Onwards and upwards we go, still sniggering at the sausage seeing the roll Dating thread 26

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New one!

All dating related gumph here.

western. This always cheers me up. But then I have a weird sense of humour

missing missy

hatesponge, I am thrilled for you.

You go girl![hgrin] Yay!

Okay we have 4 votes for Nurse, none for Safrican I think, and some awws for SurreyGirl.

Safrican may grow on me tomorrow night. No jokes please.

Oooh X-post!

now I'm wondering if we're going to get an update from Sponge if we stay up late....

Sponge... ?

Oooh, I may have to sit up late to find out how sponge got on...I'll need some more and

delurks again

On OD, how do you deal with people you know IRL/think you know? I've come across a few, but declined to do anything online as it feels oddly outing and like it might be awkward when/if I bumped into them in the flesh (which would be through work situations). None of them I know well so it's not like I can flirt IRL and feign ignorance, but I would be interested OYSWIM.

sponge! sponge!! sponge!!! sponge!!!!

Just caught up with everything...you all seem so confident...I seem to go from confident to anxious all the time,OD feels so..disconnected..somehow. I think it's because ,a someone said on the previous thread,it is best to assume that most people are making stuff up/talking bs until proved otherwise...

I had a tx from CID man on Monday asking when I was free,to which I replied with a couple of possibilities,since when I have heard nothing at all.I am cynical and realise he is obviously a player..but feel a bit stung nevertheless,as I was taken in to some extent..I hate the anxiety and exposure feeling of this..does anyone else experience it?
The teacher who I was talking to on Saturday,who deleted on Sunday,reinstated his profile on Monday and messaged straight away to say he hadn't realised he'd deleted..is that possible?...anyway,we have messaged some more and have a date planned for a week Friday.Much could happen before then.
Although I have no other prospects as yet.

hi rightnow. It all comes in ups and downs. I was fairly negative a couple of weeks ago when someone nice I'd had a second date with just disappeared with no response, no explanation, after saying she was really looking forward to date #3.

But I kept plugging away and got some more dates lined up, maybe they'll work out, maybe they won't. I know what I want from someone, and I'll get there eventually. Until then I'll chat to some people who are interesting, some less so, I'll try not to hurt anyone and try and avoid getting hurt myself.

And look at it this way - the anxiousness you feel some of the time is just the downside of the elation you feel when you meet someone right. You're just on that part of the curve. Without the downside, the upside isn't so good. If you were 'meh' about the whole thing it wouldn't be worth doing.

what's CID by the way? Don't know that one

Date number 2 went as well as date number 1. I had a great time but was hoping we'd have a sponge update by now.

OD means that you need to develop a thick skin. It is not personal, keep going eventually the person (personality, values, and that all important sexual chemistry ), proximity, and timing will all line up and bingo, it is on!

I say develop a thick skin but I have my moments when disappointment hurts... no one is exempt.

CID - he is a policeman. Thanks bantam and Warm. In RL I have a pretty rational thick skin,but I think the elusiveness of OD makes it more challenging. It is the disappearing thing that makes it difficult,far better for someone to say thanks but no,rather than play along with positive gestures,then silence ,I think.
i think I have to work on the balance between being open enough to enjoy things and be open to experiences,but remain objective and open to the possibility of ,well,dishonesty,I think is how I see it.

If I decided not to continue to message,I would let the person know,even if it was a kind lie! After a date or several,I wouldn't dream of being so rude as to disappear without a thank you!

ah that was my first thought when I saw CID, but I wasn't sure if it was a dating site. Cute Indian Dating, or Chronic Impotence Dating (not sure how popular that would be..) All this OKC, GS, POF etc etc had me thinking up acronyms.

I think your twunt radar can get better with practice, but you've still got to have a thick skin.

and yes, I think the etiquette is - or should be - canceling an arranged first date needs to be done by text or mail rather than stand someone up. After a first date a simple text (no chemistry or whatever) - after a couple of dates then a text or email or voicemail. After nakedness it's really got to be over the phone. And you can't use 'no chemistry' as that excuse.

But not everyone would follow etiquette anyway. There really should be a guidebook.

This thread is a sort of guide book! An etiquette manifesto would be good on here,but you are right,many would ignore it anyway! Lovely people here...lots of people who are less so out there!

We need a MN OD site..with vetting via nestofvipers.com before profile approval!

Sponge, I'm still up. Spill!

I have just got home having spent the last 2 hours snogging in various shop doorways.

He said not only is it the best first date he's had, its the best date he's ever had full stop. I hope he meant it cos I feel pretty much the same.

Sponge - eek! I am [hgrin] for you.

Ooooh Sponge it's awesome when that happens!

Just spent the last couple of hours catching up. Work has been busy with holiday cover etc.

Sponge :o:o:o good luck!

Worley, thank you for mistaking me for Bantam, that's flattering. :)

Snape, sorry about Voldemort, you are clearly too remarkable for him.

Everyone else, good luck!