the policeman.

I totally understand about the Xmas thing too. Last year I swore that things would be different this Xmas, and I started the year all enthusiastic about internet dating. 10 months later and not so much as a snog ... looks like another Christmas alone for me this year.

So Bantam will you be seeing Safrican again?

Sorry, not ignoring the thread, but I'm at work and will catch up later.

Please could you all cross your fingers/send vibes/do whatever woo stuff you can for my (hopefully) lovely man? He's had to go down to London today suddenly for something that is very very important and very very scary. Sorry to be so mysterious.

I'm quite worried about him as I know how hard this is going to be for him. He has been incommunicado last night and this morning too - not great but I guess that's how some people respond to stress.

batam you fell asleep?! lol

sponge - have you still not heard after his dodgy text. I don't know how I would take that. I would be a bit :( that he'd asked but a little :) that he wanted to see. but I wouldn't do that for a long time till it was an actual relationship and you trust him.
tell him patience is a virtue. men...

sponge. Send him a pic of a cock with 'that's you, that is' as the text.

I'm so sorry.

watch. You know that there's an element of wading through the dross. I know it's disheartening and I know it gets tedious always, always being alone. But you're great. :). You know that. If it happens, it happens, if it doesn't, then it doesn't. Keep your standards. :)

I honestly blame porn for this. People get a bit addicted, they can't process that what they see on a screen isn't a true representation of people on real life.

I'm ok, thanks. :) went for quick birthday drinks last night wearing shorter than usual skirt. As a feminist I am absolutely opposed to catcalls and being hooted at...but I got hooted at 'hello beautiful!' on my way to the station and it felt bloody good. all my lovely girl chums I hadn't seen in ages decided that my new nickname is 'skinny' and I had a nice time. Had a fleeting idea that I would buzz by voldemorts on my way back to have 'the chat', but stomped on that because while I have stated my case by long-winded email and had a text response of sorry, that was a week ago and there's been nothing since. He has fallen considerably in my estimation and if he wants to be friends, then I feel he has to do the running. I do miss him, but I refuse to apologise further for what I still see as brave and lovely.

I'm off work today, have some chores to run, but am going to purge my wardrobe of the pashmina he gave me everything that is too big & all the 3/4 length saggy shorts that I wore when he was around.

It's not quite brilliant yet, but it damn well will be.

Oh Watch and Pie I know the feeling. I have spent many, many Christmases on my own wondering how the fuck everyone else manages it and what is wrong with me. All those feelings are far better than being miserable in a relationship, IMHO. Have done that too, and Christmas is fucking torture. Esp when you're so-called partner treats you like shit in front of his kids.

Never forget we chose to do the dating thing. It wasn't inflicted upon us, and to that end we have to accept that by going out in the world we are gonna meet some characters that depress us, piss us off and make us feel "less than". And we don't know they'll be like that (well unless they send illiterate pish as messages) until we've taken the brave step of sticking our heads above the parapet. So it's no reflection on us, but it DOES mean a fuck a lot when we can go "Yuck - that is beneath me" because believe me, there are plenty of poor souls that would think these types are a "catch".